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What’s the closest escape you’ve ever had from a dangerous situation?

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Bluepantsbigheart · 20/03/2022 08:43

I had a moment of absolute clarity and shock earlier. I was visiting a childhood friend so back on the street where I grew up. We were chatting about the past, about how we used to roam and our parents didn’t know where we were etc. This would have been the early 80’s and I’d have been 10/12 years old.

I remembered going with another friend ‘Halloweening’ as we called it then - to maximise our returns we’d visit a house each, alternating along the street.
I went to one house, rang the bell and through the glass side panel saw the owner come down the stairs. ‘Happy Halloween’ I said - ah, come in a minute he said, I need to get money’ I followed him into his lounge where he was scrabbling about in drawers by the sound of it in the kitchen. He was a while and when he came back into the room he had his trousers open with his penis out. I backed away and said I have to go, my friend is outside. I quickly walked to the front door, he gave me 10p and I left.

I think the whole situation finally sunk in and for the first time I realised how much danger I was in. All the things you tell your kids not to do I did it. My blood ran cold actually but I remember at the time although being a bit surprised by it I never told anyone except my friend and it didn’t seem a big deal. My mother was the type that if I told her I’d have had the row for going into the house and no doubt I’d have been stopped from going out.

Anyone else look back on something and realise you had a lucky escape?

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DustyMaiden · 20/03/2022 18:21

I was 3 years old, I was with DM, we arrived home to the entrance to our block of flats. Which was a converted Georgian house with big stone staircases. DM left me at the bottom and dragged DB and baby in pram up the stairs.
When she came down again I had vanished.
A man told me he was taking me to see puppies. He took me to a disused garage and to the top of a metal flight of stairs. There were several German shepherds at the bottom of the stairs.
He exposed himself to me, I said and did nothing. He left, leaving me there. I sat on the step for several hours. Another man came and took me home.
My DM gave me a flake and made me promise not to tell my DF.

I always think I didn’t object because I had been taught D.C. should always do what adults tell them.

PupInAPram · 20/03/2022 18:22

@iklboo

When I was 9 my nana wanted to take me shopping. She was planning on going into Manchester for the day - usually a treat. I kept saying I didn't want to go. She kept giving reasons why we should - you like the escalators, we can go in the big toy shop, we'll have our dinner In Woolworths. I burst into tears so she gave up & said we'll go to the local precinct instead, not happy with me at all.

We came home later & put the TV on. Where the news was showing the big fire at Woolworths. Ten people died, most in the restaurant where we would have been at the time it started.

Wow!
Bearnecessity · 20/03/2022 18:25

Three men tried to drag me into a car late at night in central London in 1993, I broke free and ran for my life...phoned my brother from a phone box who came and picked me up with a baseball bat in his hand.

MrsBerthaRochester · 20/03/2022 18:53

Loads. Age 14 went on a date with a guy mid twenties. Took my friend with me but he dropped her off at shopping centre. Drove me to a dark lane, kept making me touch his dick and wanted me to get in the back(where there was a dirty matress)
Age 17 friend and I couldnt get a taxi so accepted a lift from one of club bouncers. Dropped my friend off and again I was driven to a secluded spot where he kept asking me to get in back. I told him my grandparents would phone police if wasnt home by a certain hour.
Coming home from dinner with friends, it was snowing really heavily and a guy in a van got out and asked if I wanted a lift. Might have been genuine but really what guy thinks a woman is going to get in his van?
Have loads of other stories of being in inappropriate situations with groups of guys who were a lot older.

Gonnagetgoing · 20/03/2022 19:00

I used to go out clubbing in my 20s and would often get a cab from north to south London where I lived. I’d had the same male driver, young a few times and then one day I noticed he was driving me to an area (Mitcham Common) which wasn’t on my way home, I mean it could’ve been but wasn’t really near. I sat bolt upright and said “this isn’t the way you usually go is it?” He tried to give me some rubbish about there being a traffic incident somewhere. Luckily I recalled some friends were at a all night bar nearby so I asked him to drop me there which he did and then I stayed with one of them. I reported the driver to his cab office in the morning as I thought at the very least I’d be sexually assaulted.

earsup · 20/03/2022 19:14

Bar in Istanbul.....met some local lads...got chatting....they put a drug in the drinks....i didnt touch mine as felt unwell before....friend was obviously affected by the drug as drank the drink....then about 10 men appeared from the back....we had umbrellas as raining...whacked them in the balls and ran out....!!

NannyGythaOgg · 20/03/2022 19:18

I was driving and came up behind a quite slow moving lorry and I pulled out to overtake, having plenty of time before the oncoming lorry got close, except I wasn't driving my 2 litre company car but my mum's one litre fiesta.

Too late to pull back in and road definitely not wide enough for me to pass between 2 HGVs.

Luckily both drivers spotted what was happening and braked sharply giving me just enough space to get back in front of the lorry I was attempting to overtake before the other lorry passed.

They, understandably, nearly deafened me with their horns. I've never done anything quite as stupid since and that was over 30 years ago.

