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What’s the closest escape you’ve ever had from a dangerous situation?

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Bluepantsbigheart · 20/03/2022 08:43

I had a moment of absolute clarity and shock earlier. I was visiting a childhood friend so back on the street where I grew up. We were chatting about the past, about how we used to roam and our parents didn’t know where we were etc. This would have been the early 80’s and I’d have been 10/12 years old.

I remembered going with another friend ‘Halloweening’ as we called it then - to maximise our returns we’d visit a house each, alternating along the street.
I went to one house, rang the bell and through the glass side panel saw the owner come down the stairs. ‘Happy Halloween’ I said - ah, come in a minute he said, I need to get money’ I followed him into his lounge where he was scrabbling about in drawers by the sound of it in the kitchen. He was a while and when he came back into the room he had his trousers open with his penis out. I backed away and said I have to go, my friend is outside. I quickly walked to the front door, he gave me 10p and I left.

I think the whole situation finally sunk in and for the first time I realised how much danger I was in. All the things you tell your kids not to do I did it. My blood ran cold actually but I remember at the time although being a bit surprised by it I never told anyone except my friend and it didn’t seem a big deal. My mother was the type that if I told her I’d have had the row for going into the house and no doubt I’d have been stopped from going out.

Anyone else look back on something and realise you had a lucky escape?

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 20/03/2022 13:49

Couple of years ago, I'd had too many drinks round a friend's house and decided to walk home rather than spend money on a cab, there is a night bus but it was an hour's wait. It was about midnight. As I was walking down the road a van drove past, then stopped and reversed back until it was driving alongside me, they could have just been checking to see if I was ok but I was terrified and legged it. Never again.

GalactatingGoddess · 20/03/2022 13:50

Some of these are so frightening! And so many involving predatory men and children, as are mine...

  • Age 10/11 was out trick or treating with friends . We all went inside a 'haunted house' after a young man asked us to come in to get the sweets. Real knives everywhere and loads of young men laughing and being intimidating.
  • Aged 14/15 my best friend was off to meet a much older guy (probs 19-23)she met on msn to go to his house in another city. Told her she couldn't go alone so I went too. We got there, 3 other adult men in the house who locked and put 4 bolts on the door as soon as we got in. I remember being terrified and thinking we'd die and just thinking how angry and sad my ex-policeman dad would be that I ignored all the safety advice he gave me. She went upstairs and had sex with one of the men and I sat downstairs with the others who tried to get me drunk. I refused to drink or eat anything as I said my dad was coming to pick me up from the address if I didn't meet him at the station on time.
Georgeskitchen · 20/03/2022 13:52

@OldTinHat

Aged 21 working as an estate agent, early 90s so no mobile phone. Met two guys at a very rural property to show them round, it was late afternoon in November and getting dark. One guy blocked the front door, laughed and said it was play time. The other stood there looking anxious. I set off my rape alarm (not that anyone would hear it in the middle of nowhere) and ran for the back door and hid at the bottom of the very large garden.

Waited there for an hour, long after I heard their car drive off.

When I got back to the office, the manager had a go at me for taking so long. I told him what happened, police were called. Surprise, surprise, the contact names and details the men had given were false.

Had your manager never heard of Suzy Lamplugh?
bettertocryinamercedes · 20/03/2022 14:00

Travelling in south Australia. Answered a newspaper ad to work on a horse farm and got the bus there.

On the journey I got chatting to the bus driver and told him where I was going. He flat out refused to take me and said the man who lived there was no good. I had to decide whether to trust him or carry on with my journey.

I got off the bus and hid in the dark in the middle of nowhere ( farmer was waiting for me) while he drove the bus into town and came back for me in his own car. I was terrified.

He took me to his house where his wife made me dinner, stayed the night and I got the bus back to town the next day. Turned out the farmer had raped the previous girl who went to work for him.

Haven't been travelling on my own again since then!

BadHairDayExpert · 20/03/2022 14:10

OP and others clicking through...
if you like close shaves, you may enjoy

I am, I am, I am by Maggie O'Farrell
www.theguardian.com/books/2017/aug/12/maggie-o-farrell-secrets-spent-life-hiding-brushes-with-death
The excerpt above is spine chilling. The book itself is fascinating.

dipdye · 20/03/2022 14:15

What is wrong with these men??? Seriously. So many wrong men.

BadHairDayExpert · 20/03/2022 14:16

As for me,
two RTAs
two predators
one near-drowning
my DC
one choking
one lucky emergency stop
one long stay in hospital

Gift of Fear Gavin Becker always comes to mind when I think of the predators

Hm2020 · 20/03/2022 14:17

When I was in a care home aged 14 and would do anything not to go back there I was chatted up by a man working on the roads he must have been late 20s I went back to his had a drink and spent the night all I wanted was somewhere to sleep he even let me sleep while he went to work the next day and gave me £10 when I left that could’ve been soo much worse no one ever knew where I was and was in a completely random part of London.

