The most outrageous way you’ve been fat shamed?

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This is in part inspired by a TikTok video and it made me laugh so much that I thought that a similar thread here might get some interesting responses,
keep it civil please obviously post what you want but don’t be attacking posters for their lived experiences

I also think these things really highlight how people who are rude to the overweight are rarely doing it out of concern

Ok I’ll go, my grandma only lets certain people in the family sit on some vintage chairs at the bottom of the garden , as they “aren’t as sturdy as my other chairs” me , husband and my mum are not allowed on the chairs 🙈

When you go to certain countries and they hand you the 'double XL tops' when you're a uk size 10.

Italy is dreadful for this.

On a plane I discreetly asked stewardess for seat extender as it was 5 hour flight and I could not breath in that long. She came back and loudly announced your seatbelt extender madam.

I find some of these stories so awful. I really don't know what goes on in some people's minds that they think it is acceptable to comment like this.

It makes you wonder how they can live with themselves.

During my first pregnancy I saw a doctor who chided me for having put on weight. Errm, yes, that does tend to be a rather common side effect of pregnancy!!

I used to work with a woman who thought she was better than the rest of us in the office, criticising everyone and being judgmental. She would always comment on anything I ate. I was size 16 so hardly massive.. On my birthday one year she got me a card with a cartoon picture of a pig, gorging on a huge birthday cake.
In the time I worked there, she was slyly nasty about and upset everyone. A very sad woman indeed.

This was back when I was about 16. I'd gained quite a lot of weight within a year or so and was probably 14st. I went to a girls night and pics were being taken and posted on facebook and in one of the pics I was in the background biting into some food.

Some guys who I knew from the year above zoomed into the picture and cropped it so only me eating was visible, created a Facebook page called "(My name) the whale" with that picture as the profile picture and posted on the page.

I picked up a top for my friend in new look and when I got to the cash desk, the girl asked me if I realised it was a size 10 I was buying.

The top was a loose floaty one aswell and wasn't even for me.

@ButteryNuts that's awful!

Yeah :( I forgot to mention they invited basically everyone from school to the page so they'd see it. Took me years to eat in front of people again and I developed an eating disorder (though I wouldn't say that was the sole cause)

My so called ‘friend’ once said to me…

“You’ve put on a shit ton of weight recently. Everyone thinks so, we were all laughing about it the other night.”

Yeah, fucking thanks for that insight! Haven’t spoken to him or any of the others since

8 hours after giving birth my now ex's brother came in to visit and said - you still have quite abit of a belly on you!

In an Air B and B review! “This larger lady who was also heavily pregnant took great care of our property” . I was absolutely raging, what had my size or the fact I was “heavily” pregnant got to do with it?! I was staying there for a family funeral in the area as I had told the host….

A local stately home had an event where children could try on replica Victorian clothing, play with replica old toys, etc. I must have been about 10 years old? Maybe younger? I was a large child.

The guide struggled to get the dress on me, and said "been eating too many pies in the café, have we?". I remembered feeling so ashamed. Who says that to a child?

My dad left when I was 3. When I was 10/11 my mum somehow caught word that my nanna (dad's mum) was in the hospital.

She sent me to see her with my cousin, to see if I could contact my dad.

When I got there my nanna said "oh you're big for your age, are you going to lose weight?"

She called my dad who came straight from work to re-meet me. He sat down in the bed next to my nanna, he whispered something in her ear and she loudly replied "yes, but she's going to lose weight"

I was in Greggs, just buying a coffee on the way to work
It was about 6am
I was standing at the very small counter which has sugars at, stirring my coffee
I then noticed that a man had stood behind me, I apologised and moved over,
He said, ‘If you wasnt so fat, we would both fit’
I was half asleep and so taken back i didnt say anything

'D'M delights in telling everyone that I was born with a huge belly and a huge bum and how they just kept growing. Sometimes she adds to it that I was such a big baby I got stuck in her tiny frame so she needed an emergency c-section.

She also told me as a teenager that I looked 6 months pregnant.

