I’m turning into that parent over DDs name

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My DDs name is Evelin*.

School, brownies and swimming all seem to manage to spell it wrong. We’ve had Evelyn, Evilyn, Evie, Eve, but never Evelin.

Her class teachers have admitted they have to “train” their brains to spell it right. She nearly had her badge book for rainbows and brownies written in the wrong spelling and school and swimming certificates come home with the wrong name on.

I email constantly (DD has some SN so it’s not just to do with her name) with the right spelling but nobody ever seems to get it, I think there’s been one none family member spell it right in all those years.

She’s 7 and starting to notice. I feel a right idiot correcting everyone all the time and like I’m making a thing out of it.

Oddly family always get it right even her great grandparents who have multiple great grandchildrens names to remember.

So am I that parent? And if so how can I stop being? I just want her name spelt right and her certificates in the right name.

*Not real name but very very similar.

And for context ExH chose her name not me, I asked if he wanted that spelling and he was certain he did.

Parents- do not give your child a unique spelling- stick to the correct/traditional spelling.
Workers check how the name is spelt- Which spelling of Claire is that?
When telling officials your name spell it out "My name is Claire Browne, that's CLAIRE and Brown with an E.

However I have on a several occasions after asking "Is that Stephen with a ph?" been met with "No it's with an S." Seriously I just let the silence hang in the air as slowly, very slowly it dawns on them.

I've also dealt with people who do not know the official spelling of their own name. I mean seriously?
I tell them well you had better find out.

Agree with others. It is what happens when you choose an unusual spelling. I grew up being called all sorts of things as I have an unusual name (not so much today). I even had my first drivers licence in a wrong age, spelled completely differently and they had the documents all correct. It will be a life long issue of misspelling and mispronunciation too

It's annoying. I have a traditional name, with the most common spelling, but most people spell it wrong. I do think the school should be able to spell DD's name write. I would forgive brownies.

Me and my brother have names that can be spelt in a few different ways and my parents chose the most unusual way for us both. It's a bloody nightmare having to constantly spell out your name. Even then most people get it wrong. I purposely gave my dd a name that was easy and could only be spelt one ear

Ear = way

I have a traditional name no-one can bloody spell. Sometimes I suck it up, sometimes I get annoyed because the person who has spelt it wrong actually has my name written correctly in front of them but they still insist they somehow know better and then get all puzzled when I point out the error.
When I had my children my only specification for names were ones that can be easily spelt.

People spell my name - and my son's loads of ways. It really doesn't matter.

It isn’t the traditional spelling so she will deal with this her whole life. My DH has the less common spelling of an extremely common name, his spelling variant is still ‘normal’ so not unique or weird but people misspell it constantly. My Mum, in fact, used the more traditional spelling for years even though I never spelt it that way which was odd.

She will have to constantly correct people, it’s what happens when you don’t choose the traditional spelling I’m afraid.

Its just one of those things. I have a very traditional name that can be spelled several different ways - I always spell it out as soon as I say it (for official things obv - not when I meet people) sometimes they still write it down wrong even though I'm standing there telling them, because they've got a fixed idea in their head. Annoyingly my surname can also be spelled in several different ways - so its double whammy.
It irritating but not much you can do.

I've never seen it spelt the way you have so that's probs why

This wouldn't bother me, infact dd has an uncommon name that gets spelt/pronounced wrong all the time. She just laughs about it

I have to admit, I silently judge people who misspell my name when responding to my email and there is my email address, with my name slap-bang in front of them. It is good manners to do one's best to spell a person's name right.

If they don't have any original point of reference close to hand then it's bound to happen. That's life. Your DD will get used to having her unusually spelt name wrongly spelt on a regular basis.

How about you explain to her the realities of life, not to take it personally, be proud of her lovely name and to treat people kindly if they don't get it right unless they can't be bother to look at her email address, then she's at liberty to point out they can't be bothered to read!