A couple of years ago my friend was coming to meet me with her kids after school as they’re ahead on scooters a man ran up to them and picked up her 6 year old and tried to run off luckily as she’s screaming people ran out of shops and the man dropped the kid so the police turn up but really didn’t seem that concerned which was quite shocking to witness first hand Shock

SugarRushCandy · 20/03/2022 14:30

I feel incandescent with rage reading what so many of you have endured at the hands of men. I echo what previous posters have said - what the fuck is wrong with these men? So many girls and women who might not have had such a lucky escape.

Squiff70 · 20/03/2022 15:19

About 11/12 years old and in the back of the family car, my dad driving on a motorway at 60mph whilst towing our caravan. In the central lane whilst overtaking, a caravan tyre blew which left our car AND caravan snaking across all three lanes. My dad battled to stay in control until we were going slow enough to stop, dripping with sweat from the effort of clinging onto the steering wheel. Thankfully nobody was hurt but we, and others, could easily have been killed.

Similarly, my dad driving at a high speed (within legal limits) on a French motorway (no caravan). My mum and I had fallen asleep. Dad nodded off for a couple of seconds and we were all woken instantly as we crossed the white line (which was deafening). We were millimetres away from the crash barrier when dad regained control of the car.

Wedontcare123 · 20/03/2022 15:43

My ex decided one day as we were driving along the motorway he wanted to see how fast his shitty modified car would do. We got to 140mph. I was absolutely terrified and just frozen with fear, begging him to stop. One wrong move from him or another driver we would have been dead. He was an abusive wanker.

thebellsesmereldathebells · 20/03/2022 15:56

Male predator-related: my godfather is a convicted child sex attacker. I was alone with him a LOT as a child - whole days at his house alone - and as far as I know he never touched me. I do have a few confusing blank spots of memory which I've never really dug into though.

Other: I was about 10 and my sister and I were hacking along the side of a fairly busy, but quite rural, road on ponies. Two enormous Rottweilers came shooting out of someone's drive and went for my pony - he was badly bitten on the leg by one, and the other one fastened its jaw round my ankle and basically dragged me off the pony. Pony bolted, my sister had drummed into me NEVER to let go of the reins, so I hung on for dear life, was dragged across the busy road (was fucking lucky) and about half a mile up a bank and across a big patch of rocky common land. I was covered in blood and bruises and concussed, but I still had hold of the reins. Poor pony took months to get over it.

Patienceisntvirtuous · 20/03/2022 16:10

Just bumping for now but will add my own when I've time. And yes, all at the hands of men :(

GoLightly282 · 20/03/2022 16:18

I was followed home from school by a man once, I was around 12. I'd been given a rape alarm by the girlguides, I can still feel it gripped tightly in my hand, I was shaking head to toe, sweat pouring off me but I was so shy back then I was too embarrassed to press it. Thankfully I knew the streets well and took a sharp turn and then bolted as I went out of his sight. Again, felt too embarrassed to tell my mum and dad.

Another one was when I was in the brownies. Not actually a near miss as the paedophile got what he wanted but it could have been a lot worse. We were in a local park, in small groups doing a nature hunt. This man approached us and asked us to pose for photos, which of course we obliged to. He took lots of us doing cartwheels and handstands, this was back in the day when we wore brown dresses so he got lots of pictures of our knickers. I knew it was wrong but just didn't know how to say no. I didn't breathe a word to my parents but another girl in the group did. The dads all went out looking for him and phoned the police but he was long gone.

JesusSufferingFuck22 · 20/03/2022 16:23

Walking back from church wearing a polka dot rah rah skirt. I was about 11 I think. A young man approached me and was very charming and complimentary. I don't remember the whole story but he encouraged me to go in to the stair of a flat and started kissing and groping me. I somehow made my excuses that I had to go as I was meant to be at my grannies and was already late. I was so embarrassed about it and I've never told anyone about thisConfused

Went the play park near our school to wait for friends at lunch time. I was 12 or 13 and looked young for my age. The park was empty but near a main road. I was sitting on a swing and a man approached me. I think he told me he was 25. He wanted me to go for a coffee with him. I politely refused and said my friends were just coming to meet me and he leftConfusedAngry

Blossom64265 · 20/03/2022 16:33

Driving down the motorway, up ahead two cars collide and it starts a chain reaction of cars spinning and bouncing into one another and into the concrete barriers on the sides and bouncing down the road like a pinball machine. It all happened in seconds and we could see it coming towards us and the cars all bounced around us and hit people behind us. It was pre-internet and we were only in town that night, so we never found out how many people died in that crash.

