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Autistic women assemble!

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Nepmarthiturn · 04/04/2023 10:36

...only if and when you're not feeling antisocial and want the entire world to +%$¥ off, or course. 😉😆

A few of us were talking on another thread and thought it would be nice to have a support/ chat thread on here to share interests/ challenges/ parenting issues or whatever we feel like. A little community of autistic women on here that we can dip in and out of but will be supportive and friendly and people who actually get it.

Might also be a nice counterbalance to all of the horrific posts about autism that we find here so regularly!!

P.S. Have deliberately posted this in chat rather than in the ND Mumsnetters topic because it will hopefully reach more people who would like to join in. I didn't even realise that section existed for a long time and often miss threads there as they don't show in active and expect I'm not alone in that. However, in posting this here, we will be relying on the people with obnoxious and ignorant views about autism who so regularly post on Mumsnet, to demonstrate to us their allegedly superior empathy (ha!) and please just leave this thread alone: it's not for you. Many thanks!!

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Nepmarthiturn · 04/04/2023 10:37

@Furries @Bepis @yano @Blu3Salv1a

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Rockbird · 04/04/2023 10:37

🙋🏼‍♀️ here!

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Nepmarthiturn · 04/04/2023 10:39

Rockbird · 04/04/2023 10:37

🙋🏼‍♀️ here!

Welcome! 😊

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Nepmarthiturn · 04/04/2023 10:40

@Tirrrrred

Yay it worked this time!

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Nepmarthiturn · 04/04/2023 10:42

How are people today?

I am feeling rubbish. Very overwhelmed child this morning having a meltdown so now I am 🤯🧟‍♀️😔.

Trying to pull myself together to get out in the sunshine in my garden, while it lasts. ☀️

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KatyMac · 04/04/2023 10:46

How certain/formal do you have to be about a diagnosis to join in?

Rockbird · 04/04/2023 10:51

Just got my car back after being in the garage for a week which really got to me. My car is my freedom and I hate being without it so I've been in shutdown for days. Much happier now.

So I'm now about to take my parents shopping, which is going to be a giggle as my dds are coming, eldest is also autistic and freaks at multi level shopping centres and car park. I don't mind them but I'm hoping she's ok parking and that there's enough on the ground floor to keep her busy!

What's everyone else up to?

Rockbird · 04/04/2023 10:52

KatyMac · 04/04/2023 10:46

How certain/formal do you have to be about a diagnosis to join in?

I'm not the organiser but as far as I'm concerned you're very welcome ☕️

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Nepmarthiturn · 04/04/2023 10:57

KatyMac · 04/04/2023 10:46

How certain/formal do you have to be about a diagnosis to join in?

If you think you're autistic that's good enough for me. I think we all know how bloody long it can take to get a diagnosis, and what it's like to have no support until that happens. Not that you get much afterwards either tbh. 🤣

Only rule on the thread is that we don't want the usual trolls/ ignorant people turning up to tell us all that "we're all a bit autistic" or "we shouldn't label ourselves" or "if you can post online you can work" (I do actually like many others but sick of seeing autistic posters who can't attacked like that) etc. So we'll hopefully see those types off if they arrive and decide to post anyway despite the comments in the OP.

But you are more than welcome to join. 😊 We just wanted a supportive space here for autistic women to share things.

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camelCase · 04/04/2023 10:58

...only if and when you're not feeling antisocial and want the entire world to +%$¥ off, or course. 😉😆

That would be pretty much all the time for me then 😂I really struggle with interacting at all even online, I'm on Mumsnet all the time just reading but very rarely post. Or I will post on a few threads and then go quiet again for weeks/months, name change intending to be more active and then repeat the cycle.

Does anyone else type out replies(sometimes long ones), read and then edit it (multiple times) before finally just deleting the whole thing and not bother responding?

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Nepmarthiturn · 04/04/2023 11:00

Rockbird · 04/04/2023 10:51

Just got my car back after being in the garage for a week which really got to me. My car is my freedom and I hate being without it so I've been in shutdown for days. Much happier now.

So I'm now about to take my parents shopping, which is going to be a giggle as my dds are coming, eldest is also autistic and freaks at multi level shopping centres and car park. I don't mind them but I'm hoping she's ok parking and that there's enough on the ground floor to keep her busy!

What's everyone else up to?

Oh good luck! Both of my kids are autistic too so I know how stressful outings can be. Hope it goes ok and it's enjoyable to be able to get out again now you have your car back.

I have finally got my motability car last week so extremely happy about that. Old rustbucket is now sold and someone meant to be collecting it this PM. Stressed about something going wrong with that, and will be glad when it's over!

