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What’s the closest escape you’ve ever had from a dangerous situation?

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Bluepantsbigheart · 20/03/2022 08:43

I had a moment of absolute clarity and shock earlier. I was visiting a childhood friend so back on the street where I grew up. We were chatting about the past, about how we used to roam and our parents didn’t know where we were etc. This would have been the early 80’s and I’d have been 10/12 years old.

I remembered going with another friend ‘Halloweening’ as we called it then - to maximise our returns we’d visit a house each, alternating along the street.
I went to one house, rang the bell and through the glass side panel saw the owner come down the stairs. ‘Happy Halloween’ I said - ah, come in a minute he said, I need to get money’ I followed him into his lounge where he was scrabbling about in drawers by the sound of it in the kitchen. He was a while and when he came back into the room he had his trousers open with his penis out. I backed away and said I have to go, my friend is outside. I quickly walked to the front door, he gave me 10p and I left.

I think the whole situation finally sunk in and for the first time I realised how much danger I was in. All the things you tell your kids not to do I did it. My blood ran cold actually but I remember at the time although being a bit surprised by it I never told anyone except my friend and it didn’t seem a big deal. My mother was the type that if I told her I’d have had the row for going into the house and no doubt I’d have been stopped from going out.

Anyone else look back on something and realise you had a lucky escape?

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Cheeseandlobster · 20/03/2022 12:22

This was in the 90's and I was 17

Sparklingbrook · 20/03/2022 12:24

Got held up at gun point in a bank robbery. They got away, and were caught a few weeks later doing another one, the guns were found to be all loaded and ready to go, they weren't just waving fakes about.

Ihaventgottimeforthis · 20/03/2022 12:25

Car accident when I was a child, skidded on black ice & I flew out the back door and landed on the motorway, luckily no other cars were coming at that point.
On a road trip on Kenya on gap year, my friend & I returning from a few days safari, we were held up at gun point at a road block. They wanted a bribe but somehow we talked our way out & they let us drive off. We were filthy & knackered and perhaps more trouble than it was worth.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 20/03/2022 12:26

hmm
well me and dd, in a buggy, and dear dog were chased by a herd of bullocks.

Giggorata · 20/03/2022 12:29

Another hitch hiking one, where the man who was giving me a lift veered off the road, down a track between fields with tall hedgerows, very enclosed.
I was scared, but also angry, so angry that I was barking at him about what did he think he was doing. And I realised that he was scared and uncertain too, which was possibly the only reason I was getting out of this situation. I got out and stalked angrily back up to the road.
And continued hitching. Daft or what, but it was my only way of travelling about in those days.
What occurs to me now is that female hitch hikers never took down registration numbers or reported to the police any of this.
Perhaps because they wouldn't have done anything about it.
Possibly because of the attitude that they were asking for it by hitching.
Looking back on it, I hope that man didn't become more confident in his predatory ways and pick on another female victim…

Sandinmyhooves · 20/03/2022 12:31

Went out on a boat with Greek men island-hopping. It was amazing. Swam in a cave only accessible by a hole/ tunnel you had to swim underwater to get to and barely squeezed through. I’d like to say they were good guys, and they were, that day…

insancerre · 20/03/2022 12:31

My mum visited her parents when I was a baby
She left the prom outside and took me in
When she returned to the pram it had been destroyed by a firework thrown in it
This was in the 60s when babies were left outside in prams. She said she only took me in because I was awake. If I had been asleep I would have been hit by the firework.

Ozgirl75 · 20/03/2022 12:31

Mine was so stupid. I was in a new city, got drunk and separated from my friends, didn’t have a set of keys yet. I was wandering the streets looking for my friends and a bloke pulled up and suggested he drive me around to look for them.
I got in the car! What a stupid fucking idiot.
Then, he suggested going back to his flat and he’d take me home in the morning.
Again, what a bloody idiotic drunken fool.
Went back to his flat. He put his arm around me. I said I had a boyfriend and could he please take me home now.
And he did. He was nice and just dropped me off, gave me his number if I wanted to catch up.
Thank you to my guardian angel who stopped me being raped and murdered that night.
That was my most stupid.
I have also walked home from clubs drunk so many times, got drunk in central London and got lost on the way home. So stupid.

MNCar · 20/03/2022 12:39

Which one do you want.

The stalking of me as a child papergirl when I was nearly abducted ( he was convicted)

The gun siege.

The multiple inappropriate pushing attempts on me.

The attempted rape or the actual rape.

All at the hands of men

romdowa · 20/03/2022 12:39

My neighbour was being sexually abused by a family member who used to pick her up and take her out. I was a bit younger that her and had no idea at the time. He was always asking me and another girl to go for a spin with him and one evening I foolishly went and it was the most awful thing I'd ever experienced . The atmosphere in the car was awful , I started crying saying I felt sick and wanted to go home. Thankfully he turned the car around and dropped me and the other girl off, he tried to give me money but I ran away. He tried a few times more to talk to me, I now know he was trying to groom me. He made my skin crawl so badly that everytime I would see his car I would hide. It made my blood run cold after when it came out about what he did.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 20/03/2022 12:44

i missed the bus and a group of lads pulled up and offered to catch the bus up, i said only if this man comes too, this man being a neighbour!
ha ha
not what the boys were expecting!
they ended up driving us both home

PupInAPram · 20/03/2022 12:51

@cheeseandlobster I was a very naive 18 year old with no money. I'd had a s**t childhood, my mother died in April after a traumatic year with cancer, I took and failed my A levels then flew off to Camp America straight after. I had no one to rely on and no one to turn to. I learnt many things the hard way and I don't regret a minute of that summer except for catching the flight home.

gingerhills · 20/03/2022 12:55

@DressingPafe

Back in the early 70’s (showing my age) my dippy aunt and uncle took me away for a few days. I was around 4 yrs old. We were going up some steps in Victoria station and I was trailing behind them while they chatted away. A man coming down the stairs picked me up and started walking off with me. I can still remember it, he was holding me so I was looking over his shoulder and I can still remember trying to scream and nothing coming out. Luckily, my uncle turned round and chased after him. Apparently the “excuse” he gave my uncle was that I looked so “cute” he wanted to just pick me up!

