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Is this message calling my DS ugly?

213 replies

JimmyKeane · 27/09/2022 20:40

NC as outing
A message was posted on the class group chat that specifically referred to my instagram page. I assume it was meant to be sent to another group chat. It was quickly deleted. DH thinks I am looking too much into it. My Instagram is private but lots of the parents follow each other. I am friendly with them but not friends.
The message said " 4 pictures of DS on the swings. She really thinks that boy is special. We all think our children are beautiful"

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JenniferBarkley · 27/09/2022 21:02

Not calling your son ugly, and not jealous. She's saying that you post too many photos of mundane things, like trips to the park.

Agree she'll be sick with panic, so leave her to stew and say nothing.

iekanda · 27/09/2022 21:02

I'd say she's saying he's nothing special. Not ugly. A nasty thing to write, regardless. A parent is supposed to think their kid is special.

SemperIdem · 27/09/2022 21:03

I wouldn’t be so confident that she’s overly worried about you seeing it, she deleted it because it was sent to the wrong place. She probably doesn’t give a shit.

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BillyBobBear · 27/09/2022 21:03

greyspottedgoose · 27/09/2022 20:53

I would call her out on the group chat, I saw your comment about my child's pictures, would you like to speak privately about it?

Then you have shamed her in front of others, who may have missed it and become aware she is a bitch, but look like the bigger person for not going all guns blazing in the group chat

This!!!!

Fullsomefrenchie · 27/09/2022 21:04

You’ve misunderstood; it’s not a dig at your son. It’s a dig at you. They think you’re in some way obsessed with your kid. But she’s softened it and said we all think our kid is beautiful.

either way. No she’s not saying your kid is ugly. She is having a go at you.

norwichmummy123 · 27/09/2022 21:05

Fullsomefrenchie · 27/09/2022 21:04

You’ve misunderstood; it’s not a dig at your son. It’s a dig at you. They think you’re in some way obsessed with your kid. But she’s softened it and said we all think our kid is beautiful.

either way. No she’s not saying your kid is ugly. She is having a go at you.

Yes this. It's you. Their prob not yours.

caringcarer · 27/09/2022 21:09

Lots of pictures. The most special boy ever.

Backtoblack1 · 27/09/2022 21:10

What a horrible bitchy thing to say. Definitely call her out on it x

GroggyLegs · 27/09/2022 21:11

OverCCCs · 27/09/2022 20:58

I disagree and don’t think you should try to publicly humiliate her. Sure, what she said wasn’t kind, but there is no expectation or rule that we have to be kind every minute of the day or in private chats with our friends.

The anxiety she must me feeling over whether you did or didn’t see it can be a good enough consequence for messaging carelessly.

The anxiety is.over being caught.out behaving like a spiteful teenager.

I would follow.upmwith 'Saw.tour.message Jane. Are.you at pick up tomorrow? We could discuss it then'

No.public.humilatiom, but

PinkPanther50 · 27/09/2022 21:11

Tickledpickled · 27/09/2022 20:43

She’s being a bitch. Call her out on the chat so she knows you’ve seen it “I saw your message before you deleted it.. who was it for?”

Definitely do this

GroggyLegs · 27/09/2022 21:12

Argh!
...No public humiliation, but definitely let her know her ugly behaviour was clocked.

howshouldibehave · 27/09/2022 21:14

I very much doubt she is jealous of you or thinks your child is ugly. She is bitching about you posting lots of similar photos of your son online to a different WhatsApp group, and sent it to this one by mistake.

RedHelenB · 27/09/2022 21:15

catchthedog · 27/09/2022 20:43

no not ugly but they think you post too much about your child.

This. Unless of course your child is ugly?

HowDOyouspellIt · 27/09/2022 21:22

OP - you said she deleted it quickly. Did you see it first or did someone else tell you? And are you 💯 sure it's about you?

Assuming yes, Simply block her on Instagram. (And I'd be tempted to message and say " don't worry, you won't see any more photos I post").

BurtBacharach · 27/09/2022 21:25

It’s horrible but not calling your son ugly, just bitching about how many pictures you post maybe? She could just unfollow you if she a problem!

MagsR2356 · 27/09/2022 21:25

Wow that’s so nasty and bitchy! She should be ashamed
its not meant as he’s ugly I think it’s just nastiest and that she thinks you think he’s special as all mums do!! Bitchy of her and nothing else. I would definitely say something to her and she should have the decency to look embarrassed and be ashamed of herself.

Mojitoo · 27/09/2022 21:25

Another one just saying that she wasn't calling your DS ugly, not at all. She was caught out being mean about you though.

You know what she is now. If you do message, keep it short, factual and honest.

Or this: Grin

I love this. Tomorrow post 20 pictures of him on the swings with ‘I think this boy is really something special’ underneath as the caption. Or have him wearing a ‘really special boy’ t-shirt

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 27/09/2022 21:25

She's a bitch, block her from your instant and ignore. Does she never post pictures of her dc?

JenniferBarkley · 27/09/2022 21:26

HowDOyouspellIt · 27/09/2022 21:22

OP - you said she deleted it quickly. Did you see it first or did someone else tell you? And are you 💯 sure it's about you?

Assuming yes, Simply block her on Instagram. (And I'd be tempted to message and say " don't worry, you won't see any more photos I post").

I think it would be quite the coincidence if two women the messenger knew had posted four pictures of their DS on a swing that day Grin

KeepOutingMyselfAnotherNameChange · 27/09/2022 21:27

Nowtbat is bitchy. I assumeyou post about him alot and they find that annoyi

KeepOutingMyselfAnotherNameChange · 27/09/2022 21:27

Annoying

steff13 · 27/09/2022 21:28

That wasn't very nice, but I don't think she was calling him ugly, more making a comment on the number of pics you post. If she doesn't like it she doesn't have to follow you.

Why do people always jump to jealousy in these situations? What is she jealous of? She has children of her own based on the message. Do you think she's unable to make her own Instagram page and she wants one?

SalviaOfficinalis · 27/09/2022 21:30

Fullsomefrenchie · 27/09/2022 21:04

You’ve misunderstood; it’s not a dig at your son. It’s a dig at you. They think you’re in some way obsessed with your kid. But she’s softened it and said we all think our kid is beautiful.

either way. No she’s not saying your kid is ugly. She is having a go at you.

Agree.
She’s saying you think everyone is as interested as seeing pics of your DS as you are.

Do you post a lot of your DC on Instagram?

Isaidnoalready · 27/09/2022 21:30

Just remove her or block her fr

SpidersAreShitheads · 27/09/2022 21:31

I would definitely reply lightly but pointedly along the lines of “eh @ bitchymumname - saw your message in here before it was deleted, who was that meant for? But yes, I absolutely think DS is gorgeous, mum’s prerogative, right? 😅”

And I’d block her on Insta - and also think very carefully about who else is on there that she was planning on having a right old bitch about you with. If I’m doubt just remove anyone who you wouldn’t class as a genuine friend.