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DH to be doesn’t want a wedding ring.. at all?

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4EyesandBigThighs · 21/03/2023 13:21

Anyone roses DH not wear a wedding ring?

DP doesn’t want one at all, we get married this year. At first I thought it was because he works a manual labour job; so suggested a silicon ring and perhaps have a metal actual wedding ring put up sage and wear occasionally?

but he doesn’t want one at all and that’s thrown me a little. I mean, realistically it’s just a ring - but I liked the thought of seeing him with a ring on, that symbolisation that we are married maybe?

or am I just being silly?

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FUSoftPlay · 21/03/2023 15:48

My DH doesn’t wear one.

Neither do my parents, coming up to 40 years of marriage.

Amazongirl9 · 21/03/2023 15:51

My DH didn’t have one, just doesn’t like jewellery, and neither did my DD or DFIL so I never thought anything of it. I on the other hand now own 3 😂

Parker231 · 21/03/2023 15:51

For those couples where your DH doesn’t wear a wedding ring but you do- why? Neither of us do so interested why anyone wants to wear something to indicate their marital status.

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Abra1t · 21/03/2023 15:56

It was a traditional part of the church service so would have been odd to have taken it out. Once the ring was on, I liked it. I married in 1995, though!

Toooldtoworry · 21/03/2023 15:56

Parker231 · 21/03/2023 15:51

For those couples where your DH doesn’t wear a wedding ring but you do- why? Neither of us do so interested why anyone wants to wear something to indicate their marital status.

My DH doesn't wear one because he's in a manual role and it could deglove his finger. I do wear one but I'm a financial adviser, so no risk of finger damage, and I saw a nice ring I wanted.

Parker231 · 21/03/2023 15:59

Toooldtoworry · 21/03/2023 15:56

My DH doesn't wear one because he's in a manual role and it could deglove his finger. I do wear one but I'm a financial adviser, so no risk of finger damage, and I saw a nice ring I wanted.

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I have lots of rings which I wear regularly. Have been married 26 years but never felt the need for a wedding or engagement ring

pontipinemum · 21/03/2023 16:01

If he will wear a very cheap ring for the ceremony that would be a nice compromise I think.

My husband doesn't wear one due to his work. He doesn't have a cheap ring because his mum gave him a family ring but if she hadn't offered we were going to get a very cheap ring for the day.

Yellowdays · 21/03/2023 16:01

Depends whether he expects you to wear one.

WimpoleHat · 21/03/2023 16:02

My DH “doesn’t like jewellery”. So has never had one. Not an issue.

randomsabreuse · 21/03/2023 16:03

DH could lose his ring up the arse of a patient (or less amusingly damage the patient) hence no ring.

He was planning to wear a ring socially until he realised how much the slightly loose ring (smallest that would fit over knuckle) would annoy him...

user1471543094 · 21/03/2023 16:05

My father never wore one as he lost it not long after they got married and may parents are married 50 + years.

My BIL wore his and he had multiple affairs.

The ring makes little difference - if they want to, they will.

It wouldn't bother me, personally.

Rhythmisadancer · 21/03/2023 16:05

my DH didn't want one, so I took the money we would have spent on 2 rings and put some little diamonds in mine - win win

AlaskaThunderfuckHiiiiiiiii · 21/03/2023 16:06

DH has a wedding ring but only wears it if we go out as he also isn’t able to wear one due to work, my FIL also works in same industry hasn’t worn one since they married and has been married for 48 years so makes no difference

TeaCosyApplePie · 21/03/2023 16:08

Mine wasn't sure about a ring either- but was persuaded to try it and now doesn't like taking it off! I wouldn't be happy if he didn't want to wear it (rightly or wrongly) - just my preference.

Parker231 · 21/03/2023 16:09

TeaCosyApplePie · 21/03/2023 16:08

Mine wasn't sure about a ring either- but was persuaded to try it and now doesn't like taking it off! I wouldn't be happy if he didn't want to wear it (rightly or wrongly) - just my preference.

Why wouldn’t you be happy if your DH didn’t wear his ring?

Figgygal · 21/03/2023 16:10

Dh hasn't worn his for years after he broke his finger and even post swelling its never fit.
I got out of the habit during all the covid hand washing and haven't worn it or my engagement ring since

AlaskaThunderfuckHiiiiiiiii · 21/03/2023 16:11

@Parker231 i removed my ring for quite a number of months at the start of covid (work in healthcare) to assist with Better hand hygiene etc and DH wasn’t bothered

MysteryBelle · 21/03/2023 16:12

I very much enjoyed choosing rings with my husband when we got engaged, we took a week off from work, traveling to our families to share the news, it was a magical week. I loved finding my wedding dress which I later found a picture of in a bridal magazine. It’s ‘fun’ and exciting for many people, that’s why @Parker231

It’s a big thing to get married, or have a child, or get a dream job or dream house, or a child (or you) graduating from college, they’re milestones that signify a happy change or positive growth in our lives and we celebrate by having ceremonies or sharing symbols of that. Rings don’t have to be, but can be part of the celebrating.

hippygirllucky · 21/03/2023 16:13

My husband didn't want one because he works lugging metal equipment around all day and it would just get absolutely battered. We decided on a cheap £30 plain silver band, the idea being that once it's completely battered beyond recognition, we'll replace it.

Lycanthropology · 21/03/2023 16:15

I don't wear my wedding ring... I got too fat for it Blush. DH's lost a diamond (MIL got our rings made. DHs had diamonds fitted around it; mine didn't Hmm) and has been in a box waiting to be repaired for about 15 years. So we're both ring free.

Don't feel any less married, though!

TeaCosyApplePie · 21/03/2023 16:15

@Parker231 for no other reason than I like to see his wedding ring on him. It's not anything deeper than that in terms of thought process. It's a symbol of our marriage.

Oncemoreforluck · 21/03/2023 16:17

I didn’t think for one minute that my DH would wear a ring as he doesn’t like jewellery on men. He bought us each one for our wedding day and has never taken it off in 30 years.
My dad didn’t wear a wedding ring for years, but later bought a signet ring which he always wore on his wedding finger.

Lastnamedidntstick · 21/03/2023 16:20

If you said “that’s fine, I won’t wear one either”

what would his reaction be?

that’s key for me. If he wants you to wear a ring, he should wear one if you want.

if he isn’t bothered if you don’t, then it’s your choice to wear one.

Dotdotdot19 · 21/03/2023 16:23

My DH wore his ring for about a week after we married but he saw a work friend lose three fingers (manual job) and promptly took it off. The only thing that irritates me is if we had known we would have spent less on it!

Bansheed · 21/03/2023 16:25

My DF married in the early 70s, never wore a ring and my DM divorced him for philandering in the late 90s. He then remarried, took a ring and never took it off and, since she died 7 years ago, wears in on a chain. Was true love, appara.

My fiance was married for 15 years, never wore one. He divorced over a decade a go. We are getting married and part of his proposal was for the first time in his life he wanted a wedding ring. So my tiny sliver of anecdota shares, that if they mean it, they wear one.