What would it take for you to never visit your adult DC again?

[Wookydook]

What would your adult DC have to do / change in their life for you to never visit their home again? Assuming you had been going to their house perhaps once a month/every 2 months. Discounting the pandemic and hypothetical transport issues - what would be a "deal breaker"?

I suppose if my child or their partner made me feel either unsafe or unwanted there, then it would make it very difficult to visit them.

What's happened there, OP?

Gosh, it would have to be physical harm I think. Or if they banned me from visiting for whatever reason?

I honestly don't know. I am the child the parent won't visit (but expects me to visit them), my 'crime' is living in a housing association house. I don't know what it would take for me not to want to visit my children, an awful lot I suppose.

This is going to be an annoying thread where the OP remains non-committal to maintain anonymity. Sorry!

I bought something a parent does not agree with/like. We were unaware that this item was so disliked/hated before we bought it.
Nothing illegal/unusual. Something about a quarter of UK households have.
So that was the deal breaker.

It's not that the parent was made feel unwelcome/uncomfortable. Nothing else changed.

Oh no we're all going to try and guess now! Was it a kitten?

Like bloodywhitecat but the opposite - parent still expects me to visit.

What did you buy?

We REALLY need to know what this item is!

A massive faux leather plastic sofa from China?

a hot tub?

To be fair, if you got a dog and your mum/dad is scared of dogs, or has a phobia of any kind that would be triggered by the thing you bought, it would be unreasonable to expect them to visit you.

A dishwasher? Have you got notions, there?

Leather sofa and chairs and they’re a militant vegan?
Dog and they believe it’s haraam?
Cat and they’re allergic?
Caged birds and they think it’s cruel?

A 57 year old man in just an apron who is now your live-in slave?

(Oh no, I’m guessing quarter of households don’t own one of these.. )

Is it Alexa and your parents think they're being spied on?

Depends entirely on what the item is.

As a young adult I didn't visit my mother for a few years because of her dog. I used to be very nervous around dogs and hers would bark and try to jump up on me the whole time I was there. She found my discomfort hilarious and refused to try to stop the dog or put it in another room. A couple of instances of this and I refused to go back.

Just 'you bought a dog, I don't like dogs' alone wouldn't have stopped me from visiting, though.

Robot hoover?

Rats
Snakes
Birds flying around the house
Awful partner
Drugs

Nudism

I’d never visit a child again if they were involved in child sexual abuse, child or animal cruelty, raped someone, hurt someone, deceived a vulnerable person. I’m sure there are other deal breakers but those are the first to occur to me. Buying something? Can’t imagine what if it is available from a normal retailer.

If there was something I was badly allergic to or something that was so unsafe I genuinely feared I would be injured.

Your parents are being ridiculous. I wouldn't be accommodating their bat crappery by going to visit them instead.

@Wookydook

This is going to be an annoying thread where the OP remains non-committal to maintain anonymity. Sorry!

I bought something a parent does not agree with/like. We were unaware that this item was so disliked/hated before we bought it.
Nothing illegal/unusual. Something about a quarter of UK households have.
So that was the deal breaker.

It's not that the parent was made feel unwelcome/uncomfortable. Nothing else changed.

This type of post drives me bonkers

I don't know whether to hide the thread out of annoyance, or watch it in the hope there is a wonderfully interesting reason that I can strongly agree or disagree with.

For me, something like child abuse images would be a deal breaker. Or more flippantly a free-roaming tarantula.

if 1/4 of UK households have it it's not outing at all.

Fess up. What did you buy?
Dog? Hot tub? Sex swing?

@0blio 😂😂😂

I'm guessing an Alexa?

My aunt and uncle have one and they invited another couple round for dinner and as soon as they noticed it they left