The most outrageous way you’ve been fat shamed?

Notbeinfunnehbut · 2022-07-13T12:11:16+00:00

This is in part inspired by a TikTok video and it made me laugh so much that I thought that a similar thread here might get some interesting responses, keep it civil please obviously post what you want but don’t be attacking posters for their lived experiences I also think these things really highlight how people who are rude to the overweight are rarely doing it out of concern Ok I’ll go, my grandma only lets certain people in the family sit on some vintage chairs at the bottom of the garden , as they “aren’t as sturdy as my other chairs” me , husband and my mum are not allowed on the chairs 🙈

JellyMouldJnr · 13/07/2022 13:17

Once I went to a riding stables and was called 'the larger lady' to my face, even though there were no other 'ladies' there, only kids. 'The lady' could have worked fine!

Willowrose63 · 13/07/2022 13:26

Within a wider conversation about how it's 'disturbing' that my daughter is still breastfeeding at not even 1.5yrs old. My Dad said it would do me good to stop as well as then I could stop eating for 2 😅

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 13/07/2022 13:28

Load of builders up scaffolding whistled at me as I was passing, I involuntarily looked up and one of them shouted, not you fatty.
Unfortunately for them I don't take shit like that, I stormed over and complained to their supervisor and then the building company who said they were very sorry and sent me flowers and the whistlers got a proper bollocking. They might think twice next time.

notacooldad · 13/07/2022 13:34

Crikey, Ive had loads of insults over tbe decades. The thing is I only went up to a size 14 in the last few years!
I had some blokes across the street shout " fat arse" at me. They were stumped when I didnt get upset but nodded and said " yeah, that's pretty acurate"
My mum's very skinny friend was trying to recall if she had met me before and then realized she had. She said loudly ( at the party we were at) " ah yes, but you were nice and slim then!"

MarbleGolden · 13/07/2022 13:36

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 13/07/2022 13:28

Load of builders up scaffolding whistled at me as I was passing, I involuntarily looked up and one of them shouted, not you fatty.
Unfortunately for them I don't take shit like that, I stormed over and complained to their supervisor and then the building company who said they were very sorry and sent me flowers and the whistlers got a proper bollocking. They might think twice next time.

Amazing! Love this

Buythebag · 13/07/2022 13:41

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 13/07/2022 13:28

Load of builders up scaffolding whistled at me as I was passing, I involuntarily looked up and one of them shouted, not you fatty.
Unfortunately for them I don't take shit like that, I stormed over and complained to their supervisor and then the building company who said they were very sorry and sent me flowers and the whistlers got a proper bollocking. They might think twice next time.

Bloody good for you!

The only time I can recall is similar to notacooldad at age about 16 when a woman who knew my mum shouted across "eh, that's never your Buythebag is it? But she used to be so lovely and slim!".

I SO wish my dm had shouted back "Yes you stupid twat, she's gone through puberty and now has boobs and an arse!" I wouldn't mind but I was a only a size 10! Horrible woman.

DoingJustFine · 13/07/2022 13:54

A man walked along behind me oinking when I was pregnant. I wasn't sure it was me but then he also started making very specific insults about me, calling me "it".

Worst of all, he was with a girl who just giggled.

mistermagpie · 13/07/2022 14:00

If you are interested in anti-fat bias I really recommend the Maintenance Phase podcast and Aubrey Gordon's book, both really opened my eyes.

SadFace2 · 13/07/2022 14:37

@DoingJustFine That is awful. Imagine being so unhappy that you want to treat someone that way. I hope it didn't upset you too much. I'd have just been so happy that I was me and not him, or the unfortunate girl who was with him.

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Notbeinfunnehbut · 13/07/2022 21:00

Some awful stories I’m so sorry that you’ve been through those situations

thing is i am larger plus size I am properly fat,

can’t get my head round why ppl fat shame average sized people

Oh! Another one occurred

my Hairdresser once said you could never tell you were pregnant 🤰 😑😒🙄 you very much could! I went full term

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EducatingArti · 13/07/2022 21:03

My mum once introduced me to some friends of my Aunt. ( We had never met these people before)
"This is my fat daughter. She used to be my thin daughter but now she is my fat one."

NannyGythaOgg · 13/07/2022 21:29

Someone I was on a course with
"I wish I was more like you ................. and didn't care what I looked like."

Throughtheroof · 13/07/2022 21:34

Horrifying.

I've had complete strangers shout at me in the street for being fat.
I was walking home one night and a man came around the corner, looked at me and yelled 'Porky Pig' in my face.

I don't understand why people do it. But it does hurt.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 13/07/2022 21:47

I've heard some horrendous ones from parents

'Yes, these are my girls, this is 'Rachel', this is 'Jessica' and this is 'Alice'. before you say anything, they all have the same father, it's just that Rachel and Jessica inherited my little bones - I used to be a dancer, you know, ballet - and Alice takes after her father in build and at the dinner table (tinkly little laugh)'.

'Hello, before anything about lessons, can we talk about lunchtimes? I want to be able to put a restriction on Sadie's account so she has to have a salad pot instead of gorging on cakes. And if she's seen eating something from the shop, I want to be informed immediately, as she's going to burst if she continues as she's going now'.

'Rebecca said that they didn't have Athletics on Thursday because the teacher was off sick. Can I ask why they weren't sent on a run by the cover teacher instead? Heaven knows she needs the exercise'.

