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What’s the closest escape you’ve ever had from a dangerous situation?

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Bluepantsbigheart · 20/03/2022 08:43

I had a moment of absolute clarity and shock earlier. I was visiting a childhood friend so back on the street where I grew up. We were chatting about the past, about how we used to roam and our parents didn’t know where we were etc. This would have been the early 80’s and I’d have been 10/12 years old.

I remembered going with another friend ‘Halloweening’ as we called it then - to maximise our returns we’d visit a house each, alternating along the street.
I went to one house, rang the bell and through the glass side panel saw the owner come down the stairs. ‘Happy Halloween’ I said - ah, come in a minute he said, I need to get money’ I followed him into his lounge where he was scrabbling about in drawers by the sound of it in the kitchen. He was a while and when he came back into the room he had his trousers open with his penis out. I backed away and said I have to go, my friend is outside. I quickly walked to the front door, he gave me 10p and I left.

I think the whole situation finally sunk in and for the first time I realised how much danger I was in. All the things you tell your kids not to do I did it. My blood ran cold actually but I remember at the time although being a bit surprised by it I never told anyone except my friend and it didn’t seem a big deal. My mother was the type that if I told her I’d have had the row for going into the house and no doubt I’d have been stopped from going out.

Anyone else look back on something and realise you had a lucky escape?

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Knittingchamp · 20/03/2022 08:51

A couple but would be too outing. One in a foreign country when younger when we were followed back by a gang of lads at 2am who then tried to rush our apartment door and break in (no prizes for guessing what their plan was). We screamed the place down and seemed to summon the mythical strength of 10 men you get when in danger and managed (2 of us!!) to keep the door closed (they were pushing from one side, us from the other). Our 3rd friend who had been shouting for help from the balcony (and saw their lookout) came with a household item that we used as a weapon in the end and saw them off. We even managed to get a good night's sleep after that, balls of steel we had back then.

Libertybear80 · 20/03/2022 08:57

Boyfriend spun the car at 70 mph on the outside lane of the M20. Hit the central reservation. The car spun round narrowly missing a tanker on the inside lane and ended up on the hard shoulder!

PupInAPram · 20/03/2022 09:02

43 years ago, after Camp America, which I did immediately after A Levels, hitch hiking with a friend. The guy started driving in the opposite direction to where we needed to go and totally blanked us for a good 15 minutes as we asked him in our polite British way, why. Eventually we were near hysterical, I think he figured we were more trouble than we were worth, and he screeched over to the side of the highway some miles from where we were headed, so we were completely lost, and we scrambled out. I'll never forget standing on the side of the road in the baking hot heat watching flies buzzing around an absolutely flattened dead dog in the middle of the highway thinking something really bad had been about to happen. Ditto, hitched with 2 men who started to masturbate while my friend was asleep beside me on the back seat. I managed to persuade my friend at the next gas stop that we really did need to not get back in the car. Also the lift from the lovely born again Christian who explained he had found God whilst in prison for murder.

Piggypiggyoinkoink · 20/03/2022 09:04

When I was around 18, I got lost walking to a bus station and asked first person I saw for directions. He volunteered to walk with me, ended up in front of some houses where he said I was to come in as he needed to pick something up. Was seriously late to meet my friend by this point so asked another passerby for directions. I was about 2 miles in the wrong direction. First bloke ran when I stopped the second.

It took the look of utter fear on my mate’s face when I finally got there and explained why I was late for me to realise just how wrong it could have gone.

Crazzzycat · 20/03/2022 09:14

Mine’s not too dissimilar to yours. When I was about 7 or 8, I was walking to the shops and a car pulled up next to me. The driver asked me if I knew the way to where he was going, which was somewhere out of the village. I explained to him how to get there and he then said, why don’t you join me in the car and show me? I refused, but he was so adamant that this was a great idea and kept telling me how helpful that would be for him, that he’d drop me back home afterwards etc etc.

