The most outrageous way you’ve been fat shamed?

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This is in part inspired by a TikTok video and it made me laugh so much that I thought that a similar thread here might get some interesting responses,
keep it civil please obviously post what you want but don’t be attacking posters for their lived experiences

I also think these things really highlight how people who are rude to the overweight are rarely doing it out of concern

Ok I’ll go, my grandma only lets certain people in the family sit on some vintage chairs at the bottom of the garden , as they “aren’t as sturdy as my other chairs” me , husband and my mum are not allowed on the chairs 🙈

Yup.
A cousin who had last seen me in the depths of an eating disorder, when I was less than 6 stone and 5ft 6, saw me a little while after at probably 8 stone commented that I'd put on a lot of weight, my God I was so fat now and I thought you would always be skinny terfy. Haven't seen him since (deliberately) bet he wouldnt recognise me now at 12 stone. Good thing his comments didnt spiral me down into only eating once a week again , or I dont think I'd still be here.
I was a truly skinny child, but I lived on my nerves, always worried that whatever I did a beating was coming my way. That I no longer live like that and dont have that constant stress is liberating and I'll take chunky over living on the edge all day.

While out running.... was offered chocolate bar by random man.

@AllMonstersAreHuman Same same. My mother (still clinging onto the notion that she is as 'tiny' as she was in her youth) has a habit of giving me (six inches taller and completely different body shape) clothes that are 'far too big for her'. We're both a size 12. She has always made me feel enormous. She started trying to do the same with my (very petite) teen DD (because obviously she would wear gran's cast offs, what?!), as well as talking about weight and fasting and diets constantly in front of my kids, and I had to have a firm word. We never, ever talk about weight in our house, just keeping active and making healthy, balanced food choices over the course of the week.

I'm properly fat, like Circus lady fat. I'm also disabled, I remember in the early days of my disability getting to the office and moaning that the bus journey was hard because despite my walking stick I couldn't get a seat, my then boss responded with "well that'll be because people will think the stick is because of how you look"...

I hated that woman...

My parents put me in a diet at 7. I thought I was ok I couldn’t understand it. Put my hand up for seconds at school and was told ‘your mum said you’re not allowed’. I was so embarrassed. I wasn’t allowed milk at school as too much fat so I was sent in with squash. Not sure that helped.

continually told to lose weight by my parents including my dad telling me I’d never have a boyfriend. (My mum is very slim and eats very little).

There’s something about your dad making it clear that he doesn’t think you’re pretty that is really affecting.

Recently my mum was looking through old photos and said ‘you were really cute’. She sounded shocked. Too late. The damage is really done.

(I have a husband and children and had boyfriends)

I was an overweight child- possibly wouldn't have stuck out as much these days but this was in the 70s/80s.

We were on holiday in America visiting relatives. I could tell my DF was ashamed of me. We went to a restaurant and he ordered a dessert, I was going to order one too and he just blurted out 'You're fat , you can't have one' in front of my Aunt and Uncle. I must have been about 11 at the time, I wanted the ground to swallow me up.

My mother - who was the master of backhanded compliments - told me I looked nice a a particular outfit and asked where I got it from? I told her it was Next and she looked surprised and said, “Oh, I thought Next only did clothes for slim people?”

Several years ago we had a holiday in Singapore - bearing in mind a lot of the population there are petite Malays and Chinese ancestry. I had wanted one of those beautiful silk cheongsam dresses for years so enquired in a shop. The sales person looked me up and down and said, “I think we might have some extra large ones out the back.”

I was a size 12! 😧🙄

I was walking home after picking DS up from school. A car drove past and shouted “fat bitch” at me for absolutely no reason at all. What hurt the most is that I’d lost 2 stone at the time

My mum constantly buys me clothes that are too big ,even now I’m in my thirties it still hurts. Age 11 she put me on strict diet and paid me to lose weight as ‘ no child of mine reaches 10 stone’ I was 5’8 at the time and didn’t look overweight. She has given me a lifetime of poor self esteem and body image.

At 18year old and a curvy size 14 - I was told by that if I lost 1/2 stone by a man he could really shag me, my instant reply - thank I'm not and walked off.

