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DH to be doesn’t want a wedding ring.. at all?

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4EyesandBigThighs · 21/03/2023 13:21

Anyone roses DH not wear a wedding ring?

DP doesn’t want one at all, we get married this year. At first I thought it was because he works a manual labour job; so suggested a silicon ring and perhaps have a metal actual wedding ring put up sage and wear occasionally?

but he doesn’t want one at all and that’s thrown me a little. I mean, realistically it’s just a ring - but I liked the thought of seeing him with a ring on, that symbolisation that we are married maybe?

or am I just being silly?

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CMOTDibbler · 21/03/2023 13:52

DH broke his about 20 years ago and has been meaning to find a new one ever since but not. I wear mine on my right hand due to disability and only rarely wear my engagement ring (again on RH), but we've been very happily married for 25 years still.

RoryMcGory · 21/03/2023 13:53

My husband had one for the ceremony but never wore it again. He doesn't wear any jewelry at all, not even a watch.

I can go for weeks without wearing mine, I take it off and just forget.

Twoshoesnewshoes · 21/03/2023 13:57

Depends on his reasons I guess, whether he just doesn’t like jewellery, or he wants to look single….
I never wear mine, actually don’t think I had one 🤔, DH never takes his off!

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4EyesandBigThighs · 21/03/2023 13:57

Thanks all, seems like it’s pretty common and no big deal.

he hasn’t really got a reason for not wanting one he.. “just doesn’t” 😅 which is fine.

it’s not about loyalty, or looking single for me I don’t think. I think it’s for my own personal gratification to look at his wedding band and think “wow we’re married!” So I guess it is down to a bit of selfishness I must admit.

Perhaps I’ll buy him a ‘dummy’ silicon ring to put on during our vows, then we can just put it in a memory box if he feels so strongly.

I’ve personally never know anyone married to not wear a ring so it’s interesting to hear here that so many don’t!

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RosemaryAndTim · 21/03/2023 13:57

DH has never had one, not even for the ceremony- he hates anything like that, finds it really uncomfortable. He did say he'd wear one if I wanted him to but I wasn't fussed and it was pretty clear he'd rather not.

Would a compromise be to have a ring for the ceremony then keep it safe somewhere afterwards?

user1471556818 · 21/03/2023 13:58

Been married 35 yrs
Was a nurse so always ended up with a sore bit under them so got out of habit of wearing one
Even now I've retired I seldom wear one , I have 2 as always lose it as well.
My husband has always worn his
Personal choice doesn't make either of us more of less married nor committed to each other

mamatoTails · 21/03/2023 13:58

We are getting married (postponed twice due to covid restrictions and haven't been able to re-book for various other events already planned) but we've both decided not to get rings. DH has a manual job and it would get ruined, and we also live in a hot climate and my fingers don't do well with rings, so I won't wear one.

Soopermum1 · 21/03/2023 13:58

DP hates wearing jewellery. He said if we marry he'd rather wear a t shirt, daily, with 'I am married' written on it 😂

Abra1t · 21/03/2023 13:59

My husband regards all jewellery as unmanly and so did my father. No wedding rings for men, is there view. They really only became a thing for men here relatively recently.

OakleyStreetisnotinChelsea · 21/03/2023 14:01

Mine doesn't have one. In all honesty it did bother me before we got married but he acknowledged that and he willingly sent and tried some on but really didn't like the feel of them. Didn't bother me for long after that

I can't wear my engagement ring for work and the wedding ring is shaped round it so looks odd on its own. If i wear them on days off I forget to take them off for work and once taken off I forget to put them back on. I honestly couldn't tell you when I last wore mine. Years. Possibly upwards of 5 or so years. I did have a panic a couple of years ago about where they were but I found them!

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 21/03/2023 14:02

We both had a ring for the ceremony. DH wore his for the day of the wedding and then I don't think ever again. I wore mine for about nine months and then had an allergic reaction to something and my face and hands swelled up. I had to ice my hand to get my ring off, and I never put it back on again.