The only reason I stood my ground, wasn’t because I’d worked out that this guy was dodgy as hell, but because I wasn’t 100% certain that I really knew the way. I thought it’d be really embarrassing if I was wrong 🤦🏻‍♀️

It actually took me a good few years before it all of a sudden hit me what kind of danger I had been dealing with. It makes me feel sick to think that, if I had been more certain of how to get to where he was going, I may well have jumped in the car with him

TattiePants · 20/03/2022 09:21

I had a very similar experience to you OP. I was ill and off school. Both parents had to work and we didn’t have a car so I walked to my grandmother’s house about 10 minutes away. I’m guessing I was 11ish at the time so mid 80s. I walked through a popular city park on a path parallel to the main road and a man asked me to come with him to see some puppies (or similar). Despite being a very sensible child, I actually followed him to one of the houses overlooking the park. He opened the front door and I remember a small enclosed porch (later realised the house was converted into flats). At that point, I came to my senses, made an excuse and left. I don’t want to think about what would have happened if I’d gone into the flat or he’d grabbed me. I never did tell my parents.

OldTinHat · 20/03/2022 09:23

Aged 21 working as an estate agent, early 90s so no mobile phone. Met two guys at a very rural property to show them round, it was late afternoon in November and getting dark. One guy blocked the front door, laughed and said it was play time. The other stood there looking anxious. I set off my rape alarm (not that anyone would hear it in the middle of nowhere) and ran for the back door and hid at the bottom of the very large garden.

Waited there for an hour, long after I heard their car drive off.

When I got back to the office, the manager had a go at me for taking so long. I told him what happened, police were called. Surprise, surprise, the contact names and details the men had given were false.

HyggeTygge1 · 20/03/2022 09:27

21 years old (quite a few years ago) went with my best friend to New York. Asked a waiter where we should go for a night out and he said the meat packing district so off we went in a taxi that night. Realised we were in the middle of absolutely nowhere and you had to pay hundreds of dollars to get into the clubs that looked like warehouses. Eventually a group of Russian men paid for us to go into a club. When we got inside people were waving guns in the air on the dance floor. We were so out of our depth and managed to sneak off without telling them we were leaving. I can't bare the thought of my daughter doing something similar!

cushioncovers · 20/03/2022 09:28

Walking home from nye party on my own, a man pulled up at kerbside and tried to get me into his car.

Sat with a friend at night in a school playground as teenagers and two boys same sort of age climbed over the fence and followed us home trying to block our way. They stayed silent the whole time, just staring at us Nothing actually happened but it was terrifying.

cushioncovers · 20/03/2022 09:30

Sad how so far all of these experiences are of men intimidating/frightening women. Rather than I nearly drowned or fell off of a cliff type scenarios.

goodnightgrumble · 20/03/2022 09:52

I stupidly got off a plane in London and had little money. I went to kings cross to get the train home and it was closed for the night and I did not have enough money for a hotel.
Went back to two guys flat who said I could stop there. (They we're on the plane) I was young and stupid.
Got back to the flat and there were four guys. They all looked after me and the owner even gave up his bed for me and brought me a sandwich! I was so lucky that they were genuinely nice guys!

Lovinglife45 · 20/03/2022 10:45

Wow - some of you really did have lucky escapes!

Age 19 I went to meet a guy. While at his house, it seemed he was arranging for his friends to pop round while I was there. I found this odd and felt uncomfortable. His parents were not home either. I asked him where the nearest shop was and left. I caught a bus home. He called me later and I made up some excuse about getting lost. I did not have a mobile phone then as mid 90's. To this day, I do not know if he was planning anything sinister but I was not willing to take the risk.

Around age 20, I visited two guys with my friend. We were discussing getting taxis home and they did not have enough to put us both in a taxi. I then called a friend who told me to collect money from a friend at an address. Taxi pulled up outside said address and I knocked for ages - nobody came out. The taxi driver drove off and left me. It must have been 3/4am. I had to walk roughly 1.5 miles home. Part of the journey was near a dark open park. I was shitting myself. The relief I felt when I arrived at my front door.

Age 20/21, I visited a guy (I did a lot of that). He made it clear from the onset that he expected to sleep with me. I refused and he told me to leave. Imagine if he was the type to have forced himself on me? We were alone in the house.

