DH and I are so on the fence here so we need some random strangers on the internets opinions please 😅 we have to DD (nearly 3 and 12 weeks old) and we have an opportunity to move to Australia. I have family in Melbourne and have been a few times and known from a young age I’d love to travel round or experience living there. DH has never been but has always wanted to visit and would be happy to move and try it if that’s what we decide. His job is on the skilled occupation list but until we go further with the migration agent we’ve chatted to we won’t know what are of Australia we could potentially move to but we don’t really mind either way.
Our issue here is that we just can’t get over the guilt of leaving our families here. Mine and DH parents are here and my sister and her DD. We see the grandparents every few weeks and our daughter loves her cousin. We just have never felt settled in the UK and know we would love the Aussie way of life. Plus with everything just going downhill in the UK it’s not getting much better and we aren’t bothered about staying, it would only be for family. But that’s a big thing! Financially we only really have this big move in us or buy a house here. Also need to add that the last time my mum went to visit her sister in Oz she said it would maybe be one of the last times she could do the trip with how long and gruelling it can be. My dad would probably not be able to do it and my DHs dad would defiantly not as he’s not very well so it would be down to us to come see them and it’s so expensive so we would hardly see them I think! I’m just so torn! What would you guys do?
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To stay in the UK or move to Oz
Unsure05 · 30/05/2023 09:56
SunnyEgg · 30/05/2023 12:55
as undoubtedly Aus offers so many more opportunities for children and young people
This is a while back but so many left for London and elsewhere. Has this changed much?
IntoDeepBlueSea · 30/05/2023 12:52
- on the private health, everyone has to have some health insurance, or pay extra tax, but it only covers hospital, and a percentage of things like physio.
You still have to pay for doctor appointments, and the rebate from the government has barely changed, whereas the cost goes up and up. When our mortgage rate was less, it was ok, but now, it would take over a year to get on a public health list for each of the depts we use. Just to explain a bit more!
Greycloudlooming · 30/05/2023 13:03
?? I’ve never paid for a dr appointment here in 8 years. I can get a dr appointment here within 20 minutes if I want to. They’re all bulked billed where I live other than one weird AI machine scan medical place which is $38 for a consultation.
Waiting lists around here for hospitals are minimal too.
It vastly depends on where you live. If you’re somewhere overcrowded like Sydney then I guess it’d be hell (for me). It’s so overpriced in Sydney, but Sydney does not represent the entire country. It’s not even the capital.
IntoDeepBlueSea · 30/05/2023 12:52
- on the private health, everyone has to have some health insurance, or pay extra tax, but it only covers hospital, and a percentage of things like physio.
You still have to pay for doctor appointments, and the rebate from the government has barely changed, whereas the cost goes up and up. When our mortgage rate was less, it was ok, but now, it would take over a year to get on a public health list for each of the depts we use. Just to explain a bit more!
IntoDeepBlueSea · 30/05/2023 12:46
Second @OrderOfTheKookaburra - come and look at the new Aussie board, and cost of living in particular.
I agree with all the negatives and positives here, but after 15 years in Sydney, I'd say it's hard to appreciate the positives.
We're in the top income bracket, and whilst it could be a lot worse for us, I still shop at aldi. We use mainly private healthcare, but that is exorbitant, and the waiting lists in public hospitals are ridiculous.
The mortgage rates are going up and up, petrol is ridiculous, and there are A LOT of people "doing it tough". The salaries were relatively high 15 years ago, but the cost of living has changed that completely.
Anyway, I'd only suggest coming over if you had family etc to reconnect with. If you're also close to your families, and would be leaving them behind, I just wouldn't.
Having said all of that. You could give it 2 years. Work out the costs of moving, and if after 2 years you think it was a mistake, go back. It takes the pressure off, and means you're much more careful with money.
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Unsure05 · 30/05/2023 10:53
Also the work/life balance I believe to be a lot more fair over there too
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