No sandwich in daughter's lunchbox

[Banana7]

We sent DD age 3 to nursery with no sandwich in her lunchbox.
Stupid miscommunication between DH who does drop offs and myself.
I actually called during my lunch break to check if she had eaten her lunch as we suspect she doesn't eat much at all when she has school dinners. We thought packed lunches would help.
I had one of the managers on the phone :she has been very short with us in the past when we tried to raise what we thought were valid concerns about some issues regarding DD and the nursery.
The manager said that she had eaten all her lunch, thanks, bye now.
When I picked my daughter up tonight, she told me she had no sandwich in her lunchbox.
I realised her dad had sent her off without a sandwich.
Since then, I've been thinking about how no one at the nursery was concerned a child's lunch consisted of cucumber, grapes, 2 frubes and 2 baby biscuits...
If it had been me, and I'm a teacher (primary) I'd have rung the parents to check that's all they had given their child, and to offer to give the child a sandwich from school.
Am I being unreasonable thinking that's far from good practice?

I'm not reading 8 pages OP.

Doesn't sound like a good nursery to me. Our nursery would definitely flag this sort of thing to us.

Bur we get daily run downs of all food eaten. It's like a 5min handover every night.

And I always see her keyworker. And I call all the time! No one is ever funny with me.

Sounds to me like the attitude at your nursery is all wrong.

Yeah you messed up, but it takes a village and all that. The fact is you called as well and at no point did they say 'actually we were going to ask because it seemed like her lunch was a bit light today - usually you pack a sandwich'.

Again that's the kinda conversation and the sort of thing our nursery would spot.

Maybe because the OP seems to display very little common sense. Loads of rubbish in the lunch, main part of lunch not put in, claiming to be a teacher yet ringing up the no doubt busy nursery for no good reason, then attempting to put the blame on the nursery for their lack of common sense (at best).

But OP is calling because there's an issue there. She's reasonable under those circs to check in. If you kid cries at every handover, you're reasonable to call and check they've settled, but op wouldn't be if hers skips in happily.

So just to recap we have posters saying it was the DH's mistake but it's OP's responsibility to fix it. And posters asking their DHs' thoughts so they can then be insulting to OP. Other posters saying this is classic MN.

No, it's not 'classic MN'. It's classic MRAs invading the place again. And considering the aggression, deep-rooted misogyny and lack of humour, it's obviously not a Pistonheads incursion but arses from Twitter probably annoyed at how their other house of cards is currently falling down.

How did you and your DH suddenly realise that neither of you had put a sandwich in her lunchbox?
Most odd

I think if the child normally took a reasonable lunch with a sandwich and is obviously well cared for, the nursery wouldn't flag up any concerns.
Perhaps they assumed she had eaten her sandwich, as she does every day then everything else in her lunchbox.

A child who consistently took a poor lunch every day would be a cause for concern and I would think the nursery staff would notice this.

It's all rather a storm in a lunchbox.
Imo

The daughter told them

When I picked my daughter up tonight, she told me she had no sandwich in her lunchbox
I realised her dad had sent her off without a sandwich

She won't let them forget in future!

I expect they realised that the poor sandwich had been left forlornly on the breadboard, hence the mysterious and unprecedented phone call at lunchtime to check if anyone had noticed……….

*The daughter told them

When I picked my daughter up tonight, she told me she had no sandwich in her lunchbox
I realised her dad had sent her off without a sandwich

She won't let them forget in future!*

Sorry, I misread the OP then.
Seems even more ridiculous that OP called the nursery to ask if she'd eaten her lunch then!

I expect they realised that the poor sandwich had been left forlornly on the breadboard, hence the mysterious and unprecedented phone call at lunchtime to check if anyone had noticed……….*

Apparently not. The OP says DD told her at the end of the day.
Makes the lunchtime phone call even more odd to me but hey ho!

Yes rainbowstardrops

Well spotted!😁

Does the OP phone nursery every day?

@Strokethefurrywall absolutely agree. Grapes have been lumbered into the same category as biscuits and frubes 😂 madness

@Strokethefurrywall it's not the grapes themselves. It's the fact that they should be cut in half because of the choking hazard.
Sadly, I know of a little one that died through choking on food 😞

I am astounded by all the unkind comments on this post. All the perfect parents who have never made a mistake being nasty to this poor lady making her feel like a terrible parent for forgetting a sandwich (it happens!), questioning the rest of the lunch in regards to the sugar content (it was a couple of frubes and some fruit not 4 mars bars!) and calling her out for contacting the nursery. Why are you all so eager to be so mean to people? I bet you’re the same lot who were so, so keen to share pictures of Caroline flack and tell everyone to “be kind”. Well you’re all nasty and unkind bullies! OP we all make mistakes and if you have concerns about the nursery then raise them our children are the most important thing in the world to us xx

It's the fact she's trying to blame the nursery for her own mistake.

I'm a nursery manager and would be really disappointed if a member of my team hadn't notice a child had enough food for them. We have in the past had a parent pick up an old lunch box and bring it in. Once opened had mouldy half eaten sandwiches! My staff noticed immediately, thankfully. Parents are equally busy in the mornings so as unfortunate as it was there was a miss communication between the parents, I would be annoyed with the nursery.

The issue isn’t lunch or phone calls!

why aren’t you getting a handover from a key worker! My DC’s nursery every child had a note book with comments written in throughout the day.
we knew drinks, food, toilet, who & what they’d played with & development points to note etc on a daily basis.

on top of this they also had the official EYFS thing with photos and stuff in that we saw less often.

the first was for handover with the parents.

Not the nursery’s issue at all and they didn’t do anything wrong - maybe they thought you’d put less in so she’d eat what she had instead of wasting it or over facing her
you’re trying to pass the blame

btw I’m a teacher too (you seem to think that matters)

I’m a teacher and off my pupils go. I don’t check their lunchboxes and we aren’t allowed to tell parents what to put in there.

lunch time is very busy in all settings as you know. I suggest one person makes the lunch in future so it is complete

She's a very picky eater and we're concerned about her weight which is low for her age. then check and check again that she has a sandwhich for her lunch.

I agree. People have gone bonkers.

It was a one-off! It does not matter!