The worst of it was they didn’t call the police because they didn’t want my mum and dad finding out! Only they ended up confessing to them as I was so upset by it they were worried I’d tell them myself. I shudder to think what would have happened to me if my uncle hadn’t turned around in time.

That reminds me I was once - only a few years ago, walking up the steps at a tube station and ahead of me was a cute girl toddler dawdling on the steps. Didn't seem to have an adult with her. A man came down the steps and starting coaxing her to come with him, all smiles. I just knew he wasn't actually with her so I stayed beside them, asking her if she was with her mum. Eventually some very laid back parents who had been chatting up at pavement level a few metres away from the steps (so not visible to the little girl) came and scooped her up and the man sauntered off. I tried to tell the parents but they weren't fussed. I called the police and they asked what I expected them to do.

I have similar stories to everyone else. Near misses with dodgy men when hitchhiking or while travelling or walking alone late at night.

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 20/03/2022 13:00

Got a taxi from a stand as was the thing then. He drove me to some waste ground. Kept asking me if I was scared. I was 19. Bit cocky from the alcohol just laughed and said no. He took me home. Dm rang the firm and complained.. Looking back she should have rang the police imo.

Smeds · 20/03/2022 13:04

My flatmate of a few months had friends staying the night. The two friends turned out to be a group of 6 men, 4 of whom my friend had never met. They went out for the night and when they returned early hours of the morning, somebody opened the door to my room and switched on the light. The light went off again but the door wasn't closed for another minute or so. I lay there pretending to be asleep but also ready to scream the place down if necessary. I never said anything to my flatmate or any of the men the next morning. I was relieved when they left.

PriamFarrl · 20/03/2022 13:05

@cushioncovers

Sad how so far all of these experiences are of men intimidating/frightening women. Rather than I nearly drowned or fell off of a cliff type scenarios.
I noticed that. It’s depressing.
PriamFarrl · 20/03/2022 13:11

So basically, men.

Thinkingblonde · 20/03/2022 13:19

Aged 18/19 Camping at Beadnell on the north east coast with a friend, we were at Art college together in the 60’s. Her dad dropped us off at the campsite, helped us with the tent and left us to it. During the night I needed the loo so set off to find the on site toilet block, in the pitch dark, on my own without a torch..the terrain seemed a bit uneven and slippy in places, regardless with the confidence of youth I carried on, eventually found the toilet block, did what I needed to do and headed back. Settled down back at tent tent, woke up next morning and looked across to where I walked the previous night and was horrified how close I’d been to the cliff edge….needless to say a torch was the first thing on my list at the camp shop.

Comedycook · 20/03/2022 13:22

I remember being a teenager. We had a gas fire in our living room. I was wearing nylon trousers. I would often lie in front of the fire. I was sort of dozing and saw smoke kind of blowing up off my trousers...moved away from the fire sharpish but I shudder to think how that could have ended

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 20/03/2022 13:22

As a student, I took a guy back to my student house one night - not a boyfriend, just a casual hook-up - and we started making out - things were progressing, and then I just realised that I really didn’t want to have sex. So I said so, and he was absolutely fine about it and slept on the sofa, no hard feelings.

And what’s so sad about this story is that I realise how my well-being and safety that night were entirely reliant on his being a good guy. If I’d said no and he hadn’t been OK with it - he came back with me fully expecting that we were going to have sex - he could have raped me and there was NOTHING I could have done to stop him. And that’s just shit.

IncompleteSenten · 20/03/2022 13:27

Playing on the pit tip and by the slurry pond. We all spent half our childhood there.

NotThisWeekSatan · 20/03/2022 13:33

As a student (early 90s) I was followed home by a man who I later saw on Crimewatch wanted for rape.

Also used to regularly run for trains (old fashioned slam door type) and jump on as they were moving off as it was 15-20 mins wait for the next one. One time cut it a bit fine and was still half in/out of the train as it really gathered speed. Makes my blood run cold now - for the sake of 15 mins!

Also used to hitchhike back from campus to our house about 2am.

I’d be horrified if I though my my children even thought about doing any of these.

I wonder how many of the lucky escapes of the ‘can I give you a lift’ variety were people who went on to be criminals we’d have heard of. Doesn’t bear thinking about.

TootsAtOwls · 20/03/2022 13:40

This thread is so scary because it seems like no matter how much you warn kids about "stranger danger" it all goes out the window when a smiley man actually starts a conversation.

Thecurtainsofdestiny · 20/03/2022 13:41

An elderly relative used to get their terrier to " beg for the baby". One day the dog had enough and went for me. Ripped my nightie but missed my abdomen. Grandmother didn't tell my parents what happened till I was an adult.

Narrow escape considering the stories you hear about dogs who are successful in maiming or killing infants.

KimWexlersPonyTail · 20/03/2022 13:48

Woke up in a New York hotel room to find a man with knife going through my stuff; long long story after that

As a child a random man with a car offered to take me to see some ponies, was actually going to go but was due home for tea...