My sister was at the Grand Hotel in Brighton for the Conservative conference in 1984. She'd had a few drinks and decided to go for a walk on the beach before bed. She walked through the foyer and was about 30 yard from the hotel when she heard a noise and turned to see the IRA bomb explode, less than a minute since she had walked there.

AlexCabot · 20/03/2022 19:28

@iklboo

When I was 9 my nana wanted to take me shopping. She was planning on going into Manchester for the day - usually a treat. I kept saying I didn't want to go. She kept giving reasons why we should - you like the escalators, we can go in the big toy shop, we'll have our dinner In Woolworths. I burst into tears so she gave up & said we'll go to the local precinct instead, not happy with me at all.

We came home later & put the TV on. Where the news was showing the big fire at Woolworths. Ten people died, most in the restaurant where we would have been at the time it started.

I've just read the Wikipedia entry about the fire, most of the people who died seemed to refuse to leave despite there being smoke and some customers insisted on queuing at an abandoned checkout.

I worked at a supermarket in my teens where there was a very serious fire in the warehouse. We literally had to drag customers out as they didn't want to leave their shopping.

berlinbabylon · 20/03/2022 19:30

@Libertybear80

Boyfriend spun the car at 70 mph on the outside lane of the M20. Hit the central reservation. The car spun round narrowly missing a tanker on the inside lane and ended up on the hard shoulder!
I did something similar on the A40(M) coming out of Cardiff when I was 19. Probably the reason I don't like motorway driving now.

Fortunately no close shaves with men, though have been in a couple of situations where I could have been raped or killed if the men I was with hadn't decent, eg hitchhiking or going to a guy's flat who I didn't really know.

iklboo · 20/03/2022 19:35

@AlexCabot - yes, mad isn't it? My nana would probably have been like that! All 'I've paid good money for this dinner, we're not wasting it' Shock

oranga · 20/03/2022 19:39

When I was in my early twenties I lived for a while in a house which had been split into four bedsits - all girls. I didn't really know anyone else in the building. A few days after I moved out one of the girls who lived there was murdered by another resident. It was absolutely horrific. It was such a quiet place to live and still can't believe that this happened.

Featuredcreature · 20/03/2022 19:43

I escaped being hit by a car by an inch, it was going really fast and was 100% my fault. I remember waiting for a bus when I was 15 and some weirdo in the house opposite beckoning me like a cat Hmm wtf. A driver on the same route stopped the bus and refused to open the doors to tell me he rather like to take me out, in cruder words. I was a pretty naive teenager tbh and hanging around with more mature peers had me in some odd situations.

When I was about 17 I was drunk and walking home from my sisters house, two women stopped in a car and asked me if I wanted a lift home. As they were women I gladly accepted, halfway there they were flagged over by the police Shock. I took the chance to leave, I still wonder wtf was going on in that scenario. Like I say I was quite an idiotic teenager.

Hoppinggreen · 20/03/2022 20:08

@cushioncovers

Sad how so far all of these experiences are of men intimidating/frightening women. Rather than I nearly drowned or fell off of a cliff type scenarios.
That’s exactly what I was thinking
MrsAvocet · 20/03/2022 20:10

I've had a few. I've been seriously injured in a car crash (not my fault), bern somewhere when a bomb went off and been struck by lightening and lived to tell the tale of them all thankfully.

Fordian · 20/03/2022 20:14

@TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross

As a student, I took a guy back to my student house one night - not a boyfriend, just a casual hook-up - and we started making out - things were progressing, and then I just realised that I really didn’t want to have sex. So I said so, and he was absolutely fine about it and slept on the sofa, no hard feelings.

And what’s so sad about this story is that I realise how my well-being and safety that night were entirely reliant on his being a good guy. If I’d said no and he hadn’t been OK with it - he came back with me fully expecting that we were going to have sex - he could have raped me and there was NOTHING I could have done to stop him. And that’s just shit.

Nothing 'sad', really. We should rejoice that despite a guy thinking he was 'in', you said 'no' and the guy respected that.

That's good.

Amiable · 20/03/2022 20:26

In the early 90's the IRA was active in London.

I was working in an office just off Regent St, near Oxford Circus. Came out of the office for lunch, and stood in the doorway to light my cigarette, and became aware of someone shouting to my right (Regent St was to the left).

I looked up and say a police cordon with a crowd and a policeman shouting "run towards me" at the top of his voice. I only then realised there was no-one else out on the street, and so ran towards them.

I was told there was a bomb alert outside Ickins and Jones. We were used to false alarms, so didn't think about it. My main worry was not being able to get back into the office.

Eventually after about an hour they opened the road and I went back to work, complaining about the inconvenience. Half an hour later my boss's husband called to check up on us. Apparently a real bomb had been defused, about 100m from where I had been standing outside the office. And yes, I would have been hit.

That was scary!