An elderly relative once poked my stomach and said still fat, I repiled and you're still mean.

I recently lost a 30 year friend as I realisled my so called friend was constantly fat shaming me in passive aggressive way - the last straw was the comment "how can you be happy, you're so fat"...I said goodbye there and then and am still happy.

I work in a pub, this wasn’t directed at me but shocked me and I felt sick just witnessing it.
A woman had ordered her drinks, and paid. She had ordered I think 2 packets of peanuts for her table as she was paying this round (8 people).
One ignorant fucker across the bar walked over, threw the packets of nuts across the bar at me and said ‘she’s not needing any food, look at the size of it, any excuse to eat’. And went on to say she’d have a sad and lonely life if she didn’t loose the weight.
I was stunned. Stood for a few seconds then poured his pint down the sink and threw him out. The poor woman, bless her was in tears and tried to return the nuts. Very swiftly refunded for the round. I was horrified later on to hear it was her estranged husband. He is now barred.

I often think of her. And I hope she’s left him. Nasty fucker!!! Can’t stand fat shaming. Really sad reading these stories. ❤️

I filled in a questionnaire only ne to sée how much I could borrow on a mortgage. Compulsory insurance. All thé questionnaire asks about is how many times and when I've had weightloss surgery

Not impressed.

@RedPlumbob just wanted to say what a lovely mum you are 🙂

The negativity of fat is so ingrained in our society. I don’t remember it being talked about when I was a child but we did used to snigger at the larger American tourists so there was some consciousness of mocking the different.
I’m a reasonable weight now as an older woman, but put on weight easily and am ridiculously pleased with myself when I lose a single pound.
I know when I go to a family wedding next year I’ll get lots of ‘you look great!’ And I know what they mean is ‘ you’ve lost weight’ . It’s like a constant nag on my shoulder and I’m not overweight.

I was at university and working at a factory 8 miles away during the holidays. I had no money, so I was walking to work. I was offered a few extra hours overtime, so I took it. On my final break, I bought a twix from the vending machine, I hadn’t eaten at all during my 12 hour shift. A woman said to me ‘you shouldn’t really eat that, I can’t stand fat people’. I was about a size 14, and very fit due to all the walking. I was shamed enough not to eat the twix.

When I was 19 and actively in the early stages of labour, huge bump (oldest child fancied their own pool to swim in...) but a "tidy" one according to my midwives, one of the GPs at the family practice - who had known me since I was a toddler, myself - looked at me, peered at my notes for a nanosecond then said to my mother "are you sure she's pregnant?!". I was a size 10-12 at the time, even with the huge bump.A year later the old goat was forced into early retirement (but not before deciding my oldest was/is brain damaged due to her having been born with central sleep aponea...

When my oldest was 4 or 5 at the funera; of my grandmother's life-partner, one of my younger cousins came up to me and said "oh, 13, I thought you'd be so much fatter, as you had that baby and all...!". Bitch didn't like it when I death stared her and pointed out that I was probably a size or two smaller than her, and she hadn't the excuse of having been pregnant 5 years earlier! We never did get on, though - she had always been very superficial and openly simpered to every male she ever met (including, sickeningly, our fathers), so as she essentially tried to insinuate that all mothers are overweight purely by dint of having been pregnant in front of my little daughter no less, I wasn't having it. Becoming a mother gave me the confidence to finally put her back in her box. We've not spoken since, although according to my father she is now an absolute coke head who - at 40 years old - still bemoans her failed fashion career...

When my youngest was a toddler (I was 30/31) we travelled to meet my father's paternal aunt for only the second time since he was a small child. The first time my great-aunt had met me, I was still with my ex and my disrdered eating was at its peak due to his threats to leave me/the children if I put weight on. So, as we were leaving after the second meeting, my great-aunt hugs us all goodbye, with me being last. She takes me by the elbow and says "oh, but you look so much happier now!"... innocent enough, perhaps, but there was just something in the way that she said it which made me very sure it was because I'd started to put some much needed weight back on .A few weeks later, I bumped into my ex's grandmother who looked me up and down and said: "Well, you're certainly looking a lot healthier these days, aren't you?!". I was both happier and healthier than I'd been since the age of 16 because I'd suddenly realised what an absolute knob my ex was - and was enjoying not waking up every day with a pit of stress in the depths of me which didn't aid my disordered eating any.