gingerhills · 20/03/2022 16:41

@Easterbunnyiswindowshopping

Got a taxi from a stand as was the thing then. He drove me to some waste ground. Kept asking me if I was scared. I was 19. Bit cocky from the alcohol just laughed and said no. He took me home. Dm rang the firm and complained.. Looking back she should have rang the police imo.
That's happened to me three times, twice with taxi drivers (I never use taxis now when I'm on my own) and once with some men who were acquaintances I thought were completely respectable. All three drove the wrong way and stopped in a desolate place. They were desperate to know if they'd scared me. Each time I brazened it out and in the end they drove back to civilzation but what would have happened if I'd said I was terrified? Such a weird thing to get your kicks from - frightening someone who trusts you.
Pasithea · 20/03/2022 16:49

Left kings x station as I’d changed my mind. Minutes before the fire.

AlistairCamel · 20/03/2022 16:57

@Laiste do you live in Hampshire? I read something very similar on a local group recently

thebellsesmereldathebells · 20/03/2022 16:59

This thread really brings home the epidemic proportions male violence against women has been happening at, for fucking ever. It's so sad. infuriating.

bluedodecagon · 20/03/2022 17:05

This thread is so interesting because Mumsnet’s general position is that parents today are oversensitive and overprotective and that we should all be allowed to play out alone in the streets like everyone did in the 70s 80s and 90s and according to mumsnet it was perfectly safe and nothing bad ever happened.

So this thread is honestly genuinely surprisingly to me because suddenly people are being honest and saying that they were sexually assaulted and they were threatened and it was very dangerous but that’s not the typical Mumsnet position so I wish some of the people talking about the trauma here would say something next time someone is excoriated for not wanting the eight-year-old child to play out alone on the street.

Sandinmyhooves · 20/03/2022 17:45

50% of the population have, at best, had the call call. That’s a lot of men.

hellospring2022 · 20/03/2022 17:49

NC for this as the last bit is really outing.

I have a few! (And have nearly used my 9 lives and I'm only 27)

I'll go age upwards.

  • born at 26 weeks. Flat lined twice. (This was in 1994..) said they 3rd time they wouldn't try and resuscitate. Never happened a 3rd time.
  • I was 2 years old. My dad strapped me in the car and forgot something (his glasses or wallet or something,) drive way was outside the front of the house and he had to go into the kitchen. About 3 metres away from me. Man came running over and tried to unlock the car. (It was locked) smashed the window and pulled me out. I was covered in glass and cuts and attempted to runaway with me. My dad ran out in seconds as he was trying to unstrap me from the car. (He didn't get me fully out) police called and the man was arrested and sent back to prison. He had just come out from a kidnap sentence. Who knows where I could've ended up.
  • age 7 or 8 and I remember this vividly. One of our awful neighbours had an extremely violent Rottweiler. Had bitten and attacked before despite many reports to RSPCA. I was playing in a small park next to our house and the dog escaped. I saw it and fled screaming and the dog made a bee line for me. The dog the last I remember was about 4 metres away from me. I kept running and running and to this day I have no idea where the dog went. This occasion looking back makes me believe in a god as the dog was on my tail and would've killed me. The dog eventually got destroyed.

Lastly - age 23, stomach pains and other symptoms. Had laparoscopy surgery due to suspected ovarian cysts and other things. They found an extremely rare and aggressive form of cancer called Mesothelioma. A cancer caused by Asbestos. You only have a 52% change of surviving 10 years after diagnosis. 8 hour surgery and being intubated in intensive care with a 4 week stay in hospital, i mashed to survive with the skin on my teeth and now have a 16 month old DD running around after IVF.

I'm cancer free 4 years on.

My last post will probably be quite outing as it's very rare (at my age) and ended up in the news all over the world but here we are. There's my 2 pence worth!

Grantanow · 20/03/2022 17:59

Driving on a dual carriageway a car coming in the opposite direction spun across my side of the road (no central barrier) and continued to spin sideways until it went over the side of the road down an embankment. I had to slow right down not to hit the spinning car. It was ice and he lost control. They walked out of the car ok. The police told me it was a common event at that particular spot when iced up.

iklboo · 20/03/2022 18:07

When I was 9 my nana wanted to take me shopping. She was planning on going into Manchester for the day - usually a treat. I kept saying I didn't want to go. She kept giving reasons why we should - you like the escalators, we can go in the big toy shop, we'll have our dinner In Woolworths. I burst into tears so she gave up & said we'll go to the local precinct instead, not happy with me at all.

We came home later & put the TV on. Where the news was showing the big fire at Woolworths. Ten people died, most in the restaurant where we would have been at the time it started.