Judgey in laws

[Loudina]

PIL arrived to stay for a week on Friday. Thus far I've been criticised for the following things:

• DD (6) goes to bed too late (8pm)
• we eat too late (6pm)
• DD should not be allowed to watch TV after 5 as that's TV time for grown ups
• DD talks too much and should be told to be quiet more
• our cat shouldn't be allowed in any of the bedrooms (I keep him out of the guest room because I know PIL don't like him) but apparently it is disgusting I let him in DD's room or our room
• I spend too much time cooking and why don't I just make easy meals
• we eat too much pasta and rice and why can't we just have some meat and veg
• our Halloween decorations from Sunday still haven't been taken down
• we spend too much time on food and why do we shop at sainsbury's when Aldi is so much cheaper
• we should not drink full fat milk, only skimmed (I bought skimmed milk specially for them)

Driving me crackers. DH is at work when I expressly asked him to take time off. Apparently he didn't ask in time. I'm sure he did it on purpose but apparently I can't complain as I was happy to have them to stay. So tempted to just go out on my own tonight and leave them all to it.

Wow! Good luck for the rest of their stay. But you should tell them to back off as they are guests in Your home and if they aren't happy with your routines they may leave early and go back to their own home where their own rules apply!!!!!

They want to eat dinner at 4.30pm for crying out loud.

We eat 6pm my dd 8 goes bed at 9 lol

If they want an early dinner they can cook it

Actually go to Iceland grab some meat and two veg ping meals for them they should appreciate those its cheap fast food

I would absolutely just go out.

If they don't like it they can go home, simple. Definitely go out alone and make very clear that you won't be cooking for them and putting up with their shit again if your husband doesn't get time off for future visits.

I would tell them politely if they don't like it, they can go the home.

So bloody rude. Who stays in someone else’s home and criticises them constantly?
A week… that’s a long time. Have you enough wine in??

I'm being serious here, I would ask them if there's anything else they'd like to moan about, and after they do so they can leave for home. Obviously, staying at yours is simply torture for these poor fucks.

There is no way I would stand for being treated like that in my own home. I don't care who they are.

Crickey they would have a fit where I live.

Noone eats before 9 here. (Usually 9-30-10). Kids go to bed about 12. Are still playing outside until 11 -usually while the parents are drinking wine in the bar opposite the olayground-

It's wonderful.

Just answer everything with.
"Thus is how we like it".
That is a full sentence no need to justify

I do all these things too OP! My 2 cats roam free they spend all their time in the house so why shouldn’t they! Good luck the rest of their stay. That would drive me round the bend!!

I don't think wine will cut it. At this point I'm tempted to take up smoking again 🤣

Put on the song "This is how we do it" every time he says something

Omg this sounds like the sort of visits I have. Drive me mad. I bet all the comments are passive aggressive aswell & phrased as ‘helpful suggestions’ which makes you feel a twat. It’s so strange to me that in many other scenarios this sort of behaviour would be considered rude but not within in-law family settings.. I am keen on sociology and if genuinely fascinates me 🤣
Sending you a hand hold op.
The most recent bit of ‘advice’ I was given was when my mil wanted to book an evening with me to look at breastfeeding equipment online. I stated I was going to buy an electric breast pump & had really already made my mind up. I was told it’s a waste of money & I should wait until after baby is born to decide what I want then because I couldn’t possibly know in advance. I then get emails almost every day since with links to manual breast pumps or articles about how great manual breast pumps are. As if I’ve just decided it out of the blue to be antagonistic! Also same about crèche vs nanny. I want crèche. She thinks nanny. Repeatedly having to justify my choice. I just would like freedom to make my own choices. I’ve been a free person in life up until pregnancy and suddenly now it’s like I’ve got no mind of my own and the idea I might is just so upsetting! Argh. Good luck xo

You need to go out this evening with a friend! Leave your DH with his parents.

Whilst they are GUESTS in YOUR house they shall damn well like how you do things or they can go home early

I wouldn't want them staying again. Sounds like hell

Oh good lord this is Mrs Bucket levels of nonsense. Tell PIL to f&ck off and take their non U rubbish with them!

Oh also we get up too late (DD and I both up, breakfasted, washed and dressed by 9.15am). PIL by 8am.

Stop being a doormat. This is ridiculous.

A week! It sucks that your husband ditched on you. I'd be livid

It's all phrased as advice or comments rather than out and out criticism.

I'd be showing them where the door is and also saying not to let it hit them on the way out

I've told DH I'm not having them again. MIL has also asked pointedly how often we've had my own DM to stay. A few times. But she is a much easier house guest!

I'd be fuming with Dh for inviting them for a week and then pissing off to work. You need to organise a few social gatherings with your friends, get out of the house and tell Dh you won't be pandering to them any further. If they are then left sitting alone for the next few days it's his problem.