Other than the obvious, what very specific things would cause you to be disappointed in DC when they grew up?

[Deckthehallswithbenandhollly]

I tell my DDs I will love and support all their choices except the following, which would disappoint me:

a) Ever being financially dependent on a man, changing their name on marriage or being 'given away' at a their wedding

b) Voting Tory

c) Being rude to servers/shop floor staff

Beyond the obvious list like not committing murders, what very specific things would upset you? (This is a bit lighthearted and obviously very personal to each of our values)

1. If they became religious

2. if they became Conservatives (or at least for as long as the Cons remain the shitty party of shitty, thick racists).

3. if they were racists.

Faked an orgasm? Are you expecting her to tell you?

I would be very disappointed if they ever cheated on their partner after what they've seen me go through

I hope they find jobs where they can support themselves. I hope they don't make the same mistakes I did

apart from the obvious ones…

1. being financially dependent on a man
2. staying with someone who treats her badl/not having high self-worth
3. not treating animals/wildlife with respect

Being a teacher is mine too 😂

Being led politically socially and emotionally I raised her better than this she foesnt even agree with everything I say ffs and according to my ex I'm a very controlling and forceful person 😂 (I'm really not all my kids are confident in challenging me)

Descending into drug abuse
Being a liar
Abusing others

I’d be disappointed if they grew up to be as judgemental and controlling as your OP comes across tbh.

I'd be disappointed if my son got into weird stuff online e.g. misogynists like Andrew Tate or visited prostitutes. I'd be disappointed if he looked down on people, was stingy with money or subscribed to any Daily Mail type views on e.g. benefits or immigration. Or if he became a cokehead city slicker type. Fortunately he's a lovely, quirky autistic boy who is kind to a fault and has a strong sense of fairness so I don't think he'll be remotely like that as he grows up. I do think the internet is the most likely breeding ground for anything unwholesome though so will keep a close eye on that.

What party should we vote for to show we care about the vulnerable in society?

Labour - the party of child grooming scandals?
Lib dems - the party that turned a blind eye to child abuse committed by its senior members?
Green Party who refused to listen to concerns about an election agent later convicted of torturing and raping a child?

Or is it only certain types of 'vulnerable' people you care about? The 'shop floor staff' you benevolently patronise with 'politeness' perhaps?

Getting a tattoo

Becoming a teacher

Going into the army

Becoming a conspiracy theorist

I have too. I’d be lying though if I said I wouldn’t be disappointed if they voted Tory, or BNP etc.

We would probably have many heated debates!

I don’t vote Conservative myself, but I don’t think it’s very fair to put them in the same category as the BNP! I’d never be friends with a BNP voter but I have several friends who vote Conservative.

What's so terrible about becoming a teacher?

There are a lot of things I wouldn't prefer for them but apart from the obvious (I assume you mean things like crime, addiction, cruelty) I think I'd be disappointed if they became workaholics with young families they had no time for. Not having children for any reason, fine, but I'd be sad to see either of them become a detached and absent parent.

We all have our own personal hang ups and that's mine.

Wouldn't like them to take up a religion or join the army either but I would never say anything about that to them.

I like the critical thinking post

But this one sums it up best for me

It's all about respect

Drug dealing./ Taking
Entitlement
Very rude and lack of manners
Lack of desire to learn and increase their knowledge on different topics

Baffled at this too. I mean, its underpaid right now,but that could change. Or said child could move to a country (norway?) where teachers are paid well.

Surely everyone here has benefited from the work of teachers?

Being bigoted - racist, homophobic etc.

Being one of “those” posh kids (we are MC not rich, but I would hate it if he started making comments about chavs, or benefits scroungers etc). Entitlement in general.

Obviously rape, but any kind of domestic abuse/shittiness as a partner. Including poor behaviour after a divorce, or abandoning children.

Smoking. Any kind of addiction.

Joining the armed forces. I’d be even more pissed off if he wanted to join Cadets in school, as that combines armed forces with twatty posh boy, see above.

Being ostentatiously “spiritual” at any point following his return from a year out - I don’t want to be mum to a Yoga Bro, sorry. We’re already vegetarian anarcho-socialists, that is far enough down that road.

I'd have real difficulty continuing to love my children the same way if they were racist.

. . . like this.

Noone's suggested people don't have the right to vote how they like.

People also have the right to dislike other people who offend their values.

It’s hardly racist to hope your child and potential future grandchildren remain within your faith. I’m atheist, and can see why a Jewish for Catholic, or Muslim) person would hope for that.

The poster didn’t say she’d disown them if they married out, she’d just be a bit disappointed.

If they would believe in crazy conspiracy theories.

Plus other obv things like being racist, horrible, bad parents etc

Not liking reading. (So far ok on that one)

Why would you be disappointed if your adult child got a tattoo?