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DH to be doesn’t want a wedding ring.. at all?

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4EyesandBigThighs · 21/03/2023 13:21

Anyone roses DH not wear a wedding ring?

DP doesn’t want one at all, we get married this year. At first I thought it was because he works a manual labour job; so suggested a silicon ring and perhaps have a metal actual wedding ring put up sage and wear occasionally?

but he doesn’t want one at all and that’s thrown me a little. I mean, realistically it’s just a ring - but I liked the thought of seeing him with a ring on, that symbolisation that we are married maybe?

or am I just being silly?

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Lastnamedidntstick · 22/03/2023 18:58

Letty186 · 22/03/2023 18:29

My DH does wear a ring and like OP, I like the public symbolisation. Traditionally men didn’t have wedding rings as the gentry were more likely to wear signet rings on their little fingers which wouldn’t have worked with a wedding ring and if from ‘lower classes ‘ be involved in more manual work

Am I the only one who doesn’t like the public symbolisation?

i don’t like the idea of being “marked” as married. It’s no one else’s business.

same with others, I don’t care if someone married and don’t see why there’s a need to advertise it.

GCWorkNightmare · 22/03/2023 19:03

Lastnamedidntstick · 22/03/2023 18:58

Am I the only one who doesn’t like the public symbolisation?

i don’t like the idea of being “marked” as married. It’s no one else’s business.

same with others, I don’t care if someone married and don’t see why there’s a need to advertise it.

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That’s why we don’t have them. It’s a legal status that is nobody else’s business.

We both kept our names and Ms/Mr titles.

MysteryBelle · 22/03/2023 19:08

GCWorkNightmare · 22/03/2023 19:03

That’s why we don’t have them. It’s a legal status that is nobody else’s business.

We both kept our names and Ms/Mr titles.

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seven201 · 22/03/2023 19:22

My dh had a cheap Argos one for the wedding day but didn't want to wear one for longer than that day. It's somewhere in the house. It's not uncommon.

Doesthepopeshitinthewoods · 22/03/2023 19:36

Lastnamedidntstick · 22/03/2023 18:58

Am I the only one who doesn’t like the public symbolisation?

i don’t like the idea of being “marked” as married. It’s no one else’s business.

same with others, I don’t care if someone married and don’t see why there’s a need to advertise it.

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No I feel the same. I didn’t want a ring, I don’t wear my engagement ring and I didn’t take my husband’s name. I’m not ‘owned’ by anyone.

My husband doesn’t wear jewellery and didn’t want one either. I’d find his hand weird in a ring, too. 😬

Needing a public marking of a marriage to deter infidelity, as some have said, is absolute insanity.

Polis · 22/03/2023 20:06

Needing a public marking of a marriage to deter infidelity, as some have said, is absolute insanity

I found that a public marking of engagement and marriage gave me a quieter life.

hoophoophooray · 22/03/2023 20:21

My husband doesn't wear one and didn't have one for the ceremony either. I wore mine until covid. Then all the hand sanitiser used to get stuck under the band and it burnt a ring of skin off my finger. Now I can't wear them as the skin is so sensitive, it hurts to wear them

AreMyDucksinarow · 22/03/2023 20:34

I know a lot of married men who don’t wear wedding rings, doesn’t seem to bother their wives.

My dad has one but wears it on a chain as he hates the feeling of rings, doesn’t bother my mum and they have been married for over 40 years now.

Dh wears one, it’s the only jewellery he does wear, took him a long time to get used to it, and does take it off quite a bit.

Cant say I am bothered either way, mine comes on and off as I have bad skin doesn’t make me any less married we have a piece of paper somewhere telling me we are

RedheadIreland · 22/03/2023 20:48

DH is a trades person and so doesn't wear his regularly but I have to admit the occasional times he remembers where it's at if we're going to dinner I find it very attractive 😉😂

AdoraBell · 22/03/2023 20:51

DH said he didn’t want a ring. I said no one has to wear a wedding ring. He changed his mind and now feels odd if he forgets to put it back on after washing the car.

whatevrrrr · 22/03/2023 20:56

I find rings on men very unattractive. Fortunately I have never been involved with men who wear them.

TheOGCCL · 22/03/2023 21:01

I kind of think if you are going to go through the traditional and well worn ritual of getting married you might as well go the whole hog and get the ring. It's all a little archaic to begin with.

frostyfeb · 22/03/2023 21:13

Married for 20 years and neither me or DH wear a ring.

Bamboux · 22/03/2023 21:15

I don't wear a wedding or engagement ring and nor does my husband.

Why does it matter to you what other people think?

Bamboux · 22/03/2023 21:16

Polis · 22/03/2023 20:06

Needing a public marking of a marriage to deter infidelity, as some have said, is absolute insanity

I found that a public marking of engagement and marriage gave me a quieter life.

Luckily some of us aren't so traffic-stoppingly beautiful that we need specific props to deter the phalanxes of suitors prostrating themselves before us every time we go to tesco.

GCWorkNightmare · 22/03/2023 21:20

TheOGCCL · 22/03/2023 21:01

I kind of think if you are going to go through the traditional and well worn ritual of getting married you might as well go the whole hog and get the ring. It's all a little archaic to begin with.

We only got married for the legal protection, inheritance tax allowances etc.

had civil partnerships been available for straight couples at the time we would have done that.

in terms of tradition it was a civil service, with no readings or frills. I wasn’t given away. Nobody promised to obey. We didn’t exchange rings and nobody announced us as Mr and Mrs. It was as non-weddingy as a wedding could be, really.

Luredbyapomegranate · 22/03/2023 21:21

A lot of people don’t like rings and some men don’t like any jewellery.

You can tell him it really matters to you and ask him to reconsider, but you can’t insist.

Lycanthropology · 22/03/2023 21:27

Bamboux · 22/03/2023 21:16

Luckily some of us aren't so traffic-stoppingly beautiful that we need specific props to deter the phalanxes of suitors prostrating themselves before us every time we go to tesco.

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Lucky you. It is very tiresome.

Bamboux · 22/03/2023 21:28

Lycanthropology · 22/03/2023 21:27

Lucky you. It is very tiresome.

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Thoughts n prayers hunny 🙏 ❤️ 💕

BotterMon · 22/03/2023 21:30

My DH wears 2 - his/ours and his father's. I don't wear one. Each to his or her own.

Lesina · 22/03/2023 21:36

I’ve been married 28 years, took my wedding ring off on honeymoon and haven’t worn it since. It’s a non issue :)

Lastnamedidntstick · 22/03/2023 22:00

TheOGCCL · 22/03/2023 21:01

I kind of think if you are going to go through the traditional and well worn ritual of getting married you might as well go the whole hog and get the ring. It's all a little archaic to begin with.

Why not go the proper entire hog and remain a virgin for your wedding night, promise to obey etc etc?

people pick and choose which traditions they want to keep, why can’t they choose not to have rings?

Mutabiliss · 22/03/2023 22:05

Those saying it's traditional - it's actually not traditional for men to wear wedding rings. That really only came in the last century. Wedding rings showed the woman was married and therefore owned by a man.

mumoffourminimes · 22/03/2023 22:08

Youaremysonshine · 21/03/2023 13:23

I don't wear mine. I have ezcema and I can feel my skin burn within minutes of wearing one. The only person who has ever mentioned it was my 96 year old grandma who called me a "hussy" for not wearing one 😂😂😂

Hussey 🤣🤣🤣 as if

Quveas · 22/03/2023 22:08

I didn't have one either. If he doesn't want one he doesn't need one. And neither do you.

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