She recently found an old picture of me from around that time and said "you were so slim back then, I bet you wish you still were that size".

I was also once followed home by two teenage girls laughing and taking photos of me from behind (they had the sound turned on on their phones so I could hear the camera noise). As soon as I got into the house I slammed the door and collapsed on the hallway floor in floods of tears. One of them had been so close to me that if I had dared to stop suddenly she would have probably dropped her phone and I still regret not having the guts to do that.

These are just awful. WTF are people thinking? I'm constantly amazed at how little regard some people have for others' feelings.

Far too many to be honest. The two that stick in my head were once whilst I was walking to work when I was around 17 a white van drove past with several men shouting and calling me a fat monster and to kill myself and threw a McDonald's milkshake all over me. I walked into work in tears, it was all in my hair and over my uniform. I was sent home.

Another was when I had a miscarriage, my charming ex told me whilst I was bleeding on the floor that it was my own fault as I was fat and disgusting.

I am still fat now, and still regularly hear snickering or nasty comments they still really get to me and I am making changes to try and tackle my weight and my poor self esteem which has resulted from years of this stuff.

My kids have fat shamed me plenty of times. I am about 25kg overweight, a lot of that was gained over last 2.5 years due to covid & work stress. It's disappointing as I thought I'd raised them better.

About 20 years ago, I was around 16 weeks pregnant and underweight as I had horrible morning sickness and couldn't keep anything down. I had only started to be able to stomach McDonalds fries and plain potato chips/crisps.

I was sitting at my desk, snacking on a small handful of chips and hoping I wouldn't throw them up, when a man in my office, who was 30 years older than me, asked me if I should be eating them, as they will make me fat. I stared at him in shock.

when i was 9 or 10 me and my friend were playing on the school field, taking it in turns picking up some slabs of dirt and holding them up for the other to kick. The teacher came over and told us to stop, she looked at me and said 'I'm surprised you can see over that belly to do it' (i was chubby but not massively big, she also once told me i was disgusting because i didn't shave my legs.. because i was 10 and my parents wouldn't let me) 30 years later i still feel that burning shame every time i recall it!

I really like this. Good on you

Ok I’ll go, my grandma only lets certain people in the family sit on some vintage chairs at the bottom of the garden , as they “aren’t as sturdy as my other chairs” me , husband and my mum are not allowed on the chairs

she should store them away when you come, but I understand her wanting to look after her vintage chairs if they have sentimental value to her.

Not me but my DSIS (who has PCOS which can result in weight gain and difficulties in losing weight)...
In her late teens she was doing a temping job for a few months in an office. There was a later in her 50s who had been there full time and seemed to really resent the temps. Every lunchtime she would comment on what my sister was eating, tell her how many points it would be on slimming world / weight watchers and then say what she 'should' be eating instead. My DSIS ended up eating lunch in her car on her own and crying about it in the evening. It was so unpleasant.

Another one, said to me, by my DF - me and my sister were both quite cuddly when we 7 and 9. My DSIS had a remark made to her at school about her weight and my DF said to my DM infront of me, 'DSIS should be more like HaveHope21, she's fat but just gets on with it.'

Diet culture and our society is harmful as fuck with fat phobia and seems to be getting worse
Worried for their health.bullshit.you just don't like fat people if it was about health why the mention of weight.healrh is a multi facited thing. You don't say look at her genes,stress,job,access to nutrition,economics?emotional and mental wellbeing.thats health.no,You are aesthetically excusing your issue with fat and calling it health.
We are living in a world wherecwrongly health = thinner
Where fat is bad.
Where disordered eating and dieting is being normalised.
Good and bad foods
Oh get me off my soap box I could go on.

I was eight. My mother worked so I was staying with various aunts over the summer. I picked up a very nasty cough. I was really quite unwell. One aunt took me to the doctor who told me if I didn't lose weight I would die. She said this to an eight year old away from home and parents that she had never seen before. Thin kids get antibiotics for lung infections. Yes, I was traumatised. No, I never got any thinner. I have lipoedema not obesity. So a doctor fat shamed me for having a fat disorder.