Things that happened to you that you thought would never happen to someone like you?

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Me… abortion. Thought it happened to other women.

Later on a single parent. Was not at all what I thought I would allow to happen but of course you learn life isn’t like that! Many people said they couldn’t believe it had happened as I’m quite conservative and careful but it did!

Sometimes I don’t recognise me though I am still me. Anyone else experienced this?

@TFD you are not nothing. To survive all you have is incredible. I’ve got a successful life (at least on the outside) and I’m absolutely not brave enough to start my own business. You are also a mum to two children which is also hard enough.

I’m sorry for all you have been through. You sound so brave. You definitely deserve better than the mess of a married man. I really hope that more happiness comes your way, whatever form it takes.

Having PND. Essentially a full nervous breakdown after my third child. In a psychiatric ward and for nearly 2 years I was unrecognisable to my family & former self. Completely life shattering and something I thought I'd never recover from. But 10 years on I have and I'm stronger - such a cliché - but it's true. I'm so thankful now for the mundane and for boring normal-ness.

On a positive note I really look ok out for and understand mental illness and the suffering/ utter desperation so many people endure daily.

TFD Thank you for posting. I found your story brave and inspiring. To have survived all that and have the emotional intelligence and insight that you have is amazing. One day at a time x

Getting pregnant at 16 in the 60s and being made to have my beautiful child adopted. Being treated like dirt by the nursing staff and other patients in my ward. Thank God times have changed.

@SweatyChamoisPad - that must be so tough. I have no close blood relatives other than spouse(well, not blood), and DCs who are now young adults.
i hope you have some very good friends.

Abortion. I was a 32yr old married woman with two children. Even though it was the right choice six years on when we get to the anniversary I still think what if...

Fell pregnant at 15 the 1st time i had sex ever , ....then fell pregnant with 3 sets of twins one after the other (with a single in between last set ) 1st set are now 15 , set 2 i had a termination which i never thought i would do but was early in the relationship (now together 15 years so wish i had kept them ) my last set was my youngest who was a twin until 3 months into pregnacy and one passed he is a terror so i tjink he jas the spirit of both ! ..i got into trouble as a teen took heavy drugs in and out of prison, when people find out my past they are always shocked (never judge a book by the cover )!
Life has taught me alot !!

@mybiggestfan I'm so sorry for your experience, absolutely no words 💐
I never thought that during my much wanted second pregnancy I'd get the devastating news at 28 weeks that the reason my baby wasn't growing was that they thought I'd contracted CMV (something I'd never heard of) during the first 6 weeks of pregnancy and therefore causing the issues associated with that baby's growth. I then never imagined having to get an amino test so late and then a MRI nearly two weeks later and the finally, at 31 weeks receiving the devastating diagnosis that my baby girl was severely brain damaged and wouldn't have a quality of life, in the same appointment making the heartbreaking decision to terminate the pregnancy and then two days later give birth but have to leave your baby at the hospital and then make funeral arrangements. I live with his every day but I know ultimately we made the right decision.

I feel like I could have wrote that post - up until the time I was rendered disabled, I was working in a hospital full time (and loving it!), studying to get into nursing & volunteering with a local homeless organisation- then 2014 bam my life changed and I am extremely limited with every & anything tbh! I actually kept forgetting about lockdown because it affected my own life so little (that’s so sad!) I’m 36 now and have been disabled 8 years now- so was only 28 at the time! I always say the version of me that went into the hospital in 2014 died in there and just my shell came home and it’s so true! 💔🥴- so sorry for ur situation too xx

My DS being mercilessly bullied and humiliated at boarding school for two terms culminating in stalking and death threats. My bright, talented, happy boy is now broken; he's in a new school and we're working together to rebuild his confidence and self-belief, but I still feel stunned it happened to him.

Gosh that's awful, your poor DS. I hope he can recover and come back stronger from this. Kids can be so unbelievably cruel. Heartbreaking.

I'm just catching up with the rest of the thread. Too many posters to tag - my gosh, some absolutely heartbreaking stories.

Giving up my entire life for 4 months to help a 'friend' with mental health issues. I mean 24/7, I was either there or available on the phone 24/7. Only to have them block me on WhatsApp etc and never talk to me again after they got back with their partner.

@Slv199
What a shitty thing to do . I’d love to have a friend like you and I’d really appreciate you . Least you have a clear conscience and can feel good that you have helped someone . X

@Threebutterflies I’m always in the market for new friends 😁

@Slv199
I find this helps me when I feel bad. I’d do anything to help anyone . Unfortunately a lot of people out there will just throw it back in your face .

Husbands cancer, which stopped our family plans in their tracks. I was 26 and he was 31 at the time.

Like so many, being a domestic violence survivor
Being diagnosed with Adhd I just assumed I was weird and unpopular.
Being twice divorced
Not only being a parent (I didn't think I was motherly enough) but a lone one and loving it.
Having a great job despite struggling at school, never going to uni and still having to look up how to calculate a percentage because I can't remember the equation.

@Threebutterflies I love that. Thanks.

Since I just name changed... I've been deported.

Also survived domestic violence as a kid (not related to above).

Having multiple miscarriages
Also having a child with a disability and health care professionals brushing it of as "normal" and needing to fight so much for him.
Having a 3rd degree tear durring birth and being left with some incontinence at the age of 30

On a positive i never thought I would get married, have children and move away from my home town and live in a lovey detached house in the country

Marrying a physically and mentally abusive man.

Being married 3 times.

Losing two babies.

Numerous miscarriages

Getting Lupus

Being disabled by 60.

Having a miscarriage, cancer and a husband who had an affair.
on the plus side, I have come through all of this. And I’m ok.

Cancer in my 30s with 2 toddlers to look after. I know cancer is common but I thought if I got it, it would be a lot later in life.

Defo my miscarriage. Was so pissed off how everyone kept saying how common it is afterwards