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DH told us all to fuck ourselves over dinner

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mourndayclub · 25/12/2022 15:45

Thought we could make it through the holidays but that crashed and burned today in spectacular style. DH wanted to have the dog in the dining room and I said I'd her her away as she'd been retching and being sick (MIL unintentionally let her eat a whole load of sheep poo) plus she's a puppy which harasses the kids if there's food.

Because I said no and just complained about it he started shouting and telling me to get out of the kitchen but again I said no because I was trying to dish up potato's and veg, bent to pick up some stuffing from the floor so MIL didn't step on it and he went absolutely crazy told me MIL my DF DSis and all DC to fuck ourselves, fuck off, flipped the double finger at us all and took the dog to the pub. Had dinner without him and now he's returned and pretending it never happened in the living room loving on the dog when all he's done is snapped at the children and me today and then blown up.

Happy Christmas everyone!!!

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Foxytail · 25/12/2022 15:47

Don’t let him pretend he’s not done that

how dare he

Merrychristmaslovelypeeps · 25/12/2022 15:48

I'm so sorry to hear.

Hugs to you.

Try to ignore him completely and spend some lovely time with the rest of your family

ChristmasChair · 25/12/2022 15:48

He swore at his mother, your father, his children? One of the adults needs to have a stern word with him.

mourndayclub · 25/12/2022 15:49

Yep and me and my sifter the entire family all got told to fuck off and double middle fingers

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mourndayclub · 25/12/2022 15:49

All 4 kids at the table too

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NotRightNowNo · 25/12/2022 15:49

What an arse. He'd be a gonna if I were you. Merry Christmas 🎅

Gwdihooooo · 25/12/2022 15:49

What a twat

TheOtherBoleynGirls · 25/12/2022 15:51

And this is the final straw, yes?

mrsbitaly · 25/12/2022 15:51

That's awful I really feel for you and your family.

Foxytail · 25/12/2022 15:51

One of his family members liek his dad or mum need to have a word and tell him he’s out of line big time

WeepingSomnambulist · 25/12/2022 15:51

You said that you thought you could at least make it through the holidays but then he exploded... as if you half expected it. Because this is normal behaviour from him?

Just why? Why are you with him? Why are so many women with abusive, nasty, horrible men? And why do you always think they'll step up and change and give you a nice xmas/birthday/whatever day but they dont and you just... put up with it.

You know who he is. You know how he treats you. Now it is up to you. Stay and accept that this is your life or grow a backbone and leave.

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GetOffTheTableMabel · 25/12/2022 15:52

Do it. Tell him you are absolutely going to fuck off. With half of everything.

mourndayclub · 25/12/2022 15:52

Well yes because last year it was monopoly that did it but at least that wasn't the entire family about to have dinner

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BakedTattie · 25/12/2022 15:53

What’s his mum saying about it?

why has nobody pulled him aside and told him to fuck off?!

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 25/12/2022 15:53

That would be it for me. I'd be filling for divorce. He talks to you like that, and everyone in front of the children. What a nasty piece of work he is. For your kids sake, I hope you decide to split.

ThePear · 25/12/2022 15:53

Looks like ‘trying to make it through’ was a terrible idea, will you be ditching the scumbag?

MassiveSalad22 · 25/12/2022 15:53

What a cunt! At least one of the other adults need to not be an enabler and tell not let him get away with it.

mourndayclub · 25/12/2022 15:54

His mum told him he was out of order she will probably give him an ear bashing at some point but unlikely he'll listen

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mourndayclub · 25/12/2022 15:55

I just feel awful now because I don't want to be on my own and cry but I'm struggling to hold it together with DC and I don't want to be downstairs anywhere around him, I feel awful for MIL and my dad and sister

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Hugasauras · 25/12/2022 15:57

Have a festive LTB. What a prick.

Mummyboy1 · 25/12/2022 16:00

I hope this is your last Christmas with him!! Disgusting behaviour

Escapingafter50years · 25/12/2022 16:03

Your children are being traumatised. It's terrifying to have an explosive parent and to be trapped in what should be a safe home.

He did this last year but its not as bad because he didn't do it when you were just about to have Christmas dinner??!!! What the hell? Why the fuck are you still there?

If you don't end the marriage now you are telling your kids this is acceptable. I hope they are school age and that when they go back they tell someone who will do something about it.

EllesB · 25/12/2022 16:06

He can take the damn dog and get to fuck if he loves it so much.

Spoiling his children’s Christmas over wanting his way with a dog, absolute madness.

FuckConvoGiveMeAForest · 25/12/2022 16:07

Anyone who told my Dad to fuck off would be regretting it for a very long time.