Things that happened to you that you thought would never happen to someone like you?

[besentsl]

Me… abortion. Thought it happened to other women.

Later on a single parent. Was not at all what I thought I would allow to happen but of course you learn life isn’t like that! Many people said they couldn’t believe it had happened as I’m quite conservative and careful but it did!

Sometimes I don’t recognise me though I am still me. Anyone else experienced this?

Also being fat. I 'm addressing this though and have lost 1 1/2 stone. Only another 4 to go

Amassing wealth to the tune of three quarters of a million pounds at age 52.

I come from a penniless working class background. I didn't marry money and I didn't inherit money. Starting in my 20s I brought a house and drip fed small amounts of money into pensions and Isas. I live alone and earn £16 an hour which is the most I've ever earned.

It pays to invest.

Lots of things both good and some not so good but the main things are all related to domestic abuse - tolerating it for so long, having to call the police finally, having to go to court twice and face his lies, with support from a domestic abuse charity etc. All unbelievable even now we are safely away.

Love to all for whom life is not quite how we planned. Xxx

I never thought I’d be lucky enough to meet and marry such an amazing man who loves and adores me so much. I truly never thought anyone would love me let alone someone lie him who I love so much.

like* him

Having a heart attack at age 39.

miscarrying after 3 healthy pregnancies.

Yes me too.

Being overweight for me too.

I was always slim when I was younger and I was really proud of my body. Throughout my 20s the weight just crept up on me and I didn’t notice it that much in the mirror. I saw a few photos of myself last year and couldn’t believe how big I was.

I’ve managed to lose most of it and I’m determined to live a healthier life now. I never want to be back at the size I was.

Losing my beloved parents in my thirties. Getting married and divorced in my early 20s. Adopting a child with severe anger issues. Marrying a man in my 30s who, now in his 50s has changed completely. He is severely mentally ill and our relationship now is carer and patient, but I can't abandon him, I'm trapped in this situation until one of us dies. Having no "proper" marriage in my 50s. Having to give up my job when I've worked all my life. Losing my beautiful home due to financial difficulties caused by dh's illness and living in a tiny house with no money. My life is a constant disappointment.

Literally my whole life.

I was a very quiet passive and unassuming nerdy type kid.

My future was expected to be an accountant or teacher.

Reality.

Sexually abused
Single parent
DC is disabled
Both parents had cancer
Mum died of cancer

But I'm no longer that quiet shy passive person who allowed others to walk over them.

I'm mentally stronger than many and am proud of the person I've become whilst dealing with all this.

The biggest life lesson is life is shit but you can come through it!

Being broke and living on disability benefits due to chronic ill health.

I was always top in my classes at school, set to go to Cambridge, teachers said I could be literally anything I wanted to be, predicted 4 straight As at A level etc. Then I developed various autoimmune issues including lupus and spent most of my early 20s practically housebound, having tests etc.

I had some remission from it in my early 30s and now it’s back again. I haven’t been able to work for the last 12 years, and I also have a young son with disabilities too so care for him.

I love my son but sometimes I feel like I have stepped into some sort of twilight zone.

Marriage and family life. It never felt real to me the whole concept.

Being sent to prison.

At 27 years old finally realising what an utterly selfish, abusive twat of a man I was with and left him with our then 6 month old baby after 3 years of gaslighting and coercive control.
Having to move back to parents, then found a lovely rental for 3 yrs to then be made homeless just before DC started school.

Being single ever since that arse destroyed my confidence 8 years ago and never getting further than 2 dates.

Things slowly starting to look up financially, getting on well at work and there could be a chance for a good promotion in a couple of years, hoping a nice guy will come along soon too x

Children out of wedlock

Widowed at 34

This for me too 😔

Being unable to have a child.
Domestic violence, abuse and deprivation of liberty.

Free (mainly) from depression. After sixty or so years...
Single. What? Me?

Being widowed at 47 with two small kids.

Despite the fact that I had to leave school at 14 ( horrendous family problems)
I was able to retire in my mid 50s. That was 20 yrs ago.

Having a disabled child. No one ever thinks it will happen to them, which is why I'm looked at (and DD) as though I have 2 heads.

Having a nervous breakdown and not being able to work for the past 8 years due to crippling panic attacks.
I've lost a part of me I can never get back 😢

Going to an antenatal scan and being told a list of things that were wrong. Then going on to have a termination.

@Roselilly36 shit isn't it? I was in my 20s, hope you'r keeping cool ok