It's up to the individual surely. I'm not great with jewellery so hardly ever wear it and it's none of DH's or anyone else's business.

BigFatLiar · 21/03/2023 14:03

I wear mine unless its dangerous, OH doesn't, he doesn't wear jewellery or watches (watches always seemed to stop when he wears them) he does have a fob watch and will wear his ring if we're out somewhere special. His ring spends most of its existence in my jewel case.

Friedgreentomatoeshere · 21/03/2023 14:07

My ex(D)H refused to wear one. But when he married his OW he did, which galled me. Then he got kidney disease and his fingers all swelled up so he can't wear it any more.

DH had one but wouldn't wear it at work because he had a job working with machinery. He wears it most of the time now he's retired.

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4EyesandBigThighs · 21/03/2023 14:15

Yeah I think he would compromise and wear one for the wedding day; he’s not being intentionally difficult he just doesn’t fancy it so I’m sure he’ll be able to manage a day wearing one 🤭 I did suggest a tattoo in placement of a ring.. but that suggestion didn’t go down too well either 😂

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Cyclistmumgrandma · 21/03/2023 14:16

We both wore them for quite a few years. My husband needed to take his off after a motorcycle accident before his hand swelled up. I had to have mine cut off when my hand swelled up during pregnancy. We've now been married over 40 years and neither of us wear one. Very happy together, the rings are no big deal.

LetItGoHome · 21/03/2023 14:17

My husband wore his ring for the wedding day itself. But it came off that night and has never been worn since. He just doesn't like wearing jewellery. No other reason.
He was open about this before the big day so it wasn't a suprise. I think it's nice to have in the box though. Just to occasionally stumble upon and look at. I'm glad we bought it even though it's never worn.
We are 12 years happily married 😊
My dad never wore one either.

SlicerAndEcho · 21/03/2023 14:27

DH wears his, but mine is in a box with other rings, including my engagement ring. I occasionally put one on if I’m dressing up.

indecisivewoman81 · 21/03/2023 14:49

I know someone who couldn't wear a ring because of work so they had it tattooed on instead

Doesthepopeshitinthewoods · 21/03/2023 14:49

My H doesn’t have one and I didn’t want him to have one. His hand would look weird. I don’t have one either, and I never wear my engagement ring.

Being married isn’t about trinkets.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 21/03/2023 14:51

Dh and I bought cheap rings for the ceremony then they were subsequently boxed up (aka lost). I don't wear my engagement ring either. In fact neither of us are jewellery wearers.

[Shrug]

LondonJax · 21/03/2023 15:02

DH had a ring for the wedding and hasn't worn it since. He doesn't wear a watch either so it's just one of his 'things'.

I don't wear my ring unless I'm going out.

Just for the record, my exH always wore his ring...except when he took it off to cheat.

I think I'm better off with the non-ring wearing DH!

cocksstrideintheevening · 21/03/2023 15:05

Youaremysonshine · 21/03/2023 13:23

I don't wear mine. I have ezcema and I can feel my skin burn within minutes of wearing one. The only person who has ever mentioned it was my 96 year old grandma who called me a "hussy" for not wearing one 😂😂😂

Same here, I just can't wear it

Sistanotcista · 21/03/2023 15:07

Beamur · 21/03/2023 13:22

Neither me or DH have a wedding ring.

Us too. It's how you love and support each other within a marriage that matters, not jewellery.

GCWorkNightmare · 21/03/2023 15:08

Beamur · 21/03/2023 13:22

Neither me or DH have a wedding ring.

Same. 19 years and counting.

JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon · 21/03/2023 15:09

smashinggrapes · 21/03/2023 13:41

"Most of the men in the royal family don't wear a wedding ring. Prince Harry was unusual in that he had a wedding ring when he married."

Most men in the royal family shag about too. Not sure id want my husband to model himself on them 🤣

I don't think that's anything to do with them wearing rings though!