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What’s the closest escape you’ve ever had from a dangerous situation?

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Bluepantsbigheart · 20/03/2022 08:43

I had a moment of absolute clarity and shock earlier. I was visiting a childhood friend so back on the street where I grew up. We were chatting about the past, about how we used to roam and our parents didn’t know where we were etc. This would have been the early 80’s and I’d have been 10/12 years old.

I remembered going with another friend ‘Halloweening’ as we called it then - to maximise our returns we’d visit a house each, alternating along the street.
I went to one house, rang the bell and through the glass side panel saw the owner come down the stairs. ‘Happy Halloween’ I said - ah, come in a minute he said, I need to get money’ I followed him into his lounge where he was scrabbling about in drawers by the sound of it in the kitchen. He was a while and when he came back into the room he had his trousers open with his penis out. I backed away and said I have to go, my friend is outside. I quickly walked to the front door, he gave me 10p and I left.

I think the whole situation finally sunk in and for the first time I realised how much danger I was in. All the things you tell your kids not to do I did it. My blood ran cold actually but I remember at the time although being a bit surprised by it I never told anyone except my friend and it didn’t seem a big deal. My mother was the type that if I told her I’d have had the row for going into the house and no doubt I’d have been stopped from going out.

Anyone else look back on something and realise you had a lucky escape?

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Frazzled2207 · 20/03/2022 21:18

Not a male violence one
C 1990 at an air show and we were stood at the end of the runway just beyond the fence. A very old vintage plane was taking off towards my dad and I except it never actually took off, it crashed through the fence and came right at the spectators. Someone shouted RUN we all did and thankfully nobody got run over.
The plane then crashed into the woodland and there was a small fire. The pilot was injured but I later found out was discharged from hospital a few days later. I was quite young at the time but I know the whole thing shook up my dad quite a lot.

Aria999 · 20/03/2022 21:34

Actually I do have a close shave with ma man one - I think. I was traveling alone in Granada, Spain, having ditched my two female companions as they were driving me crazy. It was the first time I had been abroad by myself. Wandered down a street in the Arab bit and a man aittung at a table outside a restaurant (just tables placed along the street) offered to share a pot of mint tea. The real thing, mint leaves and boiling water. We had a nice chat in broken French and German. Then I went back to my hotel... and slept for 14 hours. I still don't know if I was just tired or if there was something in the tea.

sageandbasil · 20/03/2022 21:37

I was being followed home by someone in London once, i crossed the road and crossed back to see if he would do the same and he did. I went into a corner shop and said I'm just waiting in here there's someone following me and the shopkeeper walked me home. The guy was waiting outside the shop too. So so thankful to the lovely man

spidersenses · 20/03/2022 21:37

When I was 15 I went to bed normally one night. I hadn't long switched my light off when I heard noises. It was warm so I had a little window open. Basically my room had two large windows with a small window above them.

I kept hearing noise of the windows being messed with. I could hear a metal latch being moved around. I thought it was my sister in the next room. I was lying in bed, I didn't move or look around, and called out to her to stop messing with her window.

It carried on for what felt like 5 minutes. I sat up in bed and saw my curtains had been pushed open half way and a man was outside my window hanging off the window ledge and he had his arm inside the little open window trying to open one of the bigger windows which he could jump through. I was on the second floor and he must have climbed up on the bay window below. He jumped back down when he saw that I had seen him and I presume he fled.

The only thing that saved me was the fact the large windows had locks on them. He wouldn't have been able to reach the key to unlock them as it was hanging out if reach. That's what he'd been trying to do. Use the small window then reach in and open the large ones.

I wonder if he had been in the garden waiting for me to turn my bedroom light off. I'd only turned it off a few minutes earlier. Maybe he'd been waiting for a night I had my window open. He also knew I was awake.

I froze. I couldn't speak or move for over 10 to 15 mins. When I eventually was able to go downstairs my knees were shaking with fear - I've never had that happen since! My dad didn't believe me and tried to convince me it was a bird. I kept insisting and eventually he went outside to check and he could see muddy foot prints up the bay window. He then checked my windows and the small one was forced outward at a strange angle.

