DH and I are so on the fence here so we need some random strangers on the internets opinions please 😅 we have to DD (nearly 3 and 12 weeks old) and we have an opportunity to move to Australia. I have family in Melbourne and have been a few times and known from a young age I’d love to travel round or experience living there. DH has never been but has always wanted to visit and would be happy to move and try it if that’s what we decide. His job is on the skilled occupation list but until we go further with the migration agent we’ve chatted to we won’t know what are of Australia we could potentially move to but we don’t really mind either way.
Our issue here is that we just can’t get over the guilt of leaving our families here. Mine and DH parents are here and my sister and her DD. We see the grandparents every few weeks and our daughter loves her cousin. We just have never felt settled in the UK and know we would love the Aussie way of life. Plus with everything just going downhill in the UK it’s not getting much better and we aren’t bothered about staying, it would only be for family. But that’s a big thing! Financially we only really have this big move in us or buy a house here. Also need to add that the last time my mum went to visit her sister in Oz she said it would maybe be one of the last times she could do the trip with how long and gruelling it can be. My dad would probably not be able to do it and my DHs dad would defiantly not as he’s not very well so it would be down to us to come see them and it’s so expensive so we would hardly see them I think! I’m just so torn! What would you guys do?
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Unsure05 · 30/05/2023 09:56
Savvy25 · 30/05/2023 10:13
As an aussie, things are going downhill in Australia too. Cost of living, interest rates, groceries etc.. I think without much family support over here, the grass will not be greener. Especially once kids in school and aging family back in UK.
HoppingPavlova · 05/06/2023 07:03
I am not your "mate"
There is always one in every circus. Generally, exactly the same type that goes off their tree when you say ‘no worries’, which to us means about 10 different things and we know exactly which depending on the context of the situation, but they don’t have that inherent understanding and will screech ‘but there is a problem/don’t tell me no worries’ etc.
CallItLoneliness · 07/06/2023 11:19
@HoppingPavlova I am well aware of the culture, but saying "you're stupid, mate" would not be well received by anyone Aussie or Kiwi that I know, and "I'm not your mate" would be a pretty normal response. Perhaps you don't know the culture as well as you think you do? Also, I would point out that there is a fair bit of ableism in your response, too. I was going to leave it, but since you've doubled down on how much of a pain in the arse people who don't understand subtext are, it seems necessary to point it out.
@HomeB this is a really common trope on "should I move to Australia?" threads. "Australia is remote" is a racist dogwhistle for "no culture outside Europe". It's also pretty bloody London-centric. With travel related friction, Glasgow is 5+ hours from most of Europe (and has well over a million inhabitants). Aberdeen is even further. I've not heard anyone claim Glasgow is remote though, nor Aberdeen when folks are talking about moving there.
Codlingmoths · 07/06/2023 13:34
People do say there’s no culture outside Europe actually 😂
CallItLoneliness · 08/06/2023 08:18
@HoppingPavlova you're not Kiwi. You're also not 'every Australian'. Maybe in your experience 'I'm not your mate' isn't common. In mine it is, especially in contexts where 'get fucked' is inappropriate. I find it super odd that you are so invested in shaming me (not working BTW) for a reaction you personally don't like though. Why is that?
Unsure05 · 08/06/2023 08:23
Hello! I appreciate all the advice on this post! But can we not use it for arguing now please my inbox isn’t loving it 😅 thanks
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Unsure05 · 08/06/2023 08:23
Hello! I appreciate all the advice on this post! But can we not use it for arguing now please my inbox isn’t loving it 😅 thanks
bumpercarbarry · 09/06/2023 18:03
😂😂😂
So are you moving or not? 🤣
Unsure05 · 08/06/2023 08:23
Hello! I appreciate all the advice on this post! But can we not use it for arguing now please my inbox isn’t loving it 😅 thanks
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