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Things that happened to you that you thought would never happen to someone like you?

486 replies

besentsl · 17/07/2022 10:28

Me… abortion. Thought it happened to other women.

Later on a single parent. Was not at all what I thought I would allow to happen but of course you learn life isn’t like that! Many people said they couldn’t believe it had happened as I’m quite conservative and careful but it did!

Sometimes I don’t recognise me though I am still me. Anyone else experienced this?

OP posts:
LoudingVoice · 17/07/2022 10:29

Not being able to have kids, I’d never given it much thought and assumed it would just happen.

Failed ivf and miscarriages later I’m coming to terms with it just not happening.

weebarra · 17/07/2022 10:32

Cancer! Aged 36 and 8 weeks after my 3rd DC.

FrancescaContini · 17/07/2022 10:33

weebarra · 17/07/2022 10:32

Cancer! Aged 36 and 8 weeks after my 3rd DC.

So sorry. I hope you’re well now.🌸

Mumoftwoinprimary · 17/07/2022 10:35

Lockdown!

I kept wanting to phone people and say “OMG - you’ll never guess what crazy thing is happening to us!” And then remembering that exactly the same thing was happening to them.

LadyPenelope68 · 17/07/2022 10:35

Having a son who is using drugs ☹️☹️

weebarra · 17/07/2022 10:37

I am! It's now nearly 8 years later and I'm fine (still on meds but I'm used to that!).

stinkingheat · 17/07/2022 10:37

Got into a relationship with an abusive conman. Always thought I had a good nose for people, and never thought I'd open myself up to being financially vulnerable like that. He was very clever (not clever enough in the end, though) and I know on a rational level that he preyed on me and has done similar to countless other professional and intelligent women, but I still feel a huge amount of shame over the situation.

Undecidedandtorn · 17/07/2022 10:39

Being single. I thought I had a good relationship but it crumbled in a matter of months

95percentcocoa · 17/07/2022 10:39

Became really senior at work (Director level). Started in junior role 25 years ago. Worked hard and did well in each position and kept being asked to step up into more senior positions until one day I was there. Never particularly ambitious.

watcherintherye · 17/07/2022 10:40

Having the kind of house (nothing fancy - semi-detached) that Mum and I used to walk past when I was a child and we were living in grotty one or two bedroom rented flats or occasionally, between rentals, Bed and Breakfast places, with our furniture in storage.

23leaplo3 · 17/07/2022 10:40

I never thought I'd have miscarriages then later in life, like you OP, an abortion esp after my years and years of ttc. I thought that it happened to teenagers, naively, not married women with dc.

I also never thought I'd be a mum of a baby who spent his first few months in hospital and later in life still needs various admissions. I thought that happened to a rare few. But not me.

FrancescaContini · 17/07/2022 10:42

weebarra · 17/07/2022 10:37

I am! It's now nearly 8 years later and I'm fine (still on meds but I'm used to that!).

Really pleased for you 😊

FlamingoYellow · 17/07/2022 10:43

besentsl · 17/07/2022 10:28

Me… abortion. Thought it happened to other women.

Later on a single parent. Was not at all what I thought I would allow to happen but of course you learn life isn’t like that! Many people said they couldn’t believe it had happened as I’m quite conservative and careful but it did!

Sometimes I don’t recognise me though I am still me. Anyone else experienced this?

Both of these things for me too. I feel like it's all happened to someone else sometimes

FrancescaContini · 17/07/2022 10:43

watcherintherye · 17/07/2022 10:40

Having the kind of house (nothing fancy - semi-detached) that Mum and I used to walk past when I was a child and we were living in grotty one or two bedroom rented flats or occasionally, between rentals, Bed and Breakfast places, with our furniture in storage.

This is lovely 😊 a really positive “unexpected thing” for you.

PuttingDownRoots · 17/07/2022 10:43

Getting dragged off the street by a man who wanted to... who knows. I escaped and ran faster than him.

16 years ago. I still have issues with being in places I cant escape from.

MythicalBiologicalFennel · 17/07/2022 10:46

Having children
Miscarriage
Hyperemesis gravidarum
Having a child who was violent towards me and her dad (not for a couple of years now thank God)
Being able to fly without fear and actually enjoy flying

Deadringer · 17/07/2022 10:47

Not as interesting as pps but I never thought I would be fat. Seriously underweight for most of my childhood and slim when I was young. I hate being fat!

HoollyWugger · 17/07/2022 10:48

MythologicalBiologicalFennel same here re the CPV (child to (grand)parent violence). Also never thought I'd be raising my grandchild.

IrishMama2015 · 17/07/2022 10:49

Finding someone who loves me unconditionally and has never wavered in being beside me - through weight up and downs, post partum, tough financial times, miscarriage etc. honestly never thought I would have that as didn't 'deserve' it because I am fat

SweatyChamoisPad · 17/07/2022 10:50

Losing all my close blood relatives by the time I was 48. I have no grandparents, parents, siblings, kids, aunties, uncles or spouse - it’s made me feel completely unanchored and like I don’t have a home.

Not getting married or having children - I always thought it would work out in the end and then it just didn’t. Devastating.

RosesAndHellebores · 17/07/2022 10:51

Secondary infertility and losing babies at 17, 12 and 27 weeks.

Having a child suffer with severe depression and anxiety between 15 and 17, being declined M

Pyewhacket · 17/07/2022 10:52

Tending to children with bullet wounds.

I was used to shit pay, wiping bums, taking blood and filling out forms. Then I went to work in the US for a number of years.

VenusStarr · 17/07/2022 10:53

Experiencing infertility and then losing 4 babies, having ivf and extensive immune treatment and losing 2 more babies. Facing a life of no living children.

WorryMcGee · 17/07/2022 10:54

Having a baby after my husband recovered from a brain tumour. Never thought something like that would happen to us and prior to it happening we didn’t want children!

CanYouSeeMeOverHere · 17/07/2022 10:56
  • Having a loving, healthy long term relationship.
  • Having a child with learning difficulties.
  • One of my children having a life-changing accident last year.
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