Autistic women assemble!

[Nepmarthiturn]

...only if and when you're not feeling antisocial and want the entire world to +%$¥ off, or course. 😉😆

A few of us were talking on another thread and thought it would be nice to have a support/ chat thread on here to share interests/ challenges/ parenting issues or whatever we feel like. A little community of autistic women on here that we can dip in and out of but will be supportive and friendly and people who actually get it.

Might also be a nice counterbalance to all of the horrific posts about autism that we find here so regularly!!

P.S. Have deliberately posted this in chat rather than in the ND Mumsnetters topic because it will hopefully reach more people who would like to join in. I didn't even realise that section existed for a long time and often miss threads there as they don't show in active and expect I'm not alone in that. However, in posting this here, we will be relying on the people with obnoxious and ignorant views about autism who so regularly post on Mumsnet, to demonstrate to us their allegedly superior empathy (ha!) and please just leave this thread alone: it's not for you. Many thanks!!

Good luck with the car park! I don't mind driving at all but parking gives me massive anxiety, I'll only park somewhere if I can pretty much guarantee at least 1 side won't have someone parked next to me. So if we go to tesco I will park in the furthest space where nobody else tends to venture.

Today like most days I'm working through my coding courses (I have 2 on the go) but I keep getting distracted with other stuff. I have to research everything before buying it, ensuring it's the best price vs quality etc. Today, before he left, DH reminded me that we need more cat and dog food so to order some from somewhere(and because the cats are going off their current food get something different). I've been online since 8am checking which is better value, katkin, coolcat club, tails.com, bella & duke(and so many others) checking reviews and pet forum posts about each. It all got too much(I may have cried a little, which I feel silly about now) so about 30 mins ago I ended up ordering food they've had before from zooplus.

I still have to research washer dryers as we need a new one but I will do that later, I need to get on with the module I'm in the middle of.

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Love it!

Hello!

Spring shoots and leaves appearing everywhere so there will be more plant photo spam before long, I promise/ apologise in advance. 🤣🌸🌹🌷🌼🌺

If I can get over my procrastination and actually go out and do something out there now the weather is no longer an excuse.

Hello! 😊

Now you're here we know any trolls will find themselves buried underground. 😁

Uuugh why do people mess with stuff for no reason?!

So much in the world that doesn't work and people are trying to fix things that are fine already. Grrrr.

👋Great idea for a thread, thanks OP!

Although I can really relate to what @camelCase posted so will probably end up being more of a lurker than a poster

Procrastination is the worst. It's like a mental paralysis. Mine has got slightly better since I started meds for ADHD. Once I start something I can get on with it without getting so distracted, but starting things still seems to take twice as long as the task itself. Whhhhhy? It makes me so cross with myself!

That sounds really stressful. No wonder you're feeling anxious. I hope you get a good outcome. Anxiety is also so much worse when you're exhausted. Is your DS also autistic? Melatonin has helped my two children a lot with their sleep. I mean, it's still pretty rubbish but not as horrific as it was before.

Welcome to lurk if that suits you better of course. But thanks for saying hello!

Hello everyone.
I'm struggling with a lot of my posts being misunderstood.
I wrote one last night which I thought was supportive to the OP, and someone told me I was being patronizing, and that I needed to "have a word with myself".
I was awake for most of the night as a result. I cried for a while, too.

Hi everybody!

Should I preface my posts with "I Am Autistic"?
I actually mean that. Should I? Would it help?

Sorry, posted too soon!

As an autistic person (only recently diagnosed) I think Mumsnet has been a lifesaver for me. Literally hundreds of women explaining patiently the emotional undercurrents of situations and putting forth alternative viewpoints, for years. It's been a huge and welcome education and I am the richer for it.

That's so horrible, I'm sorry. 😔 Mumsnet seems to have become a lot more vicious than it used to be.

Please don't be worried to post here. We all have communication difficulties by definition and I hope posters on this thread will just ask gently if something's unclear, not attack people. My hope is for this to be a bit of a safe haven for us to help each other, offer solidarity and understanding and cheer each other up. You are welcome here.

Thank you so much.
I'm crying again now.

Probably not tbh based on some of the posts here recently. The OP who posted the thread where the idea for this thread came from was attacked even though her thread title evem said she was autistic. Some people are just vile. But with luck those people will heed the request in the OP of this thread and go take their spite elsewhere. I'm really sorry people spoke to you that way, it's unacceptable and the problem is them, not you.

Yes, he is autistic and has ADHD. I am not diagnosed but definitely neurodivergent, how noone noticed growing up I will never know. Unfortunately he had a funny reaction to melatonin and it sent him off the wall hyper and made his sleep worse! His Paed is useless and unhelpful so I am at a bit of a loss what to do. I am somehow managing to work part time but I am really struggling with tiredness.

...... crying with relief that this thread exists and that people on here understand.

I'm so sorry that happened. For what it's worth, I also got called patronising on here yesterday...because I posted a link for information with absolutely no comment on it. Not a single word. People can be surprisingly confident in their wild interpretations sometimes!

We're much more likely to ask for clarification if we're unclear on something (I'm sure we're all very familiar with being misunderstood ourselves), so I really hope this is a more comfortable place for you to chat!

That is wonderful. I found diagnosis such a relief. Suddenly things made sense, although years later I'm still processing it all, to go back through my life and memories and understand what happened now I have the missing puzzle piece. There are some fantastic autistic women on Mumsnet and it's lovely to hear you've had such support. I hope this thread will gather as many of us together as possible!

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We really do. I think probably every single one of us has been there. You didn't deserve it. Some people are just totally shit and it's their problem, not yours. Makes me laugh when such people claim to have more empathy than us (obviously that's been thoroughly debunked anyway, but some still come out with that trope then behave like utter arseholes and bully someone vulnerable 😒😡).

I'm glad I pulled myself out of my procrastination long enough to start the thread and that you found it, your posts shows exactly why we need it and you won't have any of that here, I promise. If anybody starts being horrible I think we'll all give them short shrift and a loud, collective "bugger off!!!!".

Can I join you? I'm feeling lonely right now as I find it hard to connect with people. No diagnosis.

Morning all. I'm procrastinating by posting on here - and yet only half an hour ago I told myself I would not procrastinate and open things like Mumsnet to send me down the rabbit hole of doing everything except what I SHOULD be focussing on. I've spent a lot of the morning looking yet again for my keys. I just can't seem to use the old system of always putting them down in the same place. My ADHD is on overdrive at the minute and I am constantly doing stuff unconsciously and then losing my train of thought/possessions etc. Today I am finding it hard to do any work because I am obsessed at the fact that my hands are cold. I also need a shower but can't make myself get changed or in the shower because I hate the feeling of taking my clothes off and getting into it, and the cold sensation when I get out. And then I will be at the gym tonight so what is the point in changing out of my training kit from this morning? I need to drink water but again, I'm staring at my well intentioned full pint glass and imagining the horrible feeling of it being cold even though its only room temperature. I've had too much coffee already too and I have an annoying (as usual) few bars of a song in my head that I don't like but seem to keep me 'revved up'. The sun is out and I feel so much more 'up' when its blue sky and blossoms are on trees and the light is better.

💐I completely get it. I think that's part of why I don't post a lot, people get jumped on so quickly on here and sometimes I know why but other times I'm like uhm what did I miss what did they say that was wrong.

@IScreamAtMichaelangelos Same. MN has taught me so, so much. And I love your username...if you know, you know 😆

@Nepmarthiturn what a lovely reply, thank you so much! I am trying to carve out little bits for myself but it's hard. I just want my entire household to please just stop speaking for a while