What would it take for you to never visit your adult DC again?

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What would your adult DC have to do / change in their life for you to never visit their home again? Assuming you had been going to their house perhaps once a month/every 2 months. Discounting the pandemic and hypothetical transport issues - what would be a "deal breaker"?

It is really not outing ifyou have bought a pet unless it's an illegal rare thing like a snow leopard cub smuggled from the Hindu Kush if 25 % have something it is not outing.
Like the DH HOBBIES if it is cycling golf or fishing it is not outing if DH is a bell ringer at Salisbury cathedral it is.

Things that would be deal breakers to visit their home being recorded constantly a dog or cat if I was scared or allergic, nudity
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think if you are scared of dogs it is reasonable to say I won't visit unless dog is out of the room if you don't feel you can do this when I visit don't feel able to visit but you are welcome to visit me without the dog or we can meet half way at a cafe etc

Is it an air (scented) purifier ?

Wind chimes?

Billy Bass fish?

Taxidermy?

Reborn baby?

C’mon OP.
Admit that you’ve bought a big dog that is bitey and barky and you just sit there saying ‘aww, isn’t he sweet?’.

I have a big dog but he’s put in another room when we have visitors unless they ask for him to be with us.

I suspect it’s more likely that you’re struggling financially and your parents are fed up of bailing you out and have decided that your latest purchase is the final straw.

Sex swing which is in the living room and replaces an armchair?

There’s something unbelievably annoying yet simultaneously touching about all these posters who believe that a detail of their life is unique enough to out them on an anonymous forum.

You could literally say that you’re the proud partner of a British male tennis player with a Wimbledon title and we’d still have to work out whether you were Kim or Alejandra. I really don’t think your purchase of a Sphynx cat is going to out you.

An illegal immigrant?

A Shetland pony who lives in the utility room?

We didn't visit my PIL's house for 12 years because they had a dangerous dog (that attacked us the last time we went) and they refused to do anything about it. The dog died (finally) a few month's ago so we were able to go there for the first time in 12 years.

micro pig who lives in the kitchen.

YANBU OP. If my DC had a got a free roaming tarantula knowing i didn't like spiders then I'd take the hint. Surely a normal pet is fine and as you say they could have said "Oh dear, i'm really uncomfortable around cats, is it possible you could pop it in another room when I come round?" then no problem.

If you've suddenly got a large aggressive dog I think i'd not be very comfortable either.

A tanning booth in your downstairs loo that is activated when the toilet is flushed?

An Elvis impersonator?

A swearing parrot?

We got a kitten. My mum detests cats with a passion. She still visits! DCat doesn't like her much either and they avoid each other. I can't think what I would have to do for her to refuse to visit. In fact, she's probably visit me to tell me why she wasn't going to be visiting me!

A dead parrot?

A Pat Butcher clock?

Snake

I would find it hard to stop seeing my adult child if they raped a child or something equally meaningfully awful. I couldn't get past it easily but for a pet of some kind, any kind, that is absolutely nuts!!

You hit the nail on the head, it is an excuse. It has to be, as you have offered to move said pet to a different room whilst they are there.

You have a whole backstory of bubbling resentment I am guessing that has spilled into irrationality about a pet. YANBU - your parents totally U.

There loss!

Be happy with said pet :)

(my brother did this about my dog, it turned out he was jealous of our new house and didn't need reminding about how lovely it was, so it was easier to stop coming -and the nagging and arguments on the way home about his lack of DIY commitment from SIL- it was easier to blame our dog rather than tell us he could happily murder me for being so happy, and that he has never managed to get over his sibling rivalry complex and probably needs therapy.

It is shit of your parents op.

Bearded Dragon? Aggressive breed of dog?

I'm guessing there's a bit of a back story to this.

Yes if my dd had a free range tarantula I wouldn't be visiting! But I would meet up elsewhere though.

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