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DH to be doesn’t want a wedding ring.. at all?

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4EyesandBigThighs · 21/03/2023 13:21

Anyone roses DH not wear a wedding ring?

DP doesn’t want one at all, we get married this year. At first I thought it was because he works a manual labour job; so suggested a silicon ring and perhaps have a metal actual wedding ring put up sage and wear occasionally?

but he doesn’t want one at all and that’s thrown me a little. I mean, realistically it’s just a ring - but I liked the thought of seeing him with a ring on, that symbolisation that we are married maybe?

or am I just being silly?

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northernbeee · 22/03/2023 13:02

My first husband didn't ever wear his ring. Nuff said! I personally think its important, all depends on the individuals. My husband never takes his off, and me neither.

Ndhdiwntbsivnwg · 22/03/2023 13:19

Neither of us are wearing the ring. Fot husband it’s annoying and in my case, well resizing costs a pretty penny and I put on about 30lbs since we got married 😂😂

bumblingbovine49 · 22/03/2023 13:22

DH and I wore ours for a couple of years but DH ever really liked wearing a ring so gradually stopped wearing his. I am fine with rings but put on weight a couple of years after getting married. It didn't fit any more and didn't get round to doing anything about it ..

We have both lost them now I am think. I definitely have no idea where mine is anyway .

I don't have an engagement ring either as I never wanted one. I've been married twice and refused an engagement ring both times. I just felt it was too much responsibility to have a relatively expensive ring with a gem. I knew I'd eventually either lose it ( I am always losing stuff) or get too fat for it ( I yo yo by a lot on weight all the time)

Both my wedding rings were plain gold bands and not at all expensive ,

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mezlou84 · 22/03/2023 13:28

Not silly but it personally doesn't matter to us. When was the last time you actually looked at a man's hand to see if he wore a ring? Personally I never have not even when i was single. It's a symbol and that's it. My hubby doesn't wear his and hasn't for about 10yrs and I haven't for about 5yrs. Neither of us wear them and has made no difference to our love or marriage. Been together 22yrs and married for 15 of those. If its because youre worried about cheating, someone with a ring on would cheat as much as someone not wearing one. It's the person not the symbol x

Verylongtime · 22/03/2023 13:30

Depends on the reason. Most men I know don’t wear any jewellery at all. Most don’t wear wedding rings. DH does, but he always wore a ring anyway. I don’t wear my wedding ring at all. I have an engagement ring I only wear once in a blue moon as well.

sorcerersapprentice · 22/03/2023 13:34

My DH never has done. My Dad did but then stopped as it was a wide 1960s one and made his skin irritated underneath it

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 22/03/2023 13:36

Neither dh or I wear a ring. I personally don't like the feel of them and whilst he was willing to wear one if it mattered to me, I really didn't see the need. Most of the men in our circle don't wear one either.

confusedlots · 22/03/2023 13:40

It wouldn't bother me. My DH does wear one because he wants to. I hardly ever wear my rings anymore. I've never been a person who wears jewellery, and although I did wear them regularly for the first few years after we got married, I don't wear them very often now, really only ever wear them if I'm going out for an evening, which doesn't happen too often!

Muminthebluecoat · 22/03/2023 13:45

My DH was the same. He got one but only ever wore it if we were going out (and probably cos i asked him)

He had a manual job and a habit of losing things so he never had it on. I also don't think he liked wearing one/didn't think it looked right on him.

He never takes it off now. I think one day he just forgot he had it on and realised it wasn't getting damaged or lost so might as welL keep it on.

A lot of my friends DHs in manual jobs don't have/wear one.

aslkde · 22/03/2023 13:53

I have a ring, he doesn't.

He is a craftsman and does
lots of gardening. Worried about catching it and potentially degloving a finger.

HoneyPotBee · 22/03/2023 13:57

If he wears a wedding ring other women will know he’s married.

Doesthepopeshitinthewoods · 22/03/2023 13:58

HoneyPotBee · 22/03/2023 13:57

If he wears a wedding ring other women will know he’s married.

