I’m turning into that parent over DDs name

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My DDs name is Evelin*.

School, brownies and swimming all seem to manage to spell it wrong. We’ve had Evelyn, Evilyn, Evie, Eve, but never Evelin.

Her class teachers have admitted they have to “train” their brains to spell it right. She nearly had her badge book for rainbows and brownies written in the wrong spelling and school and swimming certificates come home with the wrong name on.

I email constantly (DD has some SN so it’s not just to do with her name) with the right spelling but nobody ever seems to get it, I think there’s been one none family member spell it right in all those years.

She’s 7 and starting to notice. I feel a right idiot correcting everyone all the time and like I’m making a thing out of it.

Oddly family always get it right even her great grandparents who have multiple great grandchildrens names to remember.

So am I that parent? And if so how can I stop being? I just want her name spelt right and her certificates in the right name.

*Not real name but very very similar.

And for context ExH chose her name not me, I asked if he wanted that spelling and he was certain he did.

Poor kid

Whats a 'normal' spelling? My DDs name is usually spent one way in England. But has another spelling in the place where my family is from. She has the old family spelling.

@Cocomarine

That’s how it goes when you make up a spelling or go for an unusual one.

This. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Does it really matter? It doesn't to me. I have an unusual spelling of my name. The only time I would correct someone is if I had to e.g. they are taking my email or drawing up a legal document. I get emails all the time with the wrong spelling. I don't notice often until someone comes back to apologise. I get birthday cards from relatives with the wrong spelling. I just find that amusing. Why not go with a relaxed attitude and let DD take it in her stride. It's ok for people to spell her name wrong. She knows who she is.

I have this with my name and I find it really rude when I sign something, like a text or email, with my name and I get a reply and my names spelt wrong. It just seems a bit like they couldn’t be arsed to check?

You've got no one to blame but yourself.
Chose an unusual spelling and it's always going to be misspelled.

I have an odd spelling of my name. No one can spell it right, and I quite frankly just don't care. I let it slide.

My name's a normal one that has multiple spellings. It's often spelled incorrectly. I've learned not to let it bother me.

If you deliberately choose a 'different' spelling then you have to live with the consequences of that decision.

My surname is unusual and very short so people often don’t catch it first time. Our whole family automatically introduce ourselves by spelling it out straightaway, so your daughter might have to become accustomed to doing that.

My name's a normal one that has multiple spellings. It's often spelled incorrectly. I've learned not to let it bother me.
Me too. At the hairdressers etc if they ask 'how do you spell that' to write it in their book I always tell them it doesn't matter.

At school there were other girls with different spellings of my name and I just got used to my name being spelled in all sorts of ways.

I spell out both my names for people, as both are slightly unusual and I have seen all sorts of spellings. It is just easier that way.

This post should be shared with all the new parents who want to be a bit 'different'.....
ps I do have sympathy with your DD & yes people shouldn't need telling over & over again. She's been saddled with the problem for life.

Unfortunately this was always going to be the case for choosing an alternative spelling . You of course should correct people but don't get upset if happens . Also tell your daughter to not let it bother her , she'll have it for the result of her life . Why can't people just spell children's names correctly 🤷🏾‍♀️

@LizzieBet14

This post should be shared with all the new parents who want to be a bit 'different'..... ps I do have sympathy with your DD & yes people shouldn't need telling over & over again. She's been saddled with the problem for life.

Totally agree !

I'd understand people getting it wrong the first time, or distant aquaintainces (spell argh!) Like nDN getting it wrong, but friends and the school should be putting in the effort to get it right, it's lazy and disrespectful

I have a very common name that can be spelled two ways and more often than not people assume it's the wrong one.

My daughter also has a very popular name with two (standard) spellings and the same happens to her.

If it's bad enough with bog standard names I would just expect it to be part and parcel of choosing a name with an alternative spelling.

I can see how it'd be annoying but I couldn't be bothered on a day to day basis, but I do agree with the certificates having the right spelling

If you choose to use a unique/unusual/incorrect spelling of a well-known name, what do you expect?

I know a Johnathan with an H
And a Valarie with an A
Valarie's parents gave up and now even they write Christmas and birthday cards to her as Valerie.

Sorry op, but when you name a child with a common name yet choose a goofy spelling, this is what happens. Your daughter is going to be dealing with this forever.

@LizzieBet14

This post should be shared with all the new parents who want to be a bit 'different'..... ps I do have sympathy with your DD & yes people shouldn't need telling over & over again. She's been saddled with the problem for life.

Agreed.

OP think about how annoying you find this, and it's not even your name. Your poor child will have to spend her life dealing with having an unusual spelling and all the shit that goes along with it.

I don't think people are doing it to be deliberately mean. People have a lot on their plates and most people are doing their best. If it is a name like Evelin then there are so many children with similar names with a variety of spellings and it must just be so hard for teachers and other people who deal with many children to get it right, especially if it's an unusual/non intuitive spelling. I agree that you made the choice to pick a spelling because you liked it without considering this may happen so you don't have much choice but to keep correcting people, and try to see it from their perspective too.

It was her exH not the Op

It's cos it's not a name.