Judgey in laws

[Loudina]

PIL arrived to stay for a week on Friday. Thus far I've been criticised for the following things:

• DD (6) goes to bed too late (8pm)
• we eat too late (6pm)
• DD should not be allowed to watch TV after 5 as that's TV time for grown ups
• DD talks too much and should be told to be quiet more
• our cat shouldn't be allowed in any of the bedrooms (I keep him out of the guest room because I know PIL don't like him) but apparently it is disgusting I let him in DD's room or our room
• I spend too much time cooking and why don't I just make easy meals
• we eat too much pasta and rice and why can't we just have some meat and veg
• our Halloween decorations from Sunday still haven't been taken down
• we spend too much time on food and why do we shop at sainsbury's when Aldi is so much cheaper
• we should not drink full fat milk, only skimmed (I bought skimmed milk specially for them)

Driving me crackers. DH is at work when I expressly asked him to take time off. Apparently he didn't ask in time. I'm sure he did it on purpose but apparently I can't complain as I was happy to have them to stay. So tempted to just go out on my own tonight and leave them all to it.

Is it the lst dinner tonight OP? If so I would be saying to dh something like Darling we are going to have to be more organised for the next visit don;t you think? After all we are doing ,,and list every single thing wrong the inlaws have mentioned to you all week finishing off with a sweet smile and promising to right all the percieved wrongs,Go on Lady shame them,They arent going to be invited again in a hurry so you have nothing to loose, I think for what its worth you have endured so much crap this week from them and DH dropping you in it you are in my view utterly magnificent OP. A much better woman than I could ever hope to be.

Have they left yet @Loudina??? Hopefully they are well on their way home by now having had an unsatisfactory breakfast (for no reason other than you prepared it and they find fault in everything) where the coffee was too strong or the tea too weak!

I hope they get stuck behind a slow rolling protest on the motorway on their drive home. Would serve them right!

Tell us how you're unwinding / celebrating tonight. Hope it's more enjoyable than just screaming into a pillow for hours 🙂

@JustRambling

Biscuit You make very good sense. It’s a pity other posters haven’t taken the time to read your posts carefully.

Thank you but I do find that unless a poster is agreeing and baying for blood, fueling the drama, calling no contact and generally not giving the answers the reader/poster wants then it’s completely ignored and the only one view is possible. That of the offended.

But I do believe that is also indicative of society. So many ‘offended’ people but very little to actually be offended over. Yet, when there is really issue to be outraged and offended by nobody is interested because it doesn’t meet there view.
There is quite rightly protests and change called for when violence against a couple of females hit the news. I also agree and also protested.
But I didn’t see those same people calling for change or organising protests in the streets, depending on london protesting at the absolutely disgusting neglect of a large group of our young people and the utter let down by the police at these youngsters that had to live through grooming. I saw not one protest aimed at protecting and ensuring this stopped.
I work with a lot of these youngster and I tell you it hasn’t gone amiss there

So the fact people haven’t read my posts properly and as you did shows that again unless I’m screaming about disgusting behaviour for opinions, no contact eyc people aren’t interested.

In society there is many things to go no contact over, many things to expect a spouse to argue with their family and many many things to be offended and outraged over but PILs asking questions or offering opinions is not ont of them