Is this message calling my DS ugly?

[JimmyKeane]

NC as outing
A message was posted on the class group chat that specifically referred to my instagram page. I assume it was meant to be sent to another group chat. It was quickly deleted. DH thinks I am looking too much into it. My Instagram is private but lots of the parents follow each other. I am friendly with them but not friends.
The message said " 4 pictures of DS on the swings. She really thinks that boy is special. We all think our children are beautiful"

Just remove her or block her from your Instagram

Very mean

Block her on IG as pp suggested

She's not saying he's ugly. She's saying you post too much about him and overblow how amazing and gorgeous he is.

It's not saying he's ugly. It's saying that (in her opinion) you post too much about him. but that is nobody's business other than yours.

She's being bitchy about you, not your son.

Not nice at all, but not calling him ugly.

I'd post something back. Probably along the lines of how some parents are bitchier than the children.

Oh actually on second thoughts, don’t say a word just quietly remove her.

She will be wondering what you saw and if you’re going to say anything. Far better to keep her in the dark.

This is the perfect response. She knows you know, but you haven't done anything she can complain to anyone about. Call her out in the group and she might find some sympathetic ears. Do a tongue in cheek post making fun of what she said and everyone thinks you're a good sport whilst she knows you know she was bitching about you.

This but mighty bitchy. I’d pull her on it.

Probably too late to write "Ahem" now, but never too late for an allusion to Thumper...

Sounds like it wasn't just her as there was definitely an audience for her post somewhere, she just posted it to the wrong chat first.

I'm sorry, OP. That's really shit of her/them.

She's being a bitch to you, not your kid and I'll bet it's not the first time

I don't know anything about Instagram, maybe you can block people.

She probably hates you (and any other woman she wants to be like) for other reasons but is picking on anything she can. She is obviously insecure and if you prettier/slimmer/cleverer/richer/nicer car/nicer shoes/nicer handbag.....she will have a go. That sort always do. Its amazingly pathetic. She is trying to pick herself up by dragging you down.
I agree that posting something that makes it clear you saw her post, whilst laughing about it, is the best way to go.

Show that zero fucks are given.

I would leave the group chat to prove a point to be honest. No one has time for that! Complete bitchiness. They obviously have another chat where they slag other parents and children off.
I remove myself from everything school related. I’m friendly but not friends with anyone for this reason.
it seems like half the parents don’t have a life apart from their kids social/ school lives. Don’t have time for it!

I’d be tearing her a new one right now if I was you.

It was an unkind thing to say and I wouldn't want to be on the receiving end. However, I can't be the only person who has posted something to one person/group and then had a mild panic and double-checked where I had put it. It is probably just a funny comment intended for close friends and the poster is mortified. If it was me, OP, I think I might keep the majoriy of my "proud mum" posts reserved for family in future rather than spamming groups of people you don't really know very well.

And this is why I’m glad to be autistic and not to need nasty, bitchy women as friends (not really friends).

Definitely call her out on it!

I HATE women bitching on WhatsApp groups. I called it out when one woman was being targeted and bitched about every day (same thing - always referencing insta photos). Nasty cows.

I think I’d respond with ‘yes we all think our kids are fabulous - why did you delete your message?’

By sending that message accidentally to the group she’s outed herself as a nasty cunt.

I’d be tempted to reply in such a way as to let her know I’d seen it, but then I’m confrontational. I’d want her to squirm

I’d just delete the whole lot off my Instagram. Like an earlier poster said, she must have had an audience but I wouldn’t want to have it out in a group chat of school mums. Just quietly delete them but don’t make a drama out of it.

Oh, and like all the pics of kids on swings on any of other mums accounts.

OP please come back and tell us that you posted something in the group asking why that person was being a cunt?!

I couldn't resist if it was me

OP posted the pictures on her private instagram. Nobody has forced this woman (and whover she was bitching to about her) to follow her and view these posts. And if the 'funny' comment is regarding someone who is not in on the joke and not making those types of comments in return, it isn't a joke, is it? It's just bitching.

It sounds like there’s a separate group chat for a group of the mums to slag some of you off. I’d block every one of them on Instagram, personally. They’ll know why. I’m sure lots of pp have had fun coming up with ‘witty’ comebacks but this is your actual life and you are presumably going to have to breathe the same air as these people for a few more years.

Wouldnt say they're calling your son ugly but having a pop at your posts for sure.

Hope you called the silly cow out. We all think our children are the best thing in the world; they deserve nothing less. ❤

Yep. I like this.

I’d like to think I wouldn’t let something like that pass and really make it awkward for the arsehole who wrote it.