They never did call the police I don't think. I've never questioned them about it actually. But from then on my mum drove me to and from school, and a panic alarm was installed outside of my bedroom. I told my friends the next day and either they didn't care or didn't believe me.

Squiff70 · 20/03/2022 21:39

@StillSmallVoice

Not as dramatic as some of these. This afternoon. Moving from the fast lane into the slow lane on a motorway. Did the usual glance over the shoulder to check the blind spot. Glad I did because a car was speeding up and was right where I was about to go.

Nobody was at fault. But it could have been messy.

There's no such thing as a fast lane or slow lane.
Pinklimey · 20/03/2022 21:46

Went clubbing with some friends in Nottingham. Felt ill so went outside, then passed out on the street. Woke up to a man dragging me along the road, telling me I was coming with him. I totally lost my shit and got him to leave me alone. Friends no help.

RoseLavenderBlue · 20/03/2022 21:53

I was about eight and on a family walk to a local viewpoint on the cliffs. I sat down on the grass on a bit of a slope, and when I went to get up, my shoes (which didn’t have much grip) slipped and I felt myself grappling at the grass to steady myself. The thought of what might have happened if I had ended up falling, still makes me nervous.

I was driving my dad’s car to my evening class about 25 miles away, when the exhaust came away in the middle and dropped to the ground. I heard the scraping, so pulled into a bus stop which was right next to a college car park. It was dark and raining. Immediately after I stopped, another car pulled in behind me. The male driver got out and came over and said he’d seen the sparks and wondered if I needed a lift anywhere. This was pre mobile phones and it would have been a good half hour walk to where I was going. I accepted the lift! He dropped me at the University where I was going, and all was well. Just someone doing a kind deed, but I just think how lucky I was as it could have gone the other way.

Another time I’d finished a late evening shift at a hotel, and stopped for petrol on my way home. There was a young guy at the petrol station who asked me if I was heading to the town. I said yes and ended up giving him a lift!! It was absolutely fine but I thought after ‘what was I thinking?’. My work colleagues really had a go at me the next day when I told them, really frightened me. This was about 25 years ago and I don’t do things like this anymore, learned my lesson.

MintyGreenDream · 20/03/2022 21:53

Jumped onto a wall alongside a pavement in Spain at around 9 years old.There was a 30ft drop on the other side which me and my parents weren't aware of.My mum dragged me off thankfully.

Gilead · 20/03/2022 21:54

Eight or nine years old, lived opposite a common. Was playing out front with full view of common. A man popped up out of the bushes and was beckoning with one hand and holding fifty pence up with the other. I ran back to the house. Fortunately my parents did ring the police.

iklboo · 20/03/2022 22:01

There's no such thing as a fast lane or slow lane.

There's always one. You know what she meant. It doesn't change the outcome if she called it the Banana Lane and the Chihuahua Lane. The driver in the other lane was where the poster was attempting to go.

user1471554720 · 20/03/2022 22:05

Squiff70

How would you describe the lanes, so?

Squiff70 · 20/03/2022 22:07

@user1471554720

Squiff70

How would you describe the lanes, so?

The inside lane is for normal traffic. Any lanes to the right of that (in the UK) are just for overtaking. If you have a driving licence, you should know this. Hmm
LunaTheCat · 20/03/2022 22:16

These are absolutely petrifying.
The numbers of women who have had very very narrow misses with very predatory men.
I have had a couple - as a child - once whilst at a library and the other whilst walking home in broad daylight from a friends place.
It makes me so so angry.
You are all very very brave.

pumpkinpie01 · 20/03/2022 22:26

Friend and I , both 17, on our way to a campsite in Wales. Saw a woman in about her 50's struggling with some shopping. We stopped and offered her a lift , it became clear she was very drunk . We got to her house and were invited in , god knows why we went in but we did . She started showing us photos and rambling a lot and wanted us to stay the night . She was making us feel nervous and we didn't dare so no so we figured we would just creep out . As we were upstairs we heard the front door open we came out of the room and there was a man standing at the bottom of the stairs he said to the woman ' well look what we have here ' she started pleading with him not to hurt us.He then bolted the door in about 3 places . We went downstairs my friend started talking to them can't remember what about , whilst she did I unbolted the door.Told them we were nipping to get some cigarettes , he had hold of our arms asking us not to go , we promised them we would be back and scarpered. It sounds trivial but we were in the house for hours and there was barbed wire round the garden so we were pretty freaked out.

dipdye · 20/03/2022 22:27

I remember a guy in Woolworths saying to me, come with me, I know your dad.

