The most outrageous way you’ve been fat shamed?

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This is in part inspired by a TikTok video and it made me laugh so much that I thought that a similar thread here might get some interesting responses,
keep it civil please obviously post what you want but don’t be attacking posters for their lived experiences

I also think these things really highlight how people who are rude to the overweight are rarely doing it out of concern

Ok I’ll go, my grandma only lets certain people in the family sit on some vintage chairs at the bottom of the garden , as they “aren’t as sturdy as my other chairs” me , husband and my mum are not allowed on the chairs 🙈

'Do you want this top? It's absolutely huge on me but it might fit you..' said by my mum.

I have a few more about being ugly than fat but one time a man just snarled fat cunt in my face at a train station. No interaction with him at all my presence just offended him.

A man at my work, a patient who had recently had a cataract operation told me bluntly to my face that I’d put weight since he’d seen me last. I told him I hadn’t, and he insisted that I had as he could see me more clearly now.
I was a size 8-10

I fully appreciate this is nowhere near as bad as the other stories on this thread but it boggles my mind that people think they can openly make completely unnecessary comments on someone’s appearance. Luckily I just thought he was a rude old twat but if someone said similar to my friend who is in the midst of an eating disorder, who knows what damage it could do

In labour and a dr comes in, touches my belly, and says ‘there appears to be quite a lot of fluid’ and before I had a chance to explain that I had polyhydramnios the nasty bitchy midwife said very loudly ‘I think that’s mostly mum’. She then turned to me with the fakest of smiles and said ‘no offence’.

Fucking bitch. I did laugh when she got sprayed by my waters when my ds came out and the other midwife said ‘I think that’s the most fluid I’ve seen cone out of a person!’.

Ooh hufflewoof! You're not going to eat all that are you? Said by woman I worked with. Constantly going on and on and on about my weight and how much I ate. I reported her for harassment and bullying and she got sacked

Colleague once told me that she’d rather ‘ be dead than fat. Good for you for not caring.’
she didn’t even mean it nastily, she knows she has issues around food…

Another one, went to a family do and was introduced to an older ( distant) cousin, prob in his 60s. Letchy old bastard pulled me in for a big hug, squeezed me and then announced ‘ we’ll, she’s not last at the trough, is she!’

I was buying the annual Krispy Kreme doughnuts for my DDs birthday. They get a pack of 3 to share on their birthdays and I don't buy them any other time because they're expensive and I don't like doughnuts of any description. Some guy walked past and shouted "regular occurrence". My face was . DP said he didn't think he was shouting it at me, but I'm pretty sure he was. It definitely isn't a regular occurrence, I really can't bear the things.

Was running in our local park, training for a 10k, and some overweight bloke, smoking out the window and drinking a come yelled at me from his parked van. His 2 mates in the front seat with him all laughed.
I just keep running though I was tempted to tell him out of the 2 of us he was more likely to have the heart attack, not me…

Drinking a coke!

I was once visiting the local vicarage - just one of their daughters and me there at the time. An elderly lady walked into the house, didn't knock, and after talking to the daughter looked at me and said "That girl's got fat!"

Another time I was visitng a house and garden with a group and went to sit on an outside seat when the owner told me not to as it might break!!

I wasn't even that fat!!!

Probably more comments than I can recall, I’ve been fat all my life. Regularly insulted and harrassed at school, and I can 100% testify that fat shaming does NOT help that person lose weight.

Got a few comebacks though: a woman called me fat on the street, I said “I could lose the weight, but you’re stuck with that face and shitty personality, must be hellish to be you”.

and the usual: “You’d be pretty if you lost weight” 🙄 Well, I’m sure you’d be great company if you weren’t a blithering idiot! 🤪

A Big Issue seller did once ask me when the baby was due but he was mortified when I told him it was just fat, I think he genuinely meant well, poor chap. So no snarky comeback needed for him.

I agree with kateandme, people like to dress it up as "concern about your health" but that's a pile of crap, they just don't like seeing fat people and feel emboldened to say so by the anti-fat bias that's widely encouraged.

I too recommend the podcast Maintenance Phase! It's great!!

I genuinly havnt had these really.. But I'm over 6ft tall and have resting bitch face.

I think it was worse when I was younger as I cared what ppl thought.
Im 100% happier and fitter now than when I was thinner. I run and box and generally don't care and even wear a bikini

I did have a person say ohh your big and I said I'm six foot so yes and then death stared them until they went away!

I saw a lovely colleague from a long time ago when I was a tiny size 10 18 year old student with them. She hadn't recognised me for ages in the office and I wasn't sure if it was her either. Eventually she came up to me and asked if I had a sister called X. I pointed out that it was me and how nice to see her!
Then she said, 'I didn't recognise you as you used to be so much slimmer!' (I didn't realise she'd said this as she has an accent and I am shocking at hearing/processing accents)

For context I'm a size 12-14 now. I was very when I got outside the building and clocked what she said. I've Not said hi since 😂

Some lovely man on a dating site opened the conversation with the word "Pig". I asked him what he meant, feigning ignorance. He said I was fat, then proceeded to tell me I'd been rude to him previously (I'd never been in contact with him before).

Then he asked me for my phone number. I told him I was too fat to give it to him.

Fuck knows where these cunts come from. They must live such miserable, snivelling little lives.

Fortunately less outrageous than some, but after I had got on the scales at the GP's surgery and she read out the weight, she said, "You DO realise that's kilograms and not pounds?" Er, yes, I do know that my weight puts me in the obese category and not the healthy range. Nobody would be in that level of denial.

I think I’ve mentioned this on here before. I was once on Oxford Street about to go into an interview. I hadn’t had time for lunch so had bought one of those cake bars from Boots and was eating it before going into the interview.

A woman was walking past and stopped and came up to me. I thought she was about to ask for directions. Instead she just pointed at the cake, made a pig snorting noise at me, and walked off.

Just as I was about to go into an interview. Nice.

Less than 24 hours after giving birth and my brother came to visit me and my new baby in hospital and commented that I still looked pregnant 🤨

@NannyGythaOgg had that one regularly from my ex’s female relatives. I was a size 12-14 at the time 🙄

These accounts all really sad and often cruel. There is so much shame and stigma associated with being the “wrong” shape or size… and lots of evidence to show fat shaming is really harmful and doesn’t “help” people to loose weight at all (not that I’d advocate for it if it did, it’s nasty).

I’ve mainly been a size 10 most of my adult life. Put on a little bit of weight during lockdown. My mum was looking at pictures of me jumping on a trampoline at a trampoline park with my toddler son and said to him “who is that fat woman there?” about me.

My boss used to call me fatty when I was pregnant with my first child.

My friend at university bought me a skirt for my birthday. I tried it on and she got really annoyed and said “I thought it would be too small for you then I could keep it”. She also said to another friend who said he thought I was attractive “but look at her fat legs!”.

Saying all that, I know I was mean to my older sister when her body started changing during puberty. I’m sad I did that now and really wish I hadn’t. I’m sure it affected her - adolescence is a really hard time.

I had just lost some weight and my lovely Nan said to my bf, “Don’t let her get dumpy again”.

I was skiing a black mogul run (technically difficult) at a size 22, but I’m good. A chairlift went overhead and I heard laughter and “FAT CUNT” shouted.

I’ve had men come up to me in the street and bark in my face.

a group of girls would follow me into the toilets at school chanting “P I G, P I G”.

These are really heart breaking.

My ex told me I was 'too fat to be amongst all these fit and active people' on a sporty holiday once, I had paid for us to go - £3k.