No sandwich in daughter's lunchbox

[Banana7]

We sent DD age 3 to nursery with no sandwich in her lunchbox.
Stupid miscommunication between DH who does drop offs and myself.
I actually called during my lunch break to check if she had eaten her lunch as we suspect she doesn't eat much at all when she has school dinners. We thought packed lunches would help.
I had one of the managers on the phone :she has been very short with us in the past when we tried to raise what we thought were valid concerns about some issues regarding DD and the nursery.
The manager said that she had eaten all her lunch, thanks, bye now.
When I picked my daughter up tonight, she told me she had no sandwich in her lunchbox.
I realised her dad had sent her off without a sandwich.
Since then, I've been thinking about how no one at the nursery was concerned a child's lunch consisted of cucumber, grapes, 2 frubes and 2 baby biscuits...
If it had been me, and I'm a teacher (primary) I'd have rung the parents to check that's all they had given their child, and to offer to give the child a sandwich from school.
Am I being unreasonable thinking that's far from good practice?

Yabu the kid had two parents but you want to project onto the nursery that your child didn’t have a sandwich. That’s on you two. The worker was probably short with you because you are being overly involved ringing to check whether your child ate their lunch. What would you expect to do from a distance if they hadn’t? As a teacher you should know nursery workers have their hands full without taking phone calls from parents who haven’t sent a sandwich with their child.

I think you just need to accept the mistake was the parents' not the nursery. Plus it's not a bid deal. It's just one meal.

What an odd coincidence.

I'm confused as to why a sandwich wasn't pit in the lunch box at the same time as the 2 yogurts, grapes and biscuits...

agressivity!

You said upthread that you don't trust your child to tell you what they have eaten- so do you even know whether the sandwich was indeed missing or not? Did you find it at home later? Sorry if I missed this?

Is she seeing a pediatrician and dietician? Sounds like you and DH could both use dietician advice re healthy eating/food choices for an underweight child.

Mistakes happen, you and DH cocked up, but projecting YOUR mistake on professionals you trust to care for your child, is childish to say the least- especially as you claim to be a teacher!

Absolute bollocks.

Amazing that you happened to ring to enquire about her lunch on the same day that you forgot to give her the main part.

If you’re that worried over her missing a sandwich one time, and you mentioned all these other issues, why don’t you do what you can to spend more time with her, cut your working hours if you can. You are making way too big a deal. the fault is on your end anyway, not the teachers. Do you something against one of the teachers and you’re looking for something to lodge a complaint against them? Because you are taking something extremely trivial and acting like the teacher committed some atrocious crime that must be investigated and prosecuted. Plenty in her lunchbox without the sandwich. Lecture your husband, or make her lunch yourself.

Yep, this. Sounds like she’s trying to catch the teacher doing something wrong so she can ‘report’ her. What have you got against one of the teachers there, op? Badly done.

Chill.
It's really not a big deal
Bet she had a big tea

By pre-school I think it’s pretty normal for nursery to be a bit more relaxed. We had detailed accounts of what they ate every lunch time on an app up to the age of 3 then it just became a “I think they are all their lunch” at pick up from age 3 upwards. If you want more control over her eating or care then maybe a nanny or childminder set up would work for you better.

Damn this thread is full of bitches!

I'm all for eating healthily, but the way the sugar police have leapt on this thread is really unedifying.

Agressivity? Is that a word?
Meh, if they had concerns they wouldn't be calling you at lunch time, but would probably mention something at pick up.

Agressivity? Is that a word?

Well it must be. Apparently the OP is a teacher😬😬😬

This is the quality content I log onto MN for 😀

Ive worked in nursery. I would have just assumed it was a one off and that the parents just forgot. If your child routienly came without a sandwich or more food Then I would comment

She didn't starve . Don't sweat it .

So let me get my understanding correct....
You forgot to put a sandwich in your daughters lunch.
She ate the rest of her lunch.
You checked up at nursery and they said she'd eaten her lunch.
Nursery told you about the sandwhich when you collected her.

Your annoyed nursery didn't tell you about the sandwich at lunch which would've made no difference because they told you upon collection anyway?

Sorry OP i don't get your point at all. I think you're trying to deflect your own guilt.

My god I feel sorry for the nursery workers. Get a grip.

I think it would not occur to anyone you forgot a sandwich and they would have assumed what you gave was what you felt was enough.

Here’s a fun fact…. You don’t actually need to eat a sandwich to have eaten lunch. Crazy, I know!

I know right? TWO(!!) frubes?! The horror.

I called the nursery almost daily to check if my 3yr old had eaten for first 6 months!
I also over pack her lunch with snacks and fruit and veg.
She is also on the lower side in weight, under a predreatician and a dietician.
Your her mum, it is your duty to worry, yes you made a mistake but these things happen (Not sure y ppl are overreacting)
I would not send my daughter to a nursery that struggles to share information about her day including what she ate, played, bathroom visits/ nappy changes. Especially if she was there so long!
We have photos and videos sent throughout the day and an end of day debrief.

I think they should have mentioned there was no sandwich, especially if you send one in every day.