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Is this message calling my DS ugly?

213 replies

JimmyKeane · 27/09/2022 20:40

NC as outing
A message was posted on the class group chat that specifically referred to my instagram page. I assume it was meant to be sent to another group chat. It was quickly deleted. DH thinks I am looking too much into it. My Instagram is private but lots of the parents follow each other. I am friendly with them but not friends.
The message said " 4 pictures of DS on the swings. She really thinks that boy is special. We all think our children are beautiful"

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NewHopeNow · 28/09/2022 07:40

That message is way more about what she thinks of you than anything about your ds.

Anon778833 · 28/09/2022 08:19

If someone posts photos that you don’t want to see, or you don’t like their posts, then it’s quite simple unfollow them it’s their Instagram - they can post what they like. They can post 40 photos at the swings. They can post photos of paint drying !

But no, there are people who gleefully like to look at someone’s Instagram in bad faith, then report back to a group with more bitching. It’s pathetic, childish and bullying.

Anon778833 · 28/09/2022 08:20

Autumnisclose · 28/09/2022 04:21

I'd block them and hold your head up high without further drama. They will be squirming everytime they see you for the next few years. That's their punishment.

I agree.

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Janeycraney · 28/09/2022 09:26

Don’t engage. Block her on Instagram so she’s clear that you saw it but don’t say anything on the group. If you have any trusted friends in the group you may want to warn them to block her too as she’s obviously bitching to someone about peoples photos.

LAMPS1 · 28/09/2022 12:28

I wouldn’t make a drama either but I would politely respond on the same platform.
You may be wondering if I saw your post before you deleted it. Yes I did and your your opinion about my personal Instagram has been duly noted thanks.
Then steer clear of her …until she grows up.

AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair · 28/09/2022 12:34

norwichmummy123 · 27/09/2022 20:58

I know I have just said it but I do think she is jealous of you somehow. If she wasn't your posts wouldn't bother her. Says more about her than you.

There was a thread the other day about how it's annoying when people post lots of pics of their children on their SM

No oneis jealous, that's silly, they just get fed up sometimes with seeing that type of photo in an eye rolling kind of way

The other mum has been caught out posting what lots of people think on occasions

It's not that big of a deal, only on MN do people exist who never have a bad thought about someone else

StClare101 · 28/09/2022 13:13

Bogofftosomewherehot · 28/09/2022 04:43

You've got the wrong end of the stick.
Not ugly, but she clearly doesn't like you and she believes you over-post and you have heightened opinions of your DS. The fact she appears to have put it on the wrong group and wanted to share such opinions with others (school parents?) insinuates that there's a group that talk about you behind your back.

Are you aware that they feel this way?

Not necessarily a group. Maybe just two bitchy mums who back stab everyone.

maddy68 · 28/09/2022 13:30

Just post "wow". And make no further comment

LovelyIssues · 28/09/2022 17:57

They sound horrible OP! Sorry x

AuldReekie1905 · 28/09/2022 18:29

What is honestly the motivation behind sending a message like that? If I received that from someone, I'd think THEY were ridiculous and the problem rather than join in with their nasty bullying.

AuldReekie1905 · 28/09/2022 18:30

I honestly think in that situation I'd write something like "charming" so they knew I'd seen it and let them squirm.

Mamamoo12 · 28/09/2022 18:42

I would definitely say something to her and let her know you saw it. What a bitch!

WTAFhappened123 · 28/09/2022 18:58

I’d be more upset that there’s another group set up with people who think it’s ok to talk about you/anyone like that! What a bitch! I’d be speaking to the message instigator and ask her what her problem is! What a cow

Missingpop · 28/09/2022 19:17

They’re not saying he’s ugly just that you think he’s amazing tbh my son is the most amazing; talented; wonderful; good looking guy I know but I’m his mum so I’m bias but if anyone said he’s not all that good looking really I’d be pissed off but I’d respect their opinion; I’d sign them up to an appointment at spec savers though 😂 just ignore it your lad is gorgeous & amazing to you your his number one fan & love him unconditionally what they think doesn’t matter one jot x

riceuten · 28/09/2022 19:38

I thought this was going to be "a face only a mother could love", but that's relatively mild

dutyfirstselfsecond · 28/09/2022 19:55

Definitely remove her from your insta. She will know why

Mumontour85 · 28/09/2022 20:16

I'd defo be posting something else that let's these bitches know you saw the message.

I dont think it is anything to do with your sons beauty, or even your son tbh, I think it's a jab at you and how you love your son.

If you don't want to be passive aggressive, outright ask whether there is a group chat just for cunts, and tell them all to fuck off 😁

LifesTooShortForYourNonsense · 28/09/2022 20:22

Just take it as a hint (or don’t, it’s your call!), I wouldn’t take it as that hurtful, certainly nothing to lose sleep over

KingCharlespen · 28/09/2022 20:27

Could you put up a message saying you're confused that someone mentioned your Instagram post and referred to photos of your son. Could they clarify what it was about. Be breezy and direct, she's a cheeky article and deserves called out.

DarthTater3 · 28/09/2022 20:35

As others have said, she’s being a bitch but not calling your child ugly. If you feel brave enough, tell her to her face that you saw it and that it hurt your feelings but at least you now know what sort of a person she is! If you’re not feeling brave just make sure you tell your friends about it so you’re not in your wine with it. Very unlikely you’re the only one who’s noticed this person is a bit of a bitch.

DarthTater3 · 28/09/2022 20:37

Sorry, that should say “not on your own with it”. Nothing to do with wine, although that might help also 😉

anon666 · 28/09/2022 20:43

Just calling you out on being boasty. Very childish and mean.

WorkerBee83 · 28/09/2022 21:11

Wow that’s nasty of her. I would respond in the
group “I saw your message you deleted earlier, would you care to inbox me directly”

drpet49 · 28/09/2022 21:14

WTAFhappened123 · 28/09/2022 18:58

I’d be more upset that there’s another group set up with people who think it’s ok to talk about you/anyone like that! What a bitch! I’d be speaking to the message instigator and ask her what her problem is! What a cow

Exactly this. Nasty bunch of women

Thurst · 28/09/2022 21:15

Eye rolling at someone posting lots of pictures on SM is one thing but going out of your way to message a friend to comment about it is ridiculous. Block her and move on. She’s shown who the ugly one is.