One or two serious car accidents too. Unhurt both times.

katscamel · 20/03/2022 10:47

Rather different from these....
I flew back into the country I currently live in after my Xmas break...arrived at 6ish, was out by 7ish No Internet so didn't know what was going on, was trying to decide whether to be ripped off by taxi drivers or have coffee and wait for Internet to come back on. Went for rip off taxi and colleagues advised just getting home. Two hours later the airport was taken over by the 'baddies' (still not sure who they were), people were injured/killed, planes damaged, airport trashed. Very lucky escape.

Cheeseandlobster · 20/03/2022 10:53

@PupInAPram

43 years ago, after Camp America, which I did immediately after A Levels, hitch hiking with a friend. The guy started driving in the opposite direction to where we needed to go and totally blanked us for a good 15 minutes as we asked him in our polite British way, why. Eventually we were near hysterical, I think he figured we were more trouble than we were worth, and he screeched over to the side of the highway some miles from where we were headed, so we were completely lost, and we scrambled out. I'll never forget standing on the side of the road in the baking hot heat watching flies buzzing around an absolutely flattened dead dog in the middle of the highway thinking something really bad had been about to happen. Ditto, hitched with 2 men who started to masturbate while my friend was asleep beside me on the back seat. I managed to persuade my friend at the next gas stop that we really did need to not get back in the car. Also the lift from the lovely born again Christian who explained he had found God whilst in prison for murder.
I don't understand why you continued to hitch hike after the first of these experiences happenned. Surely one of these occasions would be enough for you to never do that again Confused
MmeHennyPenny · 20/03/2022 11:07

Age 7 walking home from school a car pulled up next to me. The male driver leaned over and asked for directions. He said he couldn’t hear me and asked me to move nearer to him, as I did he tried to grab me.
I ran away luckily there was a path where his car couldn’t follow.
I ran home and told my mum. She told me off for not ignoring the man when he stopped.
I have often wondered about it and it was nearly 50 years ago now. I often walk over the bridge where it happened and always remember the incident.
Why didn’t my mum alert the police? I hope he didn’t harm any other little girls.

OnTheUpNow · 20/03/2022 11:40

I'm not sure if this counts. It's my Mother's near miss really but also partly mine. I was a baby at the time. My Mother was going to the shops and was going to take me but I was asleep. She was going to wake me but my Gran said to let me sleep and that she'd watch me.

My Mother was walking to the shops when a woman jumped out of a window from 3 stories up. She just, missed my Mother, landing literally in front of her, where my pram would have been if she'd taken me. The woman survived btw. Another foot and I probably wouldn't have had a Mother.

tigerbear · 20/03/2022 11:50

Was followed by a really dodgy looking woman on the way home from work one night, when I was about 21. They were sitting on a bench in the dark at the end of the street where my office was, and I soon as I passed by, they got up and began walking about 2 metres behind me.
Crossed the road and went into a tiny petrol station shop, with them following immediately behind. As they hadn’t technically done anything, I didn’t know what to say to the cashier, so I just walked out again. They followed me down the longest road (no one else around at all), then I legged it across the road to the station, and jumped on the first train.
A day later, a relative called my mum and said a young woman had been murdered on the town moor by a man dressed up as a woman, less than half a mile from where I’d been followed. I’m in doubt it was the same person.

tigerbear · 20/03/2022 11:51
  • NO doubt
Laiste · 20/03/2022 11:57

In my early teens me and a friend stupidly accepted the offer of getting off the bus a few stops early with a couple of lads we'd just met and going back to theirs for a coffee.

We walked with them to what was obvs a rough estate, and followed them to a scummy ground floor flat. We went in! I mean ?????

In there was a couple of older blokes (20s? 30s? who knows) who pinched my arse as i went past them.

One lad took us to their shared bedroom. The other stayed talking in hushed tones to the blokes. Friend and i were finally hastily planning escape. We sat on one of the beds. The lad lock the door from the inside. Then he got up and said stay right there he was going to the loo.

