DH and I are so on the fence here so we need some random strangers on the internets opinions please 😅 we have to DD (nearly 3 and 12 weeks old) and we have an opportunity to move to Australia. I have family in Melbourne and have been a few times and known from a young age I’d love to travel round or experience living there. DH has never been but has always wanted to visit and would be happy to move and try it if that’s what we decide. His job is on the skilled occupation list but until we go further with the migration agent we’ve chatted to we won’t know what are of Australia we could potentially move to but we don’t really mind either way.
Our issue here is that we just can’t get over the guilt of leaving our families here. Mine and DH parents are here and my sister and her DD. We see the grandparents every few weeks and our daughter loves her cousin. We just have never felt settled in the UK and know we would love the Aussie way of life. Plus with everything just going downhill in the UK it’s not getting much better and we aren’t bothered about staying, it would only be for family. But that’s a big thing! Financially we only really have this big move in us or buy a house here. Also need to add that the last time my mum went to visit her sister in Oz she said it would maybe be one of the last times she could do the trip with how long and gruelling it can be. My dad would probably not be able to do it and my DHs dad would defiantly not as he’s not very well so it would be down to us to come see them and it’s so expensive so we would hardly see them I think! I’m just so torn! What would you guys do?
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Unsure05 · 30/05/2023 09:56
Tourmalines · 29/06/2023 07:53
True , I’ve lived in Melbourne many many years , it’s multi cultural and I’ve never come across all this so called racism, swearing, or whatever else . What ever there may be, would be the same anyway where else in the world no doubt .
Ozgirl75 · 29/06/2023 06:46
It’s interesting you say that @Made4Sunshine - we’ve just moved from Aus to the U.K. and both my sons have commented how everyone swears so much more over here (at school) and uses things like “that’s gay” as an insult which would
never be done in their old school. My older son has also said how unaccepting people have been towards him, he’s found it really hard to make friends whereas he said at his old school people always welcomed new people. Possibly because in a city there are new people arriving all the time.
It probably depends where you live - we came from a nice part of Sydney where no one would use racial slurs as it was a very multicultural area.
Anyway, my point is, there isn’t a “vibe” that can be applied to a whole country.
Ozgirl75 · 29/06/2023 06:46
It’s interesting you say that @Made4Sunshine - we’ve just moved from Aus to the U.K. and both my sons have commented how everyone swears so much more over here (at school) and uses things like “that’s gay” as an insult which would
never be done in their old school. My older son has also said how unaccepting people have been towards him, he’s found it really hard to make friends whereas he said at his old school people always welcomed new people. Possibly because in a city there are new people arriving all the time.
It probably depends where you live - we came from a nice part of Sydney where no one would use racial slurs as it was a very multicultural area.
Anyway, my point is, there isn’t a “vibe” that can be applied to a whole country.
OrderOfTheKookaburra · 11/06/2023 08:07
And the timing of long holidays is crap. The long summer school holiday falls in the other country's winter. Bleugh.... I got so fed up with 3 winters in a row, losing my summer holiday to travel to see family in their winter.
OrderOfTheKookaburra · 11/06/2023 01:55
OMG yes, the complacency of thinking you can fly back whenever you want died with Covid. I was so grateful to be in the same country as my family as we had returned about 6 months before covid.
Even being in a different state I was lucky with timings because we had our second lockdown in Melbourne a week after my father's funeral. I was so lucky to be able to see him before he died and to be there for the funeral. Even without COVID I doubt I would have made it back in time to say goodbye to him before he passed away. Since then I thought "screw it" and have moved back to be closer to my mum, to make the most of her time left (she has a chronic illness) and to give my DSs some memories with her.
Don't underestimate the importance of that. After nearly 2 decades in the UK I am glad to be back in Australia and living near my family.
bumpercarbarry · 09/06/2023 18:03
😂😂😂
So are you moving or not? 🤣
Unsure05 · 08/06/2023 08:23
Hello! I appreciate all the advice on this post! But can we not use it for arguing now please my inbox isn’t loving it 😅 thanks
Unsure05 · 08/06/2023 08:23
Hello! I appreciate all the advice on this post! But can we not use it for arguing now please my inbox isn’t loving it 😅 thanks
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Unsure05 · 08/06/2023 08:23
Hello! I appreciate all the advice on this post! But can we not use it for arguing now please my inbox isn’t loving it 😅 thanks
CallItLoneliness · 08/06/2023 08:18
@HoppingPavlova you're not Kiwi. You're also not 'every Australian'. Maybe in your experience 'I'm not your mate' isn't common. In mine it is, especially in contexts where 'get fucked' is inappropriate. I find it super odd that you are so invested in shaming me (not working BTW) for a reaction you personally don't like though. Why is that?
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