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What’s the closest escape you’ve ever had from a dangerous situation?

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Bluepantsbigheart · 20/03/2022 08:43

I had a moment of absolute clarity and shock earlier. I was visiting a childhood friend so back on the street where I grew up. We were chatting about the past, about how we used to roam and our parents didn’t know where we were etc. This would have been the early 80’s and I’d have been 10/12 years old.

I remembered going with another friend ‘Halloweening’ as we called it then - to maximise our returns we’d visit a house each, alternating along the street.
I went to one house, rang the bell and through the glass side panel saw the owner come down the stairs. ‘Happy Halloween’ I said - ah, come in a minute he said, I need to get money’ I followed him into his lounge where he was scrabbling about in drawers by the sound of it in the kitchen. He was a while and when he came back into the room he had his trousers open with his penis out. I backed away and said I have to go, my friend is outside. I quickly walked to the front door, he gave me 10p and I left.

I think the whole situation finally sunk in and for the first time I realised how much danger I was in. All the things you tell your kids not to do I did it. My blood ran cold actually but I remember at the time although being a bit surprised by it I never told anyone except my friend and it didn’t seem a big deal. My mother was the type that if I told her I’d have had the row for going into the house and no doubt I’d have been stopped from going out.

Anyone else look back on something and realise you had a lucky escape?

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Squiff70 · 20/03/2022 23:28

@Wedontcare123

The inside lane is for normal traffic. Any lanes to the right of that (in the UK) are just for overtaking. If you have a driving licence, you should know this

Is there anything more irritating than a pedant showing up to educate people on driving terminology on a thread like this?

Haha, probably not tbh. I'd rather be a pedant though Wink
MrsAvocet · 20/03/2022 23:33

An event I'd completely forgotten about just came back to me. Totally different to most of these but probably the closest to death I've ever been, yet kind of mundane. I choked on a piece of meat in the canteen at work. It was a big place, hundreds of people in the room but none of my friends had arrived yet so I was sitting on my own. The room was noisy and everyone was busy with their own conversations and I couldn't attract anyone's attention. I was starting to think shit, this is it, I'm going to die here and nobody has even noticed, when just at that moment I saw one of my junior staff come in and managed to attract her attention. Fortunately she realised pretty quickly what was happening and ran over and did back blows which dislodged the lump of meat. I never had the beef curry for lunch again!

WaltzingToWalsingham · 20/03/2022 23:43

Not my near miss, but my friend's (who doesn't use MN).

My friend and I, aged about nine, were building a den in bushes in a wooded area of the local park. A young man joined us and offered to help. He picked up my (blonde, pretty) friend and told me to go to a far corner of the park, where I would see lots more den-making materials. Somehow, I sensed that his intentions towards my friend were not good, and I lied that I could see my dad coming to get us. He put my friend down and quickly walked away.

I never told my parents and I don't think my friend told hers either - certainly not at the time, anyway. Why not? We were allowed to go to the park without an adult (it was the 1980s), so we wouldn't have been in trouble. I think my mum would have been upset and angry (with the man, not me), so maybe that had some bearing. I know I also felt ashamed, but I didn't know why.

JellyTots2009 · 20/03/2022 23:49

I almost drowned at a summer school.
Was on the side of the pool with my brother and I couldn't swim so god knows why I thought I'd jump from the edge of the pool and land on the inflatable in the middle.

I didn't get anywhere near it and once I was under I couldn't get back up. I tried everything but my body just wasn't going up.
I was panicking and my eyes were open trying to look for anything to grab. Suddenly I saw a thin stick in front of me and I grabbed it and held on. I was pulled out by a teacher.

Sue pulled my up and I literally clung on to her,
Wrapping my legs around her waist and was shaking. I must have soaked her.
She took me to the changing rooms and I got dressed.

I can never remember the rest of the day and what my mum did when she was told.

The teacher only knew I was stuck in the water because my brother had told her. He was planning on jumping on the inflatable after me but could see I wasn't coming up.

I still can't swim now and when I was in secondary school a teacher spent most of her Dinner break trying to learn me how to swim. I only managed to do about 1 second of swimming before I grabbed the side again. I was just too scared.

Made sure my DC learned to swim a few years back and are now competent.

allupsidedown · 20/03/2022 23:58

Tyre blew out on a dual carriage way, I had not long passed my test, it was an old banger - no power steering. I spun the car and ended up facing the lorry I had been overtaking. It is all a bit of a blur but I got out of that completely unscathed.

I went with a cousin on a night out. She is quite wild. I was pretending that I'm that wild but really not. Went back to her friends house. They went upstairs, luckily I had not been drinking much and was aware that his flat mates bolted the door and noticed them put something in a drink. I "accidentally" spilled the whole drink on their sofa then managed to get out of the room whilst they were trying to clean up. Shouted to my cousin that we needed to go right now and miraculously she came. She said something in my voice told her to just go.

