What nail colour is suitable for a funeral?

[ApolloandDaphne]

I have to attend a family funeral soon and plan to go and get my current colour (bright pink) changed to a more suitable colour. I mentioned it to my DM yesterday and she asked what I would have to changed to. She was aghast when I said probably a dark, muted red. She thought I would go for a natural/nude type colour. These colours look terrible on me. Is dark red so bad?

I'm pretty sure also France as I remember seeing it in a movie
Oh, you saw it in a MOVIE. Then it must be a blanket rule.

If you 'didn't mean to come across rude' and just wanted to say that you'd personally avoid it, try expressing that a bit better than saying a blunt 'Red is considered offensive to wear to funerals.'

@IntermittentParps

I'm pretty sure also France as I remember seeing it in a movie Oh, you saw it in a MOVIE. Then it must be a blanket rule.

If you 'didn't mean to come across rude' and just wanted to say that you'd personally avoid it, try expressing that a bit better than saying a blunt 'Red is considered offensive to wear to funerals.'

Did you skip the part about it being offensive in China? Chill.

@IntermittentParps

I'm pretty sure also France as I remember seeing it in a movie Oh, you saw it in a MOVIE. Then it must be a blanket rule.

If you 'didn't mean to come across rude' and just wanted to say that you'd personally avoid it, try expressing that a bit better than saying a blunt 'Red is considered offensive to wear to funerals.'

A quick Google...

Red has different meanings, according to different cultures. In China, red symbolizes happiness and is a colour that's strictly forbidden at funerals. In South Africa, red is has been adopted as a color of mourning, representing the bloodshed suffered during the Apartheid era.

Mine are bright pink at the moment, so if I had a funeral tomorrow they most certainly would not be changed.
In fact, id not change them ever. I don't pay for gels to suit others.

@ApolloandDaphne. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter 💐
5 years old 😭. Xx

Did you skip the part about it being offensive in China?
No. I was referring (as you can see from my post) specifically to the 'France' bit. I'm not sure I get what point you think you're making.

SunShinesBrightly, how does it being forbidden/offensive in China and South Africa make it a universal rule?

SunShinesBrightly, how does it being forbidden/offensive in China and South Africa make it a universal rule?

Did I (or anybody) say it was?

Just to add IntermittentParps If you were to read what I posted properly you would have known that wearing read is not offensive or forbidden in SA.

RED

Dark red is fine as it's a traditional colour for nails, I usually have dark purple and have gone to funerals with this and dark red in the past, I go to a lot of funerals, occupational hazard!

@manhattenrain

Says whom? I attend 15-20 a year due to work and I can assure you that anything goes in 2021. Black is only worn in just over half of occasions - I always wear black because I'm working,

Do you really need nail varnish for a funeral?

@MrsFin

Do you really need nail varnish for a funeral?

Of course I don't 'need' nail varnish for a funeral. However I have gel nails which I get infilled every three weeks. In order to not have any I would still need to go to the salon to have them removed which would be a pain as my nails wouldn't be very nice afterwards. I want them nice for my holiday and also suitable for the funeral. If you don't do gel nails it is possibly difficult to comprehend but it is my one thing I do for myself which makes me feel good. My nails will be polished!

I would never have even considered this.

My nails would be whatever colour shellac I had on that month.

My presence at the funeral would show my regard and respect, my nail colour would be irrelevant

I thought this was a bit of an odd thread at first but having read it I get where you are coming from now! I think a pale pink or pale coral would be best. The colour now is very bright, I'm not such a fan of the dark red and I see what you mean about the pale beige one looking not so great.

SunShinesBrightly, point taken re SA; I read that wrong.

Did I (or anybody) say it was?
OK, if you want it all spelled out:

Yes, manhattenrain did by saying 'Red is considered offensive to wear to funerals.' Not 'in some cultures' or 'some people might think'; it was presented as a bald fact.
You presenting the fact that 'In China, red symbolizes happiness and is a colour that's strictly forbidden at funerals' doesn't make it a universal fact either, it just says that this is the case in China. Which I haven't disputed.

I always get frustrated by people who try and force these things at funerals, shouting about respect.

In my opinion the person you need to respect, is the one in the coffin. So do whatever they would think is best.

If they thought funerals needed to be a typical black, no colour funeral then do that. If they would have wanted a dash of colour or not been to bothered either way, go with the colour you like.

Gel nails are such a pain the arse, just like most people on Mumsnet Dark red is absolutely fine op and there's nothing wrong with canvassing opinions! Doesn't mean you are 'self absorbed' I despair of this place some times.

OP I'd go with whatever suits your style and skin type. I would rather my family and friends come to my funeral in what represents them more than adorning themselves in black. Yes I see it as a mark of respect but if your fil always saw you with painted nails then it's not as if it's something new to anyone. I can't remember what I wore to my brothers funeral but I know it wasn't black and depressing and he would have approved x

So sorry about your daughter OP that is truly sad xxx

As long as it isn’t bright, likely no one will notice.

Still, if I were suggesting colors, I would go would nudes and light shades appropriate to skin tone.

Plenty of pale shades look awful on me, but many look fantastic. If you wanted a good nude, I would just ask the tech to suggest a good one for your coloring. They do nails all day, they know what works and what doesn’t.

Well I promised an update so here we have it. My goth, vampire, attention seeking nails. I think they are better than the bright pink and they also work for my city break next week.

You hussy

(I love them)

They are exactly the same colour as a friend wore to a funeral recently.

@ApolloandDaphne

Well I promised an update so here we have it. My goth, vampire, attention seeking nails. I think they are better than the bright pink and they also work for my city break next week.

Very nice. Suitable for any occasion .

Mine you, I thought the pink was fine too.