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Is this message calling my DS ugly?

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JimmyKeane · 27/09/2022 20:40

NC as outing
A message was posted on the class group chat that specifically referred to my instagram page. I assume it was meant to be sent to another group chat. It was quickly deleted. DH thinks I am looking too much into it. My Instagram is private but lots of the parents follow each other. I am friendly with them but not friends.
The message said " 4 pictures of DS on the swings. She really thinks that boy is special. We all think our children are beautiful"

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megosaurusrex · 27/09/2022 23:40

😂 I love this. Tomorrow post 20 pictures of him on the swings with ‘I think this boy is really something special’ underneath as the caption. Or have him wearing a ‘really special boy’ t-shirt.

Ahahaha 😂 please do this!!

ThatWasThat · 27/09/2022 23:43

You can close this down acknowledging the post by say ‘we do’. This notes that you have seen her post (which was unnecessary) and also recognises that we all have in common a soft spot for our own (however defined)

Mojitoo · 27/09/2022 23:49

It sounds like there’s a separate group chat for a group of the mums to slag some of you off. I’d block every one of them on Instagram, personally. They’ll know why. I’m sure lots of pp have had fun coming up with ‘witty’ comebacks but this is your actual life and you are presumably going to have to breathe the same air as these people for a few more years

This is good advice, on all fronts.

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ThereIbledit · 27/09/2022 23:55

Blocking them all on instagram is a good idea.

I think I'd put in the group chat just one word:

Noted.

VeryImportantTitle · 28/09/2022 00:08

I'm a little bit of c**t so I'd be tempted to say. 'Hey beatch, your kid so ugly even his Momma don't love him!'. Accompanied by a photo of your beautiful boy on the swings.

I'm learning that reacting doesn't get me anywhere though.

I love this little cat video as I have been THAT mother. DID YOU JUST GO THERE? LOL

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/MB_pE0m_m_g

VeryImportantTitle · 28/09/2022 00:11

Did you just... cat video

DomPom47 · 28/09/2022 00:27

Wow, what great parent material they are. OP don’t let it get to you, you should feel sorry for people like that who clearly don’t have anything better or kinder to do than gossip and pass negative comments on others. When this then involves peoples kids that’s an all time low. Xx

CrustyFlake · 28/09/2022 00:29

I don't think she's saying he's ugly, I think she's saying that you post too many pictures of him.

She's being very bitchy and unpleasant. I would say in the group chat that you have seen what she said. Make it awkward for her.

TomBradysLeftKneecap · 28/09/2022 00:44

If you can't post 4 photos of your own kid on your own private Insta, where the heck can you?! I 100% love the idea of 20 photos of your child on a swing with an "I'm special" t-shirt on. And then, once you know they've seen it, block the lot of the bitchy idiots.

By the way, I'm presuming your child is like 3 or 4 and not a 12 year old on a swing?!

HoppingPavlova · 28/09/2022 00:57

It’s bitchy and inappropriate but how on earth do you get that it may have been calling your son ugly?????

FirstFallopians · 28/09/2022 00:59

Urgh no I wouldn’t be using any of the clap-backs or smart comments posted upthread.

Although she’s been a total knob there will be other parents in the chat who won’t care for the detail and will just lump you and Bitchy Mum together as drama queens for creating awkwardness

In a class of 30 kids, most parents will be using that group for reminders for World Book Day costumes or checking if anyone has seen a lost bit of uniform. They won’t care at best, and at worst will think you’re both as bad as each other.

A PP mentioned she’s probably already shitting herself, which would satisfy me. You have to deal with these people on a semi regular basis for the foreseeable- I’d just take it as a blessing in disguise that this woman has shown she’s not worth bothering with.

StClare101 · 28/09/2022 01:12

She’s being nasty and snipping about you posting too much on what she thought was a separate chat. What a twat.

I would delete her from your followers immediately. I would also be tempted to write back to the group “@ twat, saw your message. How unkind to write that when you could have just unfollowed me. Never mind, I’ve done it for you”. Let her be gossiped about instead.

NumberTheory · 28/09/2022 01:34

She’s not calling your son ugly. She’s making a snide comment about you, implying you go on about your son and overstate his gifts to an unwarranted extent. (Which all decent parents do, and should do, to a small extent - if your own parents don’t think you’re the bees knees, who’s going to?)

MrsBonkers · 28/09/2022 02:10

Your next instagram posts....

Is this message calling my DS ugly?
Is this message calling my DS ugly?
autocollantes · 28/09/2022 02:51

I agree they're (both, not just message mum) bitching about you, not your son. Most being said about him is he's a normal kid, not that he's actually ugly. But to even bring that up is ridiculous.

Your IG is private. Is she following you or is it via another mother? It's possible someone is screenshotting your account and sending her photos, or the other person is bitching and she's joining in. I think you need to do a Wagatha Christie to find out who it is and then block them!

Bottom line is you can post 1000's of photos of your DS per day if you like. It's your account and it's private. If someone doesn't like your account, they can unfollow you. Instead they're bitching. The problem is 100% theirs.

Fraaahnces · 28/09/2022 02:57

While I would like to think I would rise above it and say nothing, I’d probably send her an IM saying “It’s so good to know where I stand.”

1Dream · 28/09/2022 03:34

I don't think she's calling him ugly. She's just being a bitch. A girl that I know has a 2 year old and would post 10 photos of the child posing with slight movements in the same pose and while I eye roll at it, as i find it unnecessary to post multiple photos of the same pose with different movements, it's a free country and she can post what she likes just like you can :) so ignore her x

Nevertouchakoala · 28/09/2022 04:07

That comment says more about them than you or your son! Very bitchy and not a reflection on your son

Autumnisclose · 28/09/2022 04:21

I'd block them and hold your head up high without further drama. They will be squirming everytime they see you for the next few years. That's their punishment.

Bogofftosomewherehot · 28/09/2022 04:43

You've got the wrong end of the stick.
Not ugly, but she clearly doesn't like you and she believes you over-post and you have heightened opinions of your DS. The fact she appears to have put it on the wrong group and wanted to share such opinions with others (school parents?) insinuates that there's a group that talk about you behind your back.

Are you aware that they feel this way?

Bogofftosomewherehot · 28/09/2022 04:55

To add, I know a mum who has shared over 250 pics of her kids over the last 3 weeks. That's her right. It's also my right to roll my eyes and think that she should realise that everyone else isn't as interested!

Your 4 photos - not excessive, but what does your previous posting suggest to the outside world (and do you care)?

youlooklikeapenis · 28/09/2022 05:09

She's saying 'we all think our kids are beautiful but we don't post loads of mundane photos that no one else cares about'. She fucked up not keeping that thought in her head.

It also means that she and whoever she chats to have bitched about you before.

I'd think carefully about what I reply.

BeautifulWar · 28/09/2022 05:49

Wow, so much drama over a stupid comment. Some of these reactions are mental.

The woman probably isn't jealous, she's just being a cow, but it's hardly worth starting WW3 over it. You have her cards marked, block her from SM.

If she really is a mean girl type, posting these 'witty' responses will probably just entertain her and not embarrass her at all.

Way over the top.

hellcatspangle · 28/09/2022 07:17

Make sure you block her on Instagram, so she knows you saw the message, she will be squirming.

Cosycover · 28/09/2022 07:38

You must post alot.

Tbh I don't understand people who post loads of pics of a trip to the park. My DH and I do talk about a women we know who does this. But we wouldn't discuss with anyone else.

You are the topic of their chat it seems. It's nasty yeah but who cares what they think.

They aren't your friends.