Whilst pregnant with my youngest. wedding dress shopping with my best friend (I was her MOH and my oldest was one of the bridesmaids), being sniffily informed by the sales assistant that they couldn't alter any of the dresses to "fit your girth, madam". Best friend grabbed my arm, turned us around and we marched out of there. She bought her wedding dress elsewhere. I was even larger with my youngest than I'd been with my oldest, due to having lost his twin - but my body refusing to acknowledge this fact. Let's put it this way, in the July before he was born in the November, a woman at my oldest's school kindly said "only another week or so, love, before you have him!" due to the sweltering heatr that year... then ran away when I sadly said that I was actually only 5 months pregnant and had the rest of the summer still to endure.

Having said that, though, I inadvertantly fat-shamed my oldest (now 26) the other week when she asked me if I thought a size 10 coat would fit her - and I distractedly said "probably not; you have very broad shoulders, darling!". Thing is... she's a size 10-12... but does have very broad shoulders! Nothing to do with her weight whatsoever, as she inherited them from my mother. But she took it as my having referenced her weight, nonetheless!

My dad when I was 9 and about to have a growth spurt told me I needed a diet and liked to point out slim adult women to me telling me I'd never look as good as them. My stepdad also told me I'd be the chubby, ugly one men would use a 'marker' when out with friends when I was about 15.

My 'friend' also told me to stop taking the antidepressants I'm on after I gained a stone telling me she'd rather be depressed than fat. I'd made a suicide attempt the year before 🤦‍♀️. As it is I'm not fat, I'm a bit chunkier than I was due to my medication and eating too much of the wrong things but it was very hurtful.

My DM was very critical of my body when I was looking for wedding dresses. She loved to tell the assistants that she had a 24inch waist (she would do a little wiggly dance whilst saying it) when she got married and how i was a lot wider. And that I'd need to make sure i didn't have lots of fleshy cleavage hanging over the top of a strapless dress because her goddaughter had this issue and she looked awful.

Even though I knew she was talking complete bollocks it obviously still had an impact on me because i insisted (against seamstress's advice) for my dress not to be taken in too much at the top, for fear of DMs opinion.

As a result it looks too big in all the photos and I remember having to adjust it all day. I was a size 10 and wore a 28E bra, there was never any fear of me overdoing the cleavage!

Told frequently no one would fancy me fat and that I was arrogant to think someone should like me as I am.

God what horrible people! What the hell is wrong with some people? I just don’t get it. Although this is for fat shaming, I used to get a lot of skinny shaming when I was younger which was extremely hurtful and I could never get my head round how people can be so rude to others (regardless of their size). Some of the comments on here are just so awful😕

My DF always called me 'piglet' when I was younger...up until I was in my early teens. It was meant affectionately but I was overweight as a child as DM is a real feeder; it's how she shows her love I guess.

When I was age 14-18, I had a bf who was very thin but was tallish; I was 5'6" and a size 16/18. I knew I was overweight but at that time I didn't know how to go about losing weight but I knew that exercise was good for me, so he'd come over after school/work and we'd go out for a walk. We would often pass a group of school kids. They never would say anything to us but after a few days of doing this walk, there would be chalk drawings of 2 'stickmen'; 1 would be tall and skinny and the other drawn as a ball with 'arms' and 'legs' sticking out with a tiny circle on top of the big ball. That stung.

These 2 things are nothing compared to what some PP have quoted; it's quite horrifying what overweight people have said to them and it's no wonder some end up with eating disorders. Just awful.

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Jeez there are some real arseholes out there - so sorry about the horrible comments people have been at the receiving end of.

Also do you know what's wierd!? I genuenuly get more posative male attention as a 18/20 than I did at a size 14. Confidence is clearly more sexy than size

Not me but a friend at highschool mum told her if she became a size 14 she'd never forgive her. Mum was super thin friend was a healthy weight
I was called a whale in red on hoilday recently