I honestly cannot believe people think like this. 😆

kikisparks · 22/03/2023 14:01

DH hates all kinds of jewellery so hasn’t worn his since our wedding day. I stopped wearing mine during covid and never started again either. We’re still just as married without them.

Myjobisanightmare · 22/03/2023 14:06

I’m the opposite been married 26 years and although we bought me one for the church service with matching engagement ring I’ve never wore it meanwhile husband has worn one every day thank the lord he’s never given a shit I’m just not that into jewellery or accessories generally to wear them all the time and that’s all I see it as it doesn’t hold extra significance to me

80sMum · 22/03/2023 14:07

I think it's fine not to have a ring.

Pollywoddles · 22/03/2023 14:10

My husband was adamant he didn’t want one, I really wanted him to wear one. We agreed to get one for the ceremony and if he didn’t like it then he didn’t have to wear it.

Now it’s the first thing he puts on every morning as soon as he gets out of bed. He plays sport and he got himself a silicone ring so he could wear that while playing instead of his actual band. A complete 180!

Spanielsarepainless · 22/03/2023 14:24

My father never had a wedding ring and neither does husband. Their choice.

Parker231 · 22/03/2023 14:48

Pollywoddles · 22/03/2023 14:10

My husband was adamant he didn’t want one, I really wanted him to wear one. We agreed to get one for the ceremony and if he didn’t like it then he didn’t have to wear it.

Now it’s the first thing he puts on every morning as soon as he gets out of bed. He plays sport and he got himself a silicone ring so he could wear that while playing instead of his actual band. A complete 180!

Why did you really want him to wear one?

Ameanstreakamilewide · 22/03/2023 14:52

4EyesandBigThighs · 21/03/2023 13:21

Anyone roses DH not wear a wedding ring?

DP doesn’t want one at all, we get married this year. At first I thought it was because he works a manual labour job; so suggested a silicon ring and perhaps have a metal actual wedding ring put up sage and wear occasionally?

but he doesn’t want one at all and that’s thrown me a little. I mean, realistically it’s just a ring - but I liked the thought of seeing him with a ring on, that symbolisation that we are married maybe?

or am I just being silly?

My husband has one and wore it the day we got married. This was 14 years ago.

But after that...🤷🏻‍♀️ I don't even know where it is now.

I would recommend one though, because I'm sure your children might like to have your wedding rings, when they're grown up.

GCWorkNightmare · 22/03/2023 15:17

HoneyPotBee · 22/03/2023 13:57

If he wears a wedding ring other women will know he’s married.

Maybe they could change their names and titles when they get married so that everyone can judge them based on their marital status instead. 🤔

Bansheed · 22/03/2023 15:50

GCWorkNightmare · 22/03/2023 15:17

Maybe they could change their names and titles when they get married so that everyone can judge them based on their marital status instead. 🤔

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Or as well

IncompleteSenten · 22/03/2023 15:52

HoneyPotBee · 22/03/2023 13:57

If he wears a wedding ring other women will know he’s married.

I assume to stop them trying to seduce him? 🤣🤣

The only person who needs to know he's married and what that means is him. A wedding ring isn't a forcefield.

Pollywoddles · 22/03/2023 16:21

Parker231 · 22/03/2023 14:48

Why did you really want him to wear one?

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I just really like the look of a wedding ring on a man, I don’t know why. It’s nothing to do with marking him as taken or anything, I just like the way it looks.

TrishTrix · 22/03/2023 16:23

What do the men in his family do?

None of the men in mine (most had very long term marriages) wore one. So it isn't something I would necessarily expect.

On the other hand all the women wore both wedding and engagement rings every day - If found it really surprising when I discovered that there are people who don't!

Doesthepopeshitinthewoods · 22/03/2023 16:28

Do some women really believe that these devious Siren hussies will find their portly husbands so irresistible, that they will beguile them with their witchy ways, leaving the men powerless to resist, unless they see a circle on their left hand?

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