What nail colour is suitable for a funeral?

[ApolloandDaphne]

I have to attend a family funeral soon and plan to go and get my current colour (bright pink) changed to a more suitable colour. I mentioned it to my DM yesterday and she asked what I would have to changed to. She was aghast when I said probably a dark, muted red. She thought I would go for a natural/nude type colour. These colours look terrible on me. Is dark red so bad?

It's too vampirey gothic halloweeny for a funeral. Looks like you're playing dress up.

Also are your nails long or trimmed short? If long definitely not as people will notice them

Most people aren't going to spend time scrutinising the details of someone's outfit at a funeral, but a funeral is one of those occasions where a little self-awareness would mean where if in doubt, go simple.

There's lots of traditions at funerals and I'd hate to feel like I'd inadvertently left a grieving relative feeling I'd not been respectful enough because I'd decided that the nail colour I wanted was be be all and end all.

@StarDrawers

It's too vampirey gothic halloweeny for a funeral. Looks like you're playing dress up.

This is bonkers. You think an otherwise appropriately dressed person would suddenly look like they’re in fancy dress because of the colour of their nails?

a nude colour I once had that made my hands look deathly!
No it didn't.

This thread is mad. 😂

@DappledThings

a nude colour I once had that made my hands look deathly! No it didn't.

Agreed. But if you think your nails didn't look good in it try a warmer nude. Or a less bright pink. Anything that doesn't say gothic blood

One of DH's aunts wore fuschia leopard print to his grandfather's funeral. Unless you go that far it probably doesn't really matter.

I think it would be absolutely ridiculous for anyone to notice, let alone comment on this, if it were anything less than a bright fluorescent colour. If I even noticed someone was wearing nail varnish and thought anything of it (I wouldn't) I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that they'd put it on specifically for this funeral. It's just nail varnish.

People really need to let go of this weird old fashioned tendency to get really upset about ridiculous, arbitrary things like this.

@DappledThings

One of DH's aunts wore fuschia leopard print to his grandfather's funeral. Unless you go that far it probably doesn't really matter.

'One of DH's aunts wore fuschia leopard print to his grandfather's funeral.'

..and that was just her coat !

LOL

@StarDrawers

It's too vampirey gothic halloweeny for a funeral. Looks like you're playing dress up.

I don't think anyone will think I am vampire or witch like unless I go in a cape with fangs, a pointed hat and a broomstick. I don't plan on any of those accessories so I think I will be fine.

@StarDrawers

Also are your nails long or trimmed short? If long definitely not as people will notice them

My actual nails on my wrinkly gnarly hands!

If that nude didn't suit you then there's a whole range of nude out there. You're making it sound like the options are bright pink, a nude colour that doesn't suit or the red you really want.
It seems like a textbook thread to get people to agree with you.

I really don't mind at all that people disagree. I was always bound to get an array of responses. I always find it interesting getting views even if ultimately I intend to do as I please.

I may rethink the actual colour I get once I am at the salon and can see the range. I may even come back and let you all see my choice. My appointment isn't until next Thursday though.

Hope the funeral goes without a hitch ApolloandDaphne, and that this thread gives you a laugh after it (it has me 🧙‍♀️🎃 )

Don't worry about your nail colour OP. It really doesn't matter. If you are wearing black (or honouring requests of the deceased) then that is respectful. I have never noticed someone's nail colour at a funeral.

As an aside, smoky dark grey with a high shine is nice if you want a strong colour that's not bright so still neutral.

For my beloved Mum's funeral I wore gold glitter nail varnish, a white dress, a turquoise cardigan and very high shoes. She would have loved that kind of celebration of her. I loved her so much. I still do

@HannaHat

Hope the funeral goes without a hitch ApolloandDaphne, and that this thread gives you a laugh after it (it has me 🧙‍♀️🎃 )

A hitch??

As in someone runs off with the coffin type of hitch ?

One of DH's aunts wore fuschia leopard print to his grandfather's funeral.

..and that was just her coat !

LOL

It was her dress.

@WhenPushComesToShove

For my beloved Mum's funeral I wore gold glitter nail varnish, a white dress, a turquoise cardigan and very high shoes. She would have loved that kind of celebration of her. I loved her so much. I still do

I like that !

I hope people wear what they like when it's my turn.. did that sound dreadful? LOL

I had pink nails at my fathers funeral, no one battered an eye lid.
Far more important things going on than someone's nails at a funeral.
Get whatever colour you want

I think a good rule of thumb for funeral dressing is if any part of your outfit grabs attention, its wrong. (Unless its the sort of funeral when the family have requested bright colours etc).

So if your nails are noticeable, they are wrong. Go with a pale natural look, or if you think any colour might offend your mother, get the gels soaked off and leave your nails bare until after the funeral, then have colour put back on.

A hitch??

As in someone runs off with the coffin type of hitch?

No, a general problem. Like traffic delays or someone trying to do a reading and not able to locate their reading glasses. Are you equating hitch with the getting hitched i.e. married definition only?

MargosKaftan
That's my approach. It's not about whether I would or wouldn't be looking at someone's nails or hat, or whether I'd be bothered by it. It's just that it's a funeral and I don't think my desire to wear a particular coat or have a certain nail colour is the priority.

There are some weird people on this thread.

Sorry about your loss OP. Dark red is perfectly fine. In fact, I think any colour would be fine. What’s important is that you are there, supporting family and mourning your loss.

The kind of people who look for fault and criticise the nail varnish someone wears at a funeral are the kind of people you shouldn’t care about.

BTW, I love the dark red!

@ApolloandDaphne a very dark blue could be an option too. It doesn’t have the connotations that red might to some people so it’s less likely to offend. But maybe no one would care.

If you find the right tone of nude it would also be absolutely fine on your nails, in fact it would look great. Whilst circumventing the issue entirely by virtue of coming across understated and subtle - it’s just a matter of warm vs. cool and what suits your skin tone. For example the right brown beige looks great on me because my colouring is warm. A cool nude looks ghastly.