DH and I are so on the fence here so we need some random strangers on the internets opinions please 😅 we have to DD (nearly 3 and 12 weeks old) and we have an opportunity to move to Australia. I have family in Melbourne and have been a few times and known from a young age I’d love to travel round or experience living there. DH has never been but has always wanted to visit and would be happy to move and try it if that’s what we decide. His job is on the skilled occupation list but until we go further with the migration agent we’ve chatted to we won’t know what are of Australia we could potentially move to but we don’t really mind either way.
Our issue here is that we just can’t get over the guilt of leaving our families here. Mine and DH parents are here and my sister and her DD. We see the grandparents every few weeks and our daughter loves her cousin. We just have never felt settled in the UK and know we would love the Aussie way of life. Plus with everything just going downhill in the UK it’s not getting much better and we aren’t bothered about staying, it would only be for family. But that’s a big thing! Financially we only really have this big move in us or buy a house here. Also need to add that the last time my mum went to visit her sister in Oz she said it would maybe be one of the last times she could do the trip with how long and gruelling it can be. My dad would probably not be able to do it and my DHs dad would defiantly not as he’s not very well so it would be down to us to come see them and it’s so expensive so we would hardly see them I think! I’m just so torn! What would you guys do?
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Unsure05 · 30/05/2023 09:56
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Aslanplustwo · 04/06/2023 04:43
I keep reading things like this. Is the UK not going to be affected by climate change then? What a lucky little part of the world it must be.
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Aslanplustwo · 04/06/2023 04:43
I keep reading things like this. Is the UK not going to be affected by climate change then? What a lucky little part of the world it must be.
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Seasonofthewitch83 · 30/05/2023 11:42
This is something DH and I think about a lot. DH is originally from Sydney and whilst he loves and misses his family, he doesn't talk to them a lot - I have to remind him about doing a video call etc. Whereas I talk to my family all day every day, and even though we are scattered a bit over the country now, we are only a few hours away from each other and see each other often.
We love NSW, love the culture, the people, the beaches and mountains, the humor. But I worry that we would be limiting DDs opportunities, it seems many young are off to Europe like a shot.
Its also weird to have no historical connection to a country's culture. You dont know who their celebrities are, the tv shows, the famous faces. Without realising it in the UK, you have grown up being shaped by certain faces, events, tv. Its hard for all of that to feel alien.
HomeB · 04/06/2023 07:14
"This, BTW, is bullshit: you don’t get the fun of going to a new country with different food, history, buildings etc unless you’re prepared to travel a LONG way. unless you don't think of New Zealand as having a unique culture, or New Caledonia, or (if you live in Perth) Singapore. It is further than France, for sure, but so is your nearest major city in Australia. The distances here are BIG."
Says it's bullshit before going on to explain how it's not 🤣. Anyone who is going to argue that Australia is not isolated compared to the UK can probably be ignored OP.
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HomeB · 04/06/2023 15:24
"Yet another failure to understand the local geography. Darwin is a long way from where I am but New Caledonia is close. Indonesia is close to Darwin. So is Singapore. Stop trying to hide the racism that says only European culture is "culture"."
Don't be so stupid and offensive. I've been to all of those places. I'm amused by you because you said those places are close then in the next breath said "the distances are BIG".
Darwin is a 5 hour flight from Singapore. I know because I've fucking done it. From the UK I can be a good way into Africa on a flight that length, practically in Canada and all over Europe. It's not racism and my geography is fucking top notch. Yours seems sketchy Nate
Unsure05 · 30/05/2023 10:29
Thanks guys I feel like I know just how much we would love the life over there but the family pull would really hurt. Just don’t want to regret not making the move either as the UK is just getting harder to live in in our opinion it’s so hard
Lateliein · 04/06/2023 09:34
My pp is based on experience of working in oz for a year in my 20s. I was shocked at the unabashed prejudice towards Aborigines or "bloody Abbos" when I worked in a bar.
Diversity, inclusion, progression, representation... Not a priority. Not a place I'd want my kids to grow up in.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-63699881.amp
marapournumber4 · 05/06/2023 07:21
Stan Grant has had high profile jobs on TV for decades. He should be the last one to call racism. He was just terribly bad at his last job ( Q and A) and should never have been appointed as it needs someone with skills he does not have.
Not claiming Australia can't be racist but that is really not an example.
Also nobody says"abbos "anymore. What was your part of the UK like 20 ish years ago. This is just silly.
We can't help the geography but there is a hell of a lot to see in Australia and NZ and the South Pacific and all of SE Asia. Yes it's not Europe. We know that.
Lateliein · 04/06/2023 09:34
My pp is based on experience of working in oz for a year in my 20s. I was shocked at the unabashed prejudice towards Aborigines or "bloody Abbos" when I worked in a bar.
Diversity, inclusion, progression, representation... Not a priority. Not a place I'd want my kids to grow up in.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-63699881.amp
marapournumber4 · 05/06/2023 07:21
Stan Grant has had high profile jobs on TV for decades. He should be the last one to call racism. He was just terribly bad at his last job ( Q and A) and should never have been appointed as it needs someone with skills he does not have.
Not claiming Australia can't be racist but that is really not an example.
Also nobody says"abbos "anymore. What was your part of the UK like 20 ish years ago. This is just silly.
We can't help the geography but there is a hell of a lot to see in Australia and NZ and the South Pacific and all of SE Asia. Yes it's not Europe. We know that.
Lateliein · 04/06/2023 09:34
My pp is based on experience of working in oz for a year in my 20s. I was shocked at the unabashed prejudice towards Aborigines or "bloody Abbos" when I worked in a bar.
Diversity, inclusion, progression, representation... Not a priority. Not a place I'd want my kids to grow up in.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.com/news/world-australia-63699881.amp
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