I’d add, don’t marry him until he has proved ( in actions ) that he wants an equal partnership , not just a housekeeper.
In your situation I would NOT go straight home after work . I’d go to the gym or other classes, meet up with friends , have a meal with or do other social activities or some volunteering.
You can split the household chores at the weekend and get a cleaner to come in when you are both out at work.
Do not I repeat NOT stay at home doing all the unpaid, low status, no pensionable work while he does all the high paid , high status, pensionable and promotion earning work.
The only way he will think about changing his work hours is if HE has the inconvenomve of getting home at 9pm and cooking dinner for himself and tehhe spending weekends doing housework and laundry. At the moment you are not letting him experience the logical consequences of his own choices, you are cushioning him from reality.
Please do not fall for the teamwork argument - that you are a team and you are doing all the grunt work so he can do the high status work. That never EVER works out in the long term, men see all that work as invisible and valueless.
How old are you and do you ever plan to have children? If so, you need to think long and hard about how this will work with your partners hours.
Is he planning to change jobs or go part time when you have children ? If not they you are going to doing 100% of parenting, so make sure you are ready for that. It will be like being a single parent but with much more anger, arguments , resentment and housework and less free time.
Think hard about how you will feel when you’ve not had a nights sleep for months or even years and he won’t help for 5 mins because of his work.
How you will feel when you do all the nursery runs and so then have to work late at night to catch up , while your husband complains that you won’t watch Tv with him.
When you ALWAYS a have to leave work when your child is unwell at childcare and so you miss out on a promotion at work. And then how you will feel when your husband complains that you are not pulling your weight financially and you are not ambitious enough .
Trust me, I’ve been there. I though my Husband would change because he so desperately wanted children. Turns out he wanted the status of being a father and a photo for his desk at work. Not actual flesh and blood children that take time and work to raise .