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yano · 04/04/2023 11:02

Thanks for starting the thread @Nepmarthiturn!

I've got more 'talky' stuff on my list than I'd usually plan if it was up to me, so I'll likely be a bit quiet on here today. Luckily I should be able to all of that out of the way pretty soon so I can have a chilled afternoon with my kids afterwards!

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Nepmarthiturn · 04/04/2023 11:05

camelCase · 04/04/2023 10:58

...only if and when you're not feeling antisocial and want the entire world to +%$¥ off, or course. 😉😆

That would be pretty much all the time for me then 😂I really struggle with interacting at all even online, I'm on Mumsnet all the time just reading but very rarely post. Or I will post on a few threads and then go quiet again for weeks/months, name change intending to be more active and then repeat the cycle.

Does anyone else type out replies(sometimes long ones), read and then edit it (multiple times) before finally just deleting the whole thing and not bother responding?

Yep! Or just get so distracted I forget to post it (joy of also having ADHD) and then open my phone and find it but by then thread is full or has moved on. Sigh.

No obligation to post here regularly. To be expected from us all really! Was hoping it would be a friendly and understanding space for people to come to on the (perhaps rare 🤣🤣) occasions they do feel like talking, or need support, but absolutely not meant to be another obligation or stress to add to the "to-do" list! Also to share special interests. Love seeing people's photos of stuff they've been creating, for example.

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spiderlight · 04/04/2023 11:07

Hello. <sits by the door, trying to be invisible>

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Nepmarthiturn · 04/04/2023 11:07

yano · 04/04/2023 11:02

Thanks for starting the thread @Nepmarthiturn!

I've got more 'talky' stuff on my list than I'd usually plan if it was up to me, so I'll likely be a bit quiet on here today. Luckily I should be able to all of that out of the way pretty soon so I can have a chilled afternoon with my kids afterwards!

That sounds really lovely.

And yes talky talky talk talk, aaargh! Trying to psyche myself up for this weekend with family. 🫣🫣

We'll all be quiet at times I'm sure and even if the thread goes dead it'll be here now for us to come back to as and when we want to. 😊

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Nepmarthiturn · 04/04/2023 11:08

spiderlight · 04/04/2023 11:07

Hello. <sits by the door, trying to be invisible>

Hello! We see you. 😊 Welcome.

But will not make unwanted eye contact. 😆😆

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BrightWater · 04/04/2023 11:10

Hello and thank you for creating this Smile

I am very tired and feeling fragile today. I have just dropped my 11mo DC at nursery for settling in sessions as I'm back to work next week after a year's mat leave. My older DC is off sick so all of my plans for this week have crumbled, including designated quiet time to myself that I've not had for a year. I was diagnosed late last year and do not have an ND network offline. It's often lonely.

But I am happy to be here Grin

MeMyBooksAndMyCats · 04/04/2023 11:10

👀 hello! The avengers music instantly played in my head as I read the title.

AutisticLegoLover · 04/04/2023 11:10

Oooh hello! Thank you for the thread. I still have major plant envy @Nepmarthiturn.

BrightWater · 04/04/2023 11:11

@MeMyBooksAndMyCats please can I be whichever Avenger is invisible 😆

teacakie · 04/04/2023 11:11

Just checking in.

HecticHedgehog · 04/04/2023 11:11

Hello :)

I'm annoyed because my Facebook page/layout changed last night. I hate it when they change things Grin

Itsonlyagame · 04/04/2023 11:13

I'm exhausted. DS isn't sleeping just now and consequently neither am I. I'm also waiting for a universal credit decision which is due tomorrow so my anxiety is through the roof. Once that's done I will just find something else to worry about though. Why can't I just get on with things instead of procrastinating and worrying? Ugh!

Itsonlyagame · 04/04/2023 11:13

Oh and hello, forgot that! 🙈

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Nepmarthiturn · 04/04/2023 11:14

BrightWater · 04/04/2023 11:10

Hello and thank you for creating this Smile

I am very tired and feeling fragile today. I have just dropped my 11mo DC at nursery for settling in sessions as I'm back to work next week after a year's mat leave. My older DC is off sick so all of my plans for this week have crumbled, including designated quiet time to myself that I've not had for a year. I was diagnosed late last year and do not have an ND network offline. It's often lonely.

But I am happy to be here Grin

Oh that sounds tough. I cried and cried when mine first started nursery. Plus the worry of returning to work and a sick child on top. You poor thing.

Will you be able to reschedule in the time to yourself for next week or something? Sounds like you really need and deserve it! 💐

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