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What nail colour is suitable for a funeral?

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ApolloandDaphne · 13/08/2021 09:49

I have to attend a family funeral soon and plan to go and get my current colour (bright pink) changed to a more suitable colour. I mentioned it to my DM yesterday and she asked what I would have to changed to. She was aghast when I said probably a dark, muted red. She thought I would go for a natural/nude type colour. These colours look terrible on me. Is dark red so bad?

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starfishmummy · 13/08/2021 11:20

@Galassia

Wear gloves.
My thoughts too!! Or keep hands in pockets!!
BiggerBoat1 · 13/08/2021 11:21

Seriously, who cares what colour your nails are. Maybe focus on your DH a little bit more than yourself? He may need your support.

Lottapianos · 13/08/2021 11:26

'Maybe focus on your DH a little bit more than yourself? He may need your support.'

Maybe stop being so bloody nasty to someone who is preparing for a funeral, and is asking an innocent question that does not merit any of the nastiness being flung at her

Maireas · 13/08/2021 11:27

I agree with pp, it's obviously an issue, so just remove the colour and leave them bare.
Get them done after.

PurpleDaisies · 13/08/2021 11:27

I really wouldn’t give this a second thought. If you’re dressed appropriately, no one is going to think about your rails.

BiggerBoat1 · 13/08/2021 11:30

@Lottapianos

'Maybe focus on your DH a little bit more than yourself? He may need your support.'

Maybe stop being so bloody nasty to someone who is preparing for a funeral, and is asking an innocent question that does not merit any of the nastiness being flung at her

You're right, this did come over much more harshly than I meant it to. However, I do think the OP's priorities are a little off.
JSL52 · 13/08/2021 11:31

@SoupDragon

He's lost his father and has a wife who seemingly is just completely preoccupied with herself and the colour of her nails.

And you can tell all that about the OP from a single thread on MN?

She's posted asking about it so it seems a bit self obsessed. Also , she's asked her husband who has just lost his father. Who cares ? She's had numerous say nude or French, she's said 'they won't be nude or clear '
PurpleDaisies · 13/08/2021 11:32

However, I do think the OP's priorities are a little off.

Because she asked a question about nails here? How on earth does that translate to “I don’t care about supporting my husband?”

Lottapianos · 13/08/2021 11:33

'However, I do think the OP's priorities are a little off.'

I'm sure, like most of us, she can hold more than one thought in her head at the same time. I'm helping my DP to plan his father's funeral, and giving thought to my outfit on the day has been a welcome brief respite from the misery. She does not deserve the pile on she has had here

burnoutbabe · 13/08/2021 11:34

I'd not have bright pink/yellow or orange but a dark red seems muted enough. i would also do dark blue or black or green or grey.

RampantIvy · 13/08/2021 11:36

@ExpressDelivery

I can't imagine a world where spending time thinking about your nail colour for a funeral happens Grin Sometimes I think I live in an alternate reality.

If you did ask me what's appropriate (you did) I'd say none, but I can't really imagine anyone cares.

I know what you mean. As someone who never remembers to wear nail polish, worrying about the colour of my nails would be very low on my list of priorities for a funeral.

Do what you like @ApolloandDaphne. I doubt that anyone would notice or care TBH. I wouldn't, and I wouldn't judge you either.

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ApolloandDaphne · 13/08/2021 11:38

Why should I not have asked my DH? That seems even more odd to me. We have been married for 35 years and we ask each other questions all the time - mundane, serious and frivolous questions. It is his DF and I was just checking with him. He is not a grief stricken wreck at all. He is still carrying on with his work and we are even still going to go on our weeks holiday before the funeral. Life goes on even though people die.

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BunnytheFriendlyDragon · 13/08/2021 11:44

I have been to funerals where people (usually elder or "traditional" types including my own mother) commented on what others wore and I expect they would notice nail colour if it was noticeable / bright.

I'm not really sure why you asked though if you intend to wear the colour anyway.

Chikapu · 13/08/2021 11:44

Literally no one at a funeral will give a shiny shit about your nails.

BunnytheFriendlyDragon · 13/08/2021 11:45

Literally no one at a funeral will give a shiny shit about your nails

How can you be sure? Hmm Have you asked them?

MajesticWhine · 13/08/2021 11:53

"Literally no one at a funeral will give a shiny shit about your nails."

Yes exactly this ^

CharlotteRose90 · 13/08/2021 11:58

Not everyone wears black to a funeral and but having bright nails isn’t disrespectful. Have whatever colour you like . As long as you are there that’s the main thing.

MsSquiz · 13/08/2021 12:03

Just because someone has started a thread musing about a conversation on nail colour, does not make them self obsessed! How hilarious?!

Fwiw, MIL died in July after a long awful illness and her daughter (SIL1) pulled SIL2 (married into the family, like me) about her coral nails, asking why she wasn't getting them redone before the funeral and tutting. SIL2 has 3 kids, a husband who does very little and a job, she didn't have time to book in a nail appointment. I'm sure MIL wouldn't have cared what colour her DIL's nails were!

It's not exactly the same as turning up in lime green Lycra!

DappledThings · 13/08/2021 12:03

I'm chuckling at the idea of natural coloured nails not suiting someone. They're literally the colour of, erm, nails. On the hands of humans. I can't imagine being so brain washed by fashion and beauty marketing that I would come to believe that my actual body parts don't suit me.
Indeed! You think your nails only suit you when they are painted? Very weird.

newnortherner111 · 13/08/2021 12:08

I am sure the deceased would not have specified no coloured nails had there been a conversation about the funeral after their death. Wear gloves or hands in pockets.

Being there to support nearest and dearest and to remember and hopefully celebrate the life of the deceased is the most important thing.

Anordinarymum · 13/08/2021 12:09

@DappledThings

I'm chuckling at the idea of natural coloured nails not suiting someone. They're literally the colour of, erm, nails. On the hands of humans. I can't imagine being so brain washed by fashion and beauty marketing that I would come to believe that my actual body parts don't suit me. Indeed! You think your nails only suit you when they are painted? Very weird.
I can sort of get this.. I pay far more attention to my nails when they are painted.

For a funeral? Wear any colour you like OP under a nice pair of gloves :)

Toddlerteaplease · 13/08/2021 12:15

I don't think nail colour matters as long as the rest of you is appropriately dressed.

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ApolloandDaphne · 13/08/2021 12:16

I've posted the colour I have, the colour I think I might get and a nude colour I once had that made my hands look deathly!

What nail colour is suitable for a funeral?
What nail colour is suitable for a funeral?
What nail colour is suitable for a funeral?
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DappledThings · 13/08/2021 12:17

a nude colour I once had that made my hands look deathly!
No it didn't.

Maireas · 13/08/2021 12:17

Middle one