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What’s the closest escape you’ve ever had from a dangerous situation?

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Bluepantsbigheart · 20/03/2022 08:43

I had a moment of absolute clarity and shock earlier. I was visiting a childhood friend so back on the street where I grew up. We were chatting about the past, about how we used to roam and our parents didn’t know where we were etc. This would have been the early 80’s and I’d have been 10/12 years old.

I remembered going with another friend ‘Halloweening’ as we called it then - to maximise our returns we’d visit a house each, alternating along the street.
I went to one house, rang the bell and through the glass side panel saw the owner come down the stairs. ‘Happy Halloween’ I said - ah, come in a minute he said, I need to get money’ I followed him into his lounge where he was scrabbling about in drawers by the sound of it in the kitchen. He was a while and when he came back into the room he had his trousers open with his penis out. I backed away and said I have to go, my friend is outside. I quickly walked to the front door, he gave me 10p and I left.

I think the whole situation finally sunk in and for the first time I realised how much danger I was in. All the things you tell your kids not to do I did it. My blood ran cold actually but I remember at the time although being a bit surprised by it I never told anyone except my friend and it didn’t seem a big deal. My mother was the type that if I told her I’d have had the row for going into the house and no doubt I’d have been stopped from going out.

Anyone else look back on something and realise you had a lucky escape?

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PandemicAtTheDisco · 26/03/2022 11:32

When I was about 9 ish I sneaked into a condemned mansion with older friends. We climbed in through the broken window and then went up the staircase. It was falling apart. The roof was off in places, wallls were crumbling and it was disgusting. The floors were all rotten. My foot went through at one point and everyone else left me there with my foot stuck. The house was making creaking and groaning sounds and I eventually pulled my foot out and got out quickly, cutting my hands on the window as I got out. There was a loud tearing sound, a loud crash then lots of dust in the air. Some of the ceiling came down near where I'd been. I wanted to go back in and explore more.

As the youngest in the group I often got hurt. We'd do stupid dares and climb/risk our necks scaling trees, buildings, crossing balconies etc. We regularly sat on the outside of window ledges several floors up. I was fearless.

I didn't realise how dangerous everything was. When I did realise I became scared of taking any risk. I'm so cautious and anxious now about everything.

I was holding on to a ledge, 4 floors up with nothing below me. I got distracted and nearly fell. I froze but eventually managed to move and get back to safety. I can't walk on glass floors now and have loads of flashbacks yet felt no fear at the time.

Thinkingblonde · 26/03/2022 17:33

My husband was in a really bad bus crash, a jib from a crane swung round as the bus was passing by, it took the roof off the top deck like a a tin opener. He was in the aisle seat, the lad in the window seat stood up to see what the noise was, the hook from the crane caught him in the head and neck and pulled him backwards, meanwhile DH was knocked unconscious and ended up laid in the aisle, he came round and got back into his seat to see the lad and, he could see the boy was critically injured, DH was 17 at the time. The boy who died was about the same age, DH said he moved the boys head slightly to let him breath easier as he was choking on his own blood. He held the boys hand until he died, until the paramedics arrived and took over.
Four people died that night. I didn’t know him at the time but was caught up in the traffic jam caused by the crash, Inremember seeing the bus with the roof torn off, people sat at the side of the road waiting for transport to hospital, the less seriously injured. DH was one of the them, he was lucky that night.

VelvetChairGirl · 27/03/2022 11:08

@TicTac80

Guys leering/flashing - that happened several times when I was a teenager.

When I was 13 and walking back from school bus stop, a guys stopped his car and asked me for directions. He then suggested I get in his car. I ran. I was too scared to tell my parents, I thought I’d somehow get into trouble.