(to the paramedics putting the child into an ambulance) 'Mind out! She's nearly ten stone, I don't want you hurting yourselves'.

'No, she didn't faint because she's hungry, she has plenty of food - she had two Go Ahead bars and a bottle of water in her bag. I mean, really, do you honestly think it's going to hurt her to miss a couple of meals?'

Most of these have been said in front of the unfortunate child. Sadly, all I can do is report them as, for some reason, it's frowned upon to give arseholes a damn good slap in the course of your employment. And yes, it's almost always directed at the girls - not always by the Mums, the Dads have done it before now, but the most vicious ones, said with a smile that doesn't get above the nose, are from mothers.

SheepingStandingUp · 13/07/2022 21:53

Did online dating.

Random bloke messaged me JUST to tell me how I looked like a whale, I would never get a man being so fat, shouldn't be on the site etc. (I was size 18)
I might have liked his profile previously but hadn't messaged him so could easily have been ignored.

I messaged back saying I saw he had a daughter and how awful for her to have a dad who would treat a woman like he'd treated me and I hoped she got better in her own life.

Dick.

Vampirethriller · 13/07/2022 21:59

I was eating a packet of mini cheddars on the bus and a man did the elbow movement towards me, and said to his wife, "I bet she wonders why she's fat!"
I was 7 months bloody pregnant, I was allowed to be fat and eat bloody crackers. Knobhead.

polkapip · 13/07/2022 22:01

These are awful. My dad once said to me "you're not fat. You're pleasantly plump". He tried bless him

UndertheEagle · 13/07/2022 22:10

When I was a teenager I walked into the sitting room having spent hours getting ready for a date with a new bloke. My father said " have you seen yourself from behind in those jeans? As long as you think you look ok". How to destroy all my confidence. I was a size 10.

uhtredbebbanburg · 13/07/2022 22:12

Geez, all of these are awful. I can’t understand such nastiness.

Scaredycat259 · 13/07/2022 22:23

I was super skinny as a child/teen, no matter what I ate, bullied relentlessly, started on the pill and put some weight on, nothing major, a size 10-12, my dad said " you used to be nice and thin , now you just look awful"
Recently at 28 weeks pregnant a rather large lady at work 5 times my size said "you're enormous!" 2 other ladies at work pregnant, not as far along as me with way bigger bumps, I've been assured by the midwife I have a nice little bump .

Idontevenknow · 13/07/2022 22:30

My 5 year old son shamed me for having seconds after dinner. "Mummy, if you don't have 2 dinners then you won't be chunky". Had been trying to teach him about healthy choices and it came back to bite me

pennysays · 13/07/2022 22:33

I was walking to the tube one morning with my friend. We were walking side by side and didn’t notice the man - a business man on his way to work - who wanted to get past us. Instead of asking to squeeze past he screamed at me “GET OUT THE WAY YOU FAT BITCH!”

I was a bit upset but mostly astonished that someone could have so much anger. It must be awful to live like that.

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Notbeinfunnehbut · 13/07/2022 22:33

NeverDropYourMooncup · 13/07/2022 21:47

I've heard some horrendous ones from parents

'Yes, these are my girls, this is 'Rachel', this is 'Jessica' and this is 'Alice'. before you say anything, they all have the same father, it's just that Rachel and Jessica inherited my little bones - I used to be a dancer, you know, ballet - and Alice takes after her father in build and at the dinner table (tinkly little laugh)'.

'Hello, before anything about lessons, can we talk about lunchtimes? I want to be able to put a restriction on Sadie's account so she has to have a salad pot instead of gorging on cakes. And if she's seen eating something from the shop, I want to be informed immediately, as she's going to burst if she continues as she's going now'.

'Rebecca said that they didn't have Athletics on Thursday because the teacher was off sick. Can I ask why they weren't sent on a run by the cover teacher instead? Heaven knows she needs the exercise'.

(to the paramedics putting the child into an ambulance) 'Mind out! She's nearly ten stone, I don't want you hurting yourselves'.

'No, she didn't faint because she's hungry, she has plenty of food - she had two Go Ahead bars and a bottle of water in her bag. I mean, really, do you honestly think it's going to hurt her to miss a couple of meals?'

Most of these have been said in front of the unfortunate child. Sadly, all I can do is report them as, for some reason, it's frowned upon to give arseholes a damn good slap in the course of your employment. And yes, it's almost always directed at the girls - not always by the Mums, the Dads have done it before now, but the most vicious ones, said with a smile that doesn't get above the nose, are from mothers.

Is this your mother or a child your around?

sorry if I’m confused,

what a horrid woman

good on you for reporting her

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BaggiesBride · 13/07/2022 22:40

I was in a pub with my husband and two men and a woman were sat opposite us. I heard one of the men say, "Look at that whale over there." They all three laughed. I couldn't get out of there fast enough, it really upset me.

heartbroken22 · 13/07/2022 22:44

Been often referred to as the pregnant one by one of my students when I was a petite size 10. I've always had a bit of a belly but you should have seen his face when I told him I wasn't.

When you go to certain countries and they hand you the 'double XL tops' when you're a uk size 10.

I'm a size 14 now and no one can say shit to me (besides my 5 year old). I'm comfortable in my own skin.