Bunty55 · 21/03/2022 00:00

I've had a few incidents in my life which were life threatening and two of them I can't talk about as people on here would call me a liar so I'm not even going there. But they did happen and I emerged unscathed but mentally scarred for the rest of my life.
I just think that I was not meant to die - yet !

When I was about ten I went swimming one Saturday at the local baths with a girl from school. Afterwards we dawdled about and somehow ended up on the railway line near where she lived.

We crossed the line, she was ahead of me when suddenly I heard the siren from the train. I had not seen it coming and jumped out of the way seconds before it passed. I remember thinking I would be in big trouble if my mother found this one out !

babywalker56 · 21/03/2022 00:01

@cushioncovers

Sad how so far all of these experiences are of men intimidating/frightening women. Rather than I nearly drowned or fell off of a cliff type scenarios.
I was going to say the same thing. Every post I've read up to this comment has had something to do with a man
butterflyrabbit · 21/03/2022 00:15

@TootsAtOwls

This thread is so scary because it seems like no matter how much you warn kids about "stranger danger" it all goes out the window when a smiley man actually starts a conversation.
Yes! I worry about my sweet kids.
BeanStew22 · 21/03/2022 00:22

I think one of the lessons from this thread is how important it is to impress upon children that they should listen and act upon any feeling of things being ‘off’ and will not be in trouble (for breaking rules, for being rude to adults etc)

Was almost abducted as a child: was afraid of being told off for taking a short cut home (that is been told not to)

Laiste · 21/03/2022 07:21

[quote AlistairCamel]@Laiste do you live in Hampshire? I read something very similar on a local group recently[/quote]
No, both my incidents happened in West London and Ruislip. And quite a long time ago. First in the 80s and the woods one in the 90s.

658Doyouknowwheremysparkis · 21/03/2022 07:35

As a student ( 18/19) got off the Thameslink train at Kings Cross ( e route back to Uni) when a woman approached me and asked if I had anywhere to stay that night and she would look after me…. Reported her to the transport police

youwouldthink · 21/03/2022 07:43

Christmas day just gone.
Had family for dinner and had been an awful day with rain. However wasn't on social media or seeing any news and there had been no weather warnings.
Driving my adult DS and DGS4 home about 40 mins away .
As we drove saw lots of surface water but took it slow and steady as it was pitch dark.
Just a few mins from my sons house we drove into what seemed like another puddle and within seconds were plunged into total darkness. The water was so high it had covered all 6 lights on the front of my jeep type car.
Thank goodness I kept my foot on the accelerator and we got through.
So easily we could have been swept to the adjacent river.
I couldn't sleep for days!

gatsbyhasdied · 21/03/2022 08:10

@katscamel

Rather different from these.... I flew back into the country I currently live in after my Xmas break...arrived at 6ish, was out by 7ish No Internet so didn't know what was going on, was trying to decide whether to be ripped off by taxi drivers or have coffee and wait for Internet to come back on. Went for rip off taxi and colleagues advised just getting home. Two hours later the airport was taken over by the 'baddies' (still not sure who they were), people were injured/killed, planes damaged, airport trashed. Very lucky escape.
Kazakhstan?
Ohmych · 21/03/2022 08:36

I got groomed by a pedophile when I was 11. He ran a shop near my house and a friend of mine said we should go and see him because he will give us free alcohol. We kept going back and he would give us alcohol and we would leave. One day he said he would give us some alcohol now and then we would have to come back later for more. My friend said we shouldn't go back later and we went to walk home. He drove past us and told us to get in the car and he would take us to the shop for more alcohol. He drove around the back of the shop and no one was around. He locked the doors and told us he had given us what we wanted but now it was time for him to get what he wanted! Luckily the man from the shop next door came out the back and told him to let us go which he did.

KenAdams · 21/03/2022 08:50

This thread makes me think of those who weren't so lucky. They could have been the ones posting on here if someone had passed by or if they'd managed to get out of a car/house.

@Squiff70 people have shared some really harrowing stuff on here, I can't believe you think coming on just to be a pendant is appropriate.

oranga · 21/03/2022 09:08

@WildImaginings yes this is the same case. Utterly horrific and tragic. I will listen to the podcast. Thank you for sharing.

Laiste · 21/03/2022 09:16

The drowning one above has reminded me of something:

When i was 9 or 10 i was swimming in the sea in Dorset. I'm an only child, and my parents were asleep (like you do Hmm) so i was basically alone. I was a strong swimmer and was just out of my depth. I was aware of a little inflatable dingy nearby and i heard a boy's voice say ''help'' - i looked round and this dingy was being taken out by the current with a boy in it around ... 6 or 7 years old. There was no one else in the sea anywhere near us and the beach was miles away as the tide was out.