From age 10-15, I was in the church choir. I loved it. I was friends with loads of the other choristers, and the choir master/organist was a lovely guy. He had a massive house with loads of land out in the sticks, and would often hold big gatherings there for the choir members and their families (the choir was mixed age, from under 10 to adults). Lots of lovely memories. Pretty idyllic eh? Years later, I was planning my wedding and thought about my choir master and how fab it would be if he could be the organist at my wedding. I looked him up online and found out he’d taken his own life some years before. I then found other news articles. He was the leader of a massive paedophile ring that operated in London. He was convicted but then committed suicide. I don’t recall him ever doing anything untoward to me/my brother, but he had done..to many children in previous choirs he’d been a part of. And he did those awful things (alongside his disgusting paedo ring) at that very house we’d spent so much time in. It makes me realise just how damned lucky we were…and it haunts me too that so many children suffered at his hands.

Hate to say it but thats probably part of the plan, if he had like 10 kids regularly over his place and did nothing to them but regularly picked on the 11th, the stories of the other 10 that nothing ever happened would drown out the believability of the 11th
FredAstairesChair · 27/03/2022 21:25

So many. I've posted about this one before though.

I was 14 and babysitting for a couple. It was the third time I had done it. I got the 'job' because my friend who usually did it was unavailable for a few weeks.

The husband used to take me home once they'd got back from their outing.
The house was in a rough area and was FILTHY, grotty, odd furnishings. This will have been mid-nineties. He was reasonably 'normal' but the female of the house appeared to have learning difficulties or similar. It felt wrong but at 14 and on a sensible friend's recommendation I did it.

Only this time, when I got in the car to be taken home he said he was going to go a different way. He wound up down a LONG dirt track, dark, no buildings in sight just fields and told me he was going to pull over. I'd shown no fear up until this point when I opened the car door and bolted. He followed. I was wearing heels and a skirt having helped at my Mum's office earlier that day, and wasn't the fastest runner at the best of times but I made it to a huge metal field gate and launched myself over it. He was hot on my tail and grabbed my hand. I managed to act calm and told me if he let go I'd walk back to the car with him and wouldn't tell anyone. He let go and I fled again, ran aimlessly and eventually saw a light. It was a huge farmhouse and I rammed on the door and an elderly woman in appeared at the patio doors. Thankfully she believed me and let me in, when I screamed that a man was chasing me. I'll never forget her. White hair, long cotton frilly nightdress, I think I must have got her out of bed-it would have been around midnight.

She let me call my parents and they picked me up. And the police. Who came to the house, but ultimately did nothing. They said he 'probably just wanted a cuddle and some attention' or something such like.
I could owe that little old lady my life. My parents and me sent her a card and a box of chocolates but nothing would ever be enough.

Patienceisntvirtuous · 27/03/2022 21:28

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TootsAtOwls · 29/03/2022 09:17

@VelvetChairGirl

None of these stories are about trans women. Stop trying to make the thread about your pet hate.

oh? what has protecting womens rights to safe spaces got to do with that?

One of them was about a transwoman...
kissmelittleass · 05/04/2022 14:25

One that happened to my dad in the early eighties in London, he was stood with my grandad in a packed pub by the door it was so busy they finished their drinks and decided to leave.
A few minutes after leaving there was a huge blast a bomb had just gone off in that very pub later they found out the bomb was planted by that door they were standing at

BGJO · 05/04/2022 19:59

The first time a man ever wanked at me out in public, I was 6, it would have been 1988 and unusually I was playing on my own in a park a minute or so walk away from my Nan's house. Her & my mum heard me scream but I was apparently always screaming when I was playing out so they didn't think anything of it.
I thought he had a sausage in his hand and he said "come here little girl" I got my doll and ran to my nan's house, kicking the front door till my mum opened it and when I told her someone was chasing me, she told me to chase them back and when I said it was a man she took off looking for him but he was nowhere to be seen.

The police were called and I remember telling the policeman he had a beard when I meant a moustache but I was too scared to correct what I'd said. I'm sure I saw the dirty perv in the pub about 6 years later but I didn't say anything in case I was wrong.

It happened again in the middle of town when I was about 14 and then again on holiday when I was 16 & with my baby sister.

It really effected me, to the point that if I was ever anywhere on my own with strange men, the bus or whatever, I'd imagine them doing it and I couldn't handle wanking as part of my sex life until about 8 years ago.

There have been many other occasions when I've found myself in situations that could have ended up worse than they did. Mainly in my 20's and when I'd been out drinking.

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