Friend and i rushed out of the bedroom and through the flat and past the blokes who were coming through the flat. They shouted at us and tried to grab at us but we ran like fuck until we were out of the flat, out of the estate and back on the main road where the bus route was.

I mean how fucking stupid?

Another near miss. I was in the car park of a woods at twilight in summer waiting for my date to meet me there. He was late so i got out and wandered about a bit (no other cars in car park). As i was wandering enjoying the woods a few meters from my car this bloke came out of the bushes at me. He was all dressed in camo gear and ran crouching low down right towards me. I froze solid (will never forget that Hmm) couldn't even scream. Boyfriend's car pulled into car park and at the same time my phone started ringing and weirdo stood up properly and started to run away. Boy friend ran after him.

Bloke disappeared into woods. Boyfriend returned to me. We were both a bit shaken up.

Dontyoustart · 20/03/2022 12:07

I was about 9 and was riding my pony down a fairly quiet country lane past a spot where a “harmless” old man had pitched a ramshackle den type affair. The man engaged me in conversation , I was a bit 🙄 but sort of chatted back. He then put his hand on my knee and went to grab hold of the reins. A switch in my brain suddenly flipped , I dug my heels in and thankfully my poor pony shot off up the road. I didn’t look back and can’t remember feeling overly worried about it at the time, I don’t think I even told anyone . 40 years later it makes my blood run cold and I feel angry at all the near misses young girls have endured.

PoxyAndIKnowIt · 20/03/2022 12:15

The problem with having been a child before ca. the 90s was that there were two conflicting messages being given out to children: 1) don't 'go' with strangers, and 2) respect and trust adults.

When I was about 10 (1979) I was walking home alone in the dark (around 5pm) from my piano lesson. A man appeared and started talking to me. He asked me to come and look at something, and rather than run I stayed and tried to explain that I shouldn't and kept apologising. He grabbed me and tried to drag me off, at which point I screamed, managed to kick him and escaped. I ran all the way home. Bizarrely I felt too embarrassed/ashamed to tell my mum! Children were often told off for the trouble they got into back then, even if not their fault.

DressingPafe · 20/03/2022 12:16

Back in the early 70’s (showing my age) my dippy aunt and uncle took me away for a few days. I was around 4 yrs old. We were going up some steps in Victoria station and I was trailing behind them while they chatted away. A man coming down the stairs picked me up and started walking off with me. I can still remember it, he was holding me so I was looking over his shoulder and I can still remember trying to scream and nothing coming out. Luckily, my uncle turned round and chased after him. Apparently the “excuse” he gave my uncle was that I looked so “cute” he wanted to just pick me up!

The worst of it was they didn’t call the police because they didn’t want my mum and dad finding out! Only they ended up confessing to them as I was so upset by it they were worried I’d tell them myself. I shudder to think what would have happened to me if my uncle hadn’t turned around in time.

loopylindi · 20/03/2022 12:17

@cushioncovers

Sad how so far all of these experiences are of men intimidating/frightening women. Rather than I nearly drowned or fell off of a cliff type scenarios.
Yes! All mine are to do with cars. 1 fell asleep driving on the M6 early one Saturday morning. Hire car not very well, I was OK
  1. Same type of car, skidded on black ice and turned it over. Car not good, I was OK apart from cut on scalp
3 EXACTLY a year later, newer model of same car, same road, same passenger, same thing happened again. Insurance company couldn't believe it. In any one of those accidents I could have died.
Cheeseandlobster · 20/03/2022 12:21

I interrupted a man breaking into a garage late at night with a crow bar. Deserted street and no-one else around. I kept walking and told him I hadn't seen him. Reported it to the police the next day and was told I had been very lucky. They knew who he was and he was extremely violent

TheVolturi · 20/03/2022 12:22

When my first was still a baby I was pushing the pram through the local cemetery, not many people about that day. I started to feel a bit strange and realised there was a young man dressed all in black with his hood up following behind, every time I stopped, in an attempt to let him pass, he stopped too. I felt such dread, until thankfully a family appeared walking towards me and he disappeared back the other way. A couple of years later a local woman was murdered after a man followed her in almost exactly the same area, when his picture was released it was the same man.