Is this message calling my DS ugly?

[JimmyKeane]

NC as outing
A message was posted on the class group chat that specifically referred to my instagram page. I assume it was meant to be sent to another group chat. It was quickly deleted. DH thinks I am looking too much into it. My Instagram is private but lots of the parents follow each other. I am friendly with them but not friends.
The message said " 4 pictures of DS on the swings. She really thinks that boy is special. We all think our children are beautiful"

@JimmyKeane Social media is a whole new level of toxic.
I’d take it as her bitching about you putting pics up of your boy- but heck!
Isn’t that what parents do?

My adult DS here, I asked him what he thinks-he says “ Their own lives are shit if they have to make comments like that “
What a load of meanies!

I would remove myself from the group chat as look like there is another one set up your not a part of and you are being talked about. Then remove her from your Instagram. I just wouldn’t put any energy into giving her a reaction in a group chat just for her to talk about you in another chat anyway.

Please say you posted something.

I’d ask the group

anyone want to go to the park tomorrow after school?😉

Tomorrow post 5 photos of him on the swing on Instagram, then post I do think this boy is special, yes, because he is. So an extra photo for you today 😘

She bitching about you, implying you're a baby bore, it has nothing to do with your son.

In fact, I'm a bit confused as to why you think she saying your son is ugly - that's a strange takeaway IMO.

That is such a mean spirited message to send. Obviously jealous and has nothing better to be doing with her time. I'd be tempted to post a message saying just put up 4 pics of my ds isn't he so special but then I think all children are beautiful.

'Sorry that you feel four photos of my child on my Instagram page is special. Of course we all think that our own children are beautiful, it's human nature. Not sure what you were trying to achieve by stating this publicly though?'

And I would post this quickly, before too much time passed.

Yes, call her out on it in a dignified way. I’d go with ‘if you have a problem with my post, I’d appreciate it if you would raise it with me privately.’

This.

I think this is really rude, but sounds more as though they're accusing you of being boastful, than your ds of being ugly. Not that either is very nice!

She thinks you show off too much about your son and think he's the best kid to ever be born, but that actually everyone thinks that about their own kid.

This.

Firstly she said it because she has a receptive audience and also the second part. Walk away

Very 'Mean Girls'.

She's not calling him ugly; she's being nasty and gossipping about you posting so many photos of your child.

I'd reply on the group chat, tagging her, "saw your now-deleted message (assume you meant to post about me to another group). Yes I think my child is special, the same as every other parent. If you don't like my social media posts please feel free to unfollow me".

Wow bitchy. What an absolute cow. I don’t think saying he’s ugly just that you think he’s amazing as all parents should/do of their own kids. I’d be feeling but I would probably post on the group chat so she knows and everyone else knows that you saw it she will be mortified and so she should be.

@JimmyKeane exactly what @Puppers has written it’s out perfectly

*put

It was @JimmyKeane s private Instagram- not spammage?!

Call her out. At least for your own satisfaction. CF

It's a real 'mean girls' thing to do. No wonder some school students get caught up in online nonsense. It's learned behaviour. Just remove her from your Insta. I hate these groups which are separate from a main group set up by someone who only invites exclusive people!

You could post a photo of DS on his swing on the group chat :)

I'd want to know which other group member(s) were the intended recipient so you can block them too.

'Hi Jane, bit of a group chat fail eh? I did see it and will keep my thoughts to myself, but be good to know who you thought you were discussing me with? - cheers'

Definitely reply to her on the group. Call her out. I imagine the other Mums will be mortified too and be annoyed with her. Say something to the point ‘Noticed you deleted that message pretty swiftly Jane? Take it that was meant for me? Let’s chat tomorrow. Blocked you from Insta so you no longer have to put up with my posts. Have a good night, chat tomorrow. X

And then I would block everyone you suspect she was messaging on Instagram. And I wouldn’t chat to her tomorrow, I’d blank her, but she will be shitting herself all night. Reply soon, before a generic message gets sent round. You want to reply under the ‘message has been deleted’ post.

I would send a comment like “yes I do :)”

id write something on the chat like-
thank good for the delete button eh! For the record- yes, I do think my son is beautiful

what a bitch! She’s obviously not go the balls to leave the comment there! I would make your profile private and remove her from your followers x

"PMSL, a 30 something mean girl 😂. Have you all nothing more interesting to talk about? #flattered"

The trouble with the 'witty' responses is that this woman is not behaving like this in a vacuum. Her intended audience for the bitchy comments are in the main group too and she might well have been responding to something someone else said and they might get defensive/nasty . Best to mute the group. Only unmute when you need school info and block these women from your instagram. To be honest, I think photos of your children should only available to people you like/love and who are fond of your kids.