I said hang on and swam (now right out of my depth) and grabbed the rope trailing behind the dingy and turned to swim towards shore and tow him in.

Unfortunately he panicked and flung himself out of the dingy and wrapped himself around me like a concrete life jacket! I started to go down and felt him 'climbing' up me to keep his head above the water. I had no training in life saving. I remember how cold and dark the water was suddenly. I thought about my mum and dad back on the hot sand. It was like a life flashing before you moment!

Gasping for breath i managed to get him to relax his grip enough to let me move my arms and swim a bit - somehow i got him and the bloody dingy back to the shallows. He found his feet and just belted up the beach crying and dragging his dingy. I went to where mum and dad were snoozing on the sand and told them i'd nearly drowned saving someone. No one had seen a darn thing!!!!!! Hmm

I was told not to swim out of my depth again. No thanks. No well done. Nothing Hmm

CharSiu · 21/03/2022 09:18

news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/europe/5269642.stm

I was in this storm with and DH 5 year old DS, it was petrifying and we ended up wading through water up to our knees with trees and debris flying around.

I bumped in to a lad I had gone to school with in a nightclub a couple of years after finishing school. I hadn’t known him well but we had a chat and a few drinks, he was very charming and funny. After we left he picked me up in a Fireman’s lift and took me behind some shops. He wanted sex and was persistent, I managed to talk him down. A few years later on a trip back home I found out he was then in prison for committing rape.

Monkeybutt1 · 21/03/2022 09:21

When I was 13 I was walking home from school at lunch time as I had forgotten my PE kit. I was on a main road which was fairly busy and as I walked past a cut through to the tennis club a man came out, grabbed me and asked me for a kiss. I managed to kick him very hard in the shin and run away. Luckily a group of boys walking down the road towards me saw it and walked me back to school, and remembered the guys number plate as he sped off. He got caught, it went to court and he was found guilty. He then appealed and got let off on a technicality! Last I heard it ruined his life, he lost his job and his wife left him as everyone knew he was guilty.

Georgeskitchen · 21/03/2022 09:40

@Wedontcare123

The inside lane is for normal traffic. Any lanes to the right of that (in the UK) are just for overtaking. If you have a driving licence, you should know this

Is there anything more irritating than a pedant showing up to educate people on driving terminology on a thread like this?

Yes they always make themselves known at some point!! For the record , myself, and most people I know, call the outside lane the fast lane and the inside lane the slow lane . Doesn't everyone?
IncompleteSenten · 21/03/2022 09:44

@Wedontcare123

The inside lane is for normal traffic. Any lanes to the right of that (in the UK) are just for overtaking. If you have a driving licence, you should know this

Is there anything more irritating than a pedant showing up to educate people on driving terminology on a thread like this?

Not much. Someone shouting NAMALT and how unfair we are being about men would be more annoying.

Everyone knows what the lanes actually are and what the rules are and everyone knows that they are informally known as slow, middle and fast even though that isn't supposed to describe their use and they're actually called lane 1, lane 2 and lane 3.

Whattodoniw · 21/03/2022 09:58

@pumpkinpie01

Friend and I , both 17, on our way to a campsite in Wales. Saw a woman in about her 50's struggling with some shopping. We stopped and offered her a lift , it became clear she was very drunk . We got to her house and were invited in , god knows why we went in but we did . She started showing us photos and rambling a lot and wanted us to stay the night . She was making us feel nervous and we didn't dare so no so we figured we would just creep out . As we were upstairs we heard the front door open we came out of the room and there was a man standing at the bottom of the stairs he said to the woman ' well look what we have here ' she started pleading with him not to hurt us.He then bolted the door in about 3 places . We went downstairs my friend started talking to them can't remember what about , whilst she did I unbolted the door.Told them we were nipping to get some cigarettes , he had hold of our arms asking us not to go , we promised them we would be back and scarpered. It sounds trivial but we were in the house for hours and there was barbed wire round the garden so we were pretty freaked out.

WTF

This sounds like something out of the film /book misery ...

HyggeTygge · 21/03/2022 09:59

As someone who was smashed into from behind by someone who treated the RH lane as a "fast" lane, I implore people not to think of it like that.

DottyHarmer · 21/03/2022 09:59

I was about 12 or 13 and walking home from school and part of the route was past some woods with no houses around. A man drew up in a car and asked me the way. As I leant forward to tell him he swung the door open and tried to grab me. I leapt back and luckily he drove off. I didn’t tell my mum, nor did my friend tell her mum when she was attacked on her way to her Saturday job.

A few years later I was walking home from the station after work and a man jumped out at me. Fortunately Hmm he had his trousers half down and although I am a terrible runner I managed to escape him because of this. When I told dm she said not to call the police as we didn’t want the neighbours seeing a police car outside Sad

Cheeseandlobster · 21/03/2022 10:02

Totally the wrong thread for being a pendant. Some people need to read the room before posting