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Is this message calling my DS ugly?

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JimmyKeane · 27/09/2022 20:40

NC as outing
A message was posted on the class group chat that specifically referred to my instagram page. I assume it was meant to be sent to another group chat. It was quickly deleted. DH thinks I am looking too much into it. My Instagram is private but lots of the parents follow each other. I am friendly with them but not friends.
The message said " 4 pictures of DS on the swings. She really thinks that boy is special. We all think our children are beautiful"

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minipie · 27/09/2022 22:25

I’d be tempted to post

”My beautiful boy. Feel free to unfollow if my content isn’t interesting to you”

VeryImportantTitle · 27/09/2022 22:26

She sounds like a jealous beatch! I suspect that they were having a private chat bitch about you and somehow she sent it on the public group chat rather than the private one. Why would it fucking bother her what you have on Insta?

Reallyhadenough · 27/09/2022 22:27

Awful comment! But, my new habit is to sing (to myself) the ABC song (obviously the explicit version) in my head, because people like that are not worth your time or concern xx

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LouisaA8 · 27/09/2022 22:29

I'm not on social media (other than mumsnet) so I'm not privy to what's going on in that, but personally I love seeing parents being proud of their kids. That is not a problem we need to fix as far as I'm concerned. I really think it is lovely! So well done OP.

Notanotherwindow · 27/09/2022 22:31

I'd just upload this tbh

frenchfancy81 · 27/09/2022 22:32

mynameischloe · 27/09/2022 20:50

100% call her out on it. She needs to know you saw her message. I bet she cacked her pants when she realised what she'd done!

Agree...definitely let her know you saw it and say something like "did you change your mind about that message you sent?"...and then "we do all think our kids are great, don't we? Have a great day!" and walk off causally! Says far more about her than it does about you and agree with all the others who've said it's not implying he's ugly- she's ugly on the inside to be so bitchy!

VeryImportantTitle · 27/09/2022 22:37

Reallyhadenough · 27/09/2022 22:27

Awful comment! But, my new habit is to sing (to myself) the ABC song (obviously the explicit version) in my head, because people like that are not worth your time or concern xx

I have been known to send that to a few people lol.

Nowhereelsetogo90 · 27/09/2022 22:39

Fuck that. She doesn’t have to look at your pics if she has a problem. Hope your DS enjoyed the swings!

FiveMins · 27/09/2022 22:43

I would DM and ask to speak to her regarding a message you saw. Then calmly tell her you saw her message and thought it unkind.

I would also stop posting so many pictures of my kid on SM. It's not fair on them.

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No you wouldn’t,

Sometimessometime · 27/09/2022 22:48

Fullsomefrenchie · 27/09/2022 22:46

No you wouldn’t,

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Not this, but just "thanks for the PMs, yes i did see" might work

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MindYourBeeswax · 27/09/2022 22:54

I wouldn't think she is saying your child is ugly at all! Maybe she thinks you're a bit too all out with him but so what!
We all think our children are the best as the old saying goes,

'There's only one swan and every mother has it'!

FatPatsCat · 27/09/2022 22:55

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The fact that the author of the message can check who in the group has read it wouldn't be a hindrance then?

Nottidaythanks · 27/09/2022 22:57

Mums never cease to amaze me with the level of bitchiness they're capable of. At least you know what they're like now though and can avoid even more!

Charlize43 · 27/09/2022 23:03

She sounds like a total bitch. Women can be so nasty.

Itsokay2020 · 27/09/2022 23:11

It never ceases to amaze me that there are actually adult women who behave in such a vile way. I would have to call her out on it, I cannot stand this unnecessary bitchiness… I bet she’s one of #bekind crew too 🙄

AlwaysGinPlease · 27/09/2022 23:21

Nasty! Do NOT let her get away with it! I'd also question who she was so comfortable messaging this to...

FlissyPaps · 27/09/2022 23:21

I hope to God you’ve publicly called her out on this in the group chat …

Just screenshot and post the message where it says “Bitch deleted this message”. Then reply saying “I saw that, Bitch”

VeryImportantTitle · 27/09/2022 23:26

There's an old saying my grandmother used and it was 'Love many, trust few and always paddle your own canoe'.
I have been so let down by so-called friends, by family, by relatives, by colleagues, employers, neighbours and even just by society in general. That maxim now makes sense to me.

Another quote that I love is 'Life is a helluva thing to happen to someone'.

The point is that in life, haters be hating. I have 21 friends on Social Media as people think that everybody cares about them when the reality is that nobody cares and worse still, in some cases, people are downright nasty. I trust nobody in this world. Nobody.

I suppose my advice would be to just unfollow them or whatever the term is for Instagram. At the end of the day, close family are about the only ones who might care and even then, sometimes they don't care either!

VeryImportantTitle · 27/09/2022 23:30

It must have been so hurtful to read what that nasty woman wrote. Your inner beauty shines as you're not concerned about how hurt you are as you are that she's insulting your ds. That's pure motherly love. Forget about that nasty cow. She is nothing to you! Remove her (and the other 'Mums') from your social media and get on with your life.

DramaAlpaca · 27/09/2022 23:32

Ooh, that was bitchy!

Keep that one at arm's length, she's naaasty.

CarrieCrow · 27/09/2022 23:36

Link this thread in the group chat ;-)

Charcy · 27/09/2022 23:39

Ewww. I've said this before and I'll say it again. The absolute WORST thing about becoming a Mum, is other Mums. What a sad act she must be.
Absolutely DO NOT shrink into the background. Class bullies need to be called out. She's gross.