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Did he propose? Am I engaged?

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crymeout · 13/03/2023 07:41

DP and I are in the process of buying a house. We've talked about getting married before and wanting to be married but we are going to wait until we move (we never explicitly said this but it was understood by both from circumstances). Last night, we were celebrating our house purchase (I wasn't feeling well at the weekend) and had quite a lot of Prosecco/champagne. At one point DP says 'now all that's left to do is get married' and I said 'yes, please' and we kissed. Does that count? A, I now engaged? DP is fast asleep so can't ask him yet but would you say that counts/assume you were engaged after that??

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BuffaloCauliflower · 13/03/2023 07:43

No I wouldn’t assume you’re engaged, just that he thinks the next thing up is getting engaged.

WhatWouldJeevesDo · 13/03/2023 07:43

Yes

cocksstrideintheevening · 13/03/2023 07:43

No!

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ToBeOrNotToBee · 13/03/2023 07:44

Nope.

SomethingNastyInTheBallPool · 13/03/2023 07:45

Yes, I’d say so.

Pixiedust1234 · 13/03/2023 07:45

No, you are not engaged. He stated that is all thats left to do, it wasn't a question.

Mammyloveswine · 13/03/2023 07:46

Id say no and if he said it was I'd be disappointed there was no proper proposal!

Imamumgetmeoutofhere · 13/03/2023 07:47

I'd say no. He didn't ask the actual question, more of a statement of what's next in the relationship

WindowGazers · 13/03/2023 07:48

No because you can't be engaged without knowing whether you're engaged or not. Just ask him.

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crymeout · 13/03/2023 07:48

@Mammyloveswine to be honest, I'm not bothered about a 'proper' proposal, I just want to be his wife BrewSmile

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crymeout · 13/03/2023 07:48

Didn't mean the tea/coffee emoji!

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Doingmybest12 · 13/03/2023 07:48

I'd say yes ,you both want to marry each other and expect to do so and have declared it to each other.

DrMeredithGrey2023 · 13/03/2023 07:49

No, i would say you are engaged, but I'd say a proposal is coming soon

MamaCanYouBuyMeABanana · 13/03/2023 07:50

You both agreed that you're getting married so I would say you're engaged.

Not sure what pp thinks a 'proper' proposal is, this was a lovely, intimate moment between the two of you while you were celebrating your house move, it sounds lovely. Its sad that some think a proposal has to be a huge organised thing.

SpringIntoChaos · 13/03/2023 07:50

I'd definitely bring it up directly when he wakes up! Ask him...should we set a date for the wedding then? But then, I'm a direct persons and can't be doing with half-guessing and wondering 🤣🤷‍♀️

PinkSyCo · 13/03/2023 07:50

Noooooo.

familyissues12345 · 13/03/2023 07:50

That's very much how we got engaged! DH planned a proper proposal, then decided I'd probably hate it (we'd gone away to celebrate moving in together - staying in a very popular touristy place), so instead he said something along the same lines as your DP OP, and that was that Grin

Violetcrush · 13/03/2023 07:50

I don’t think so, hopefully soon 👰‍♀️

AnnaMagnani · 13/03/2023 07:52

DH gave a similarly vague proposal to me.

I went off and told my parents we were getting married and then he was stuck with it Grin

Following day we picked a venue, married 6 months later.

If you want to be married, take it as a proposal and get cracking.

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crymeout · 13/03/2023 07:53

@AnnaMagnani I love that, I'll just decide for both of us Grin

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WordtoYoMumma · 13/03/2023 07:54

That's kinda what happened with DH and I. We were on holiday and had a lot of sangria, talked about who would we invite when we got married. Next morning found the invite list we wrote on a napkin 😂 and DH said I guess we should buy a ring 🙂

WhenDovesFly · 13/03/2023 07:55

I'd also say no as it was a statement of what comes next, not a question. Also, you'd both been drinking. He seems keen though.

If it's any consolation, my 'proposal' was the least romantic ever. We'd been to a friends wedding and my then bf turned to me and said "you'd look good in a dress like that". I looked at him and asked if he was proposing and he admitted he was. We got married but sadly it never got any better in the romance stakes.

Mammyloveswine · 13/03/2023 07:58

crymeout · 13/03/2023 07:48

@Mammyloveswine to be honest, I'm not bothered about a 'proper' proposal, I just want to be his wife BrewSmile

Then ask him!

Mammyloveswine · 13/03/2023 07:58

Ps looking forward to the update!

CatMattress · 13/03/2023 08:00

I'd say it was a proposal and it sounds romantic to me, but I've always preferred small, meaningful romantic moments over big gestures.