I remember looking at him incredously and saying, no way do YOU know MY dad

SmileShock

Luckily my dad popped up at that point

Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin · 20/03/2022 22:31

Was on holiday having a great time in a very crowded street. Not are why my gut was telling me to leave the area but l couldn't ignore it. Then learned there had been a shooting right there. Never ignore my gut thankfully.

echobeachsomeday · 20/03/2022 22:32

Sorry this is long!

At 12 years old, I used to take off by myself and walk through forest near Hampstead heath/ Golders Green. I used to go really deep into the woods.
One summer day I was doing just this when I came across a group of 7/8 40-50 year old men in a clearing drinking beer. I didn't think anything of it and continued on into the woods. There was no one else around that I could see.

I got about 5 minutes away and heard one of them say ' I can't see her, I thought she went this way. I was a small skinny 12 year so I hid behind a tree. The group of men walked right past the tree where I was hiding clearly looking around for someone.

As soon as they passed I literally sprinted in the other direction till I thought I was far enough away , I was naive as a 12 year old and didn't know exactly what they wanted with me but knew they had bad intentions.

Veryverysadandold · 20/03/2022 22:32

Some of these are horrifying. One of mine was when my housemate and I went on a night out, I was very drunk so came back and passed out. She walked home later and got held up by a man with a weapon who forced her into the house to take anything valuable, then to a cashpoint. She got out unhurt but I felt awful as I was passed out in bed for the whole thing.

changenametimeagain · 20/03/2022 22:35

@SugarRushCandy

I feel incandescent with rage reading what so many of you have endured at the hands of men. I echo what previous posters have said - what the fuck is wrong with these men? So many girls and women who might not have had such a lucky escape.
Raging here too. Such a sad read.
WildImaginings · 20/03/2022 22:43

[quote oranga]@WildImaginings yes it was. [/quote]
If this is the same case that I am thinking of then it is covered in series 1 of the podcast 'The Storyteller'. Very well made and with the involvement and blessing of the victims family.

CollagenLady · 20/03/2022 22:51

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TheMooch · 20/03/2022 22:53

I was a very naive 16yr old, I was doing 1 of my A'Levels as an evening course in a city college

l lived 20 miles away from the college and the buses were 1 an hour.

Early 90's no mobile phone, long wait for next bus, dark night sat alone a smelly dark bus station a man started chatting to me, tried to convince me it would warmer to wait at the nearby pub. I said no. A car appeared, his mate got out and he tried to drag me to the car.
From nowhere a guy about 17 or 18 suddenly appeared round the corner said to me "there you are, sorry I'm late .." I didnt have a clue who he was, but I grabbed my bag and ran to him. Thankfully he was genuinely a good guy, seen something was not right and gave me an escape. We ran to the nearby police station. After talking to the police and phoning my dad, the police drove us both home. I never said a proper thank you to him, my head was a mess. I often think about him - he had curly hair and wore a heavy metal band TShirt.

Theimpossiblegirl · 20/03/2022 22:58

So many lucky escapes.
My mum used to let our lodger babysit us. Years later we found out he had abused his girlfriend's daughter. My mum was filled with guilt but for some reason he'd left us alone. I think it's because there were two of us, so harder to get us alone, I don't know.

Wedontcare123 · 20/03/2022 23:00

The inside lane is for normal traffic. Any lanes to the right of that (in the UK) are just for overtaking. If you have a driving licence, you should know this

Is there anything more irritating than a pedant showing up to educate people on driving terminology on a thread like this?

HerRoyalNotness · 20/03/2022 23:06

Lying in bed in my apartment when i heard loud boom and my bed and apartment rattled. I lay there expecting a bomb to go off, figured it had landed on the roof. (In the ME when the 2nd gulf war just started). Got up and looked out the window and it was a car bomb that had gone off next door at an ambassadors house

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