Butteredtoast55 · 20/03/2022 20:29

I nearly drowned twice as a child: once in the sea (my Dad swam in fully dressed to save me) and once in a friend's pool at the hotel they owned (guest jumped in fully dressed to save me). Despite evidence I can actually swim!
Early 80s, I was going back to uni after a weekend at home. My parents always gave me the taxi fare so I would be able to get back safely from the railway station. Taxi driver was super-creepy and kept making really inappropriate remarks. I told him my name was Sammy as I just wanted to shut him up. He was refusing to open the car door once we arrived until I gave him my number. Luckily a friend was walking past and I hammered on the window so he stopped to help me. We went into his halls of residence and later, he walked me round to mine. We waited for ages looking out of the window as the taxi just stayed put.
For weeks afterwards, the taxi driver would turn up outside that hall of residence and ask people for 'Sammy'. It was horrible feeling like I wasn't safe on campus.
Also, as teenagers my cousin and I were on the train together in a carriage with a man who got his penis out and started masturbating in front of us.
Bloody men (although also, heroic men who saved me from drowning!)

StillSmallVoice · 20/03/2022 20:36

Not as dramatic as some of these. This afternoon. Moving from the fast lane into the slow lane on a motorway. Did the usual glance over the shoulder to check the blind spot. Glad I did because a car was speeding up and was right where I was about to go.

Nobody was at fault. But it could have been messy.

WildImaginings · 20/03/2022 20:42

@oranga

When I was in my early twenties I lived for a while in a house which had been split into four bedsits - all girls. I didn't really know anyone else in the building. A few days after I moved out one of the girls who lived there was murdered by another resident. It was absolutely horrific. It was such a quiet place to live and still can't believe that this happened.
Was this in Scotland?
SeekingBalance · 20/03/2022 20:46

I almost drowned at the beach, I remember opening my eyes and seeing the murky water but made no attempt to save myself. Thankfully my friends mum saw my ankles and dragged me up!

Stayed late at school to finish a project, got off the bus and was chased home by a man...didn't admit to my mum even though I was clearly in distress.

Visited the doctors, with what I believed to be impetigo. I was pre teens, mum was with me. It was on the top of my thighs and the doc pulled my underwear forward to check elsewhere without asking for consent or even telling me what he was doing, I felt physically sick and it stayed with me for a long time.

In Cyprus me and my friend were the last ones on a bus when we realised it was driving to the middle of no where...when we made a fuss he reckoned he didn't know we were there.

When I think about how many times I've been assaulted on a night out its unbelievable. Not only disgusting on the man's part, but also my own. Not realising it was inappropriate or assault, accepting it as normal! Now I'm a mother of both a son and daughter, I will be educating the pair of them on this.

ThomasinaGallico · 20/03/2022 20:54

Being born. A few years earlier there wouldn’t have been the medical equipment to check the state of my blood before I was born and I would probably have been stillborn.

I think of that every time I look at the obstetric troubles of Anne Boleyn, Queen Anne, Catherine of Braganza (wife of Charles II) and wonder.

Aria999 · 20/03/2022 20:55

I fainted while driving alone on the a34. Luckily I figured out what was going to happen just in time to pull over.

oranga · 20/03/2022 21:09

@WildImaginings yes it was.

Charley50 · 20/03/2022 21:11

@Bluepantsbigheart

I had a moment of absolute clarity and shock earlier. I was visiting a childhood friend so back on the street where I grew up. We were chatting about the past, about how we used to roam and our parents didn’t know where we were etc. This would have been the early 80’s and I’d have been 10/12 years old.

I remembered going with another friend ‘Halloweening’ as we called it then - to maximise our returns we’d visit a house each, alternating along the street.
I went to one house, rang the bell and through the glass side panel saw the owner come down the stairs. ‘Happy Halloween’ I said - ah, come in a minute he said, I need to get money’ I followed him into his lounge where he was scrabbling about in drawers by the sound of it in the kitchen. He was a while and when he came back into the room he had his trousers open with his penis out. I backed away and said I have to go, my friend is outside. I quickly walked to the front door, he gave me 10p and I left.

I think the whole situation finally sunk in and for the first time I realised how much danger I was in. All the things you tell your kids not to do I did it. My blood ran cold actually but I remember at the time although being a bit surprised by it I never told anyone except my friend and it didn’t seem a big deal. My mother was the type that if I told her I’d have had the row for going into the house and no doubt I’d have been stopped from going out.

Anyone else look back on something and realise you had a lucky escape?

The exact same thing happened (well almost happened), to me and a friend when we were kids out trick or treating.
SommerTen · 20/03/2022 21:16

In 2011 I went to a 'depressed' male colleagues' home for coffee.. he was quiet and shy usually. We chatted and then I got up to leave.
Suddenly he laughed nastily and said I couldn't leave, he'd locked the doors.
It was as if he had changed into a total psychopath.
I have never felt such a horrible feeling of fear as I did at that moment.

Luckily I managed to fight him off after a while and make a run for the front door and unlock it & get out just before he got there.

I told a work friend & she actually didn't believe me. Oh but he's so shy, she said, and dropped me as a friend.
I told my family and they blamed me 'for going to a man's house in the first place'.
So obviously I didn't report him to the police.

He moved to another part of the country in 2012 to work as a GP and he's probably tried the same thing on some poor woman again.

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