Hmm. While I'm aware that posting messages on a public forum means they can be read by anyone and used for their own purposes, and I post anonymously with that in mind, I'm still a little discomfited by the poster actively recommending others there read this thread, directing them towards it as a useful resource.
I'm sure that she means that she's reading in a good-faith attempt to understand her husband, and thinks it may be similarly useful for others.
But the varying tone and timbre of those threads when I've come across them before makes me feel that, even though I believe that's what she intended, it's entirely possible that her post will actively direct others to this thread who may see, for example, my posts about how much I struggle with simple aspects of adult life, and use them as a kind of mental ammunition against autistic people in general and their partners in particular. Or that posts like mine, when read from the perspective of someone who feels their partner's [possible] ASD is the cause of major problems in their relationship, may be mentally gathered as evidence, bolstering negative opinions they already have on autistic people.
Such readers may not take into account the fact that on a thread like this, people tend to want to discuss how things get at their worst, rather than how things generally are (people rarely feel the need to post about how everything's fine and they're coping well).
Or that on an anonymous forum, people are likely to want to grasp the opportunity to talk about their hidden feelings and struggles, the ones that they put a lot of effort into protecting others from IRL — many of us might appear a lot more dysfunctional from our descriptions of our internal state and how much work it takes to overcome the difficulties we have, compared with how others in our lives actually experience us.
Or that some of the most extreme accounts of difficulties may come from those who don't have partners or don't have children or don't work precisely because of those difficulties, so those accounts may not be that relevant for people trying to understand (mostly) men who largely do have partners and jobs and children.
Knowing that this thread has been recommended as a reading resource on a thread which attracts people with relationship difficulties who attribute those difficulties to autism in their partner, and some of whom seem far more likely than the average MN browser to take things from my posts that weren't part of my intent when posting, makes me feel more reluctant to post openly and freely on what was supposed to be a support thread.
Assuming that she didn't intend to make anyone feel inhibited or uncomfortable about posting on a thread set up for people to support each other, for fear their posts will be misused, and given the likelihood that any post on that thread was going to be noticed by a poster on this one and mentioned here, and also given the possibility that posters on that thread might not be able to resist posting here, I think it was a little thoughtless of her to signpost this thread from that one.