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What would it take for you to never visit your adult DC again?

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Wookydook · 12/08/2021 14:31

What would your adult DC have to do / change in their life for you to never visit their home again? Assuming you had been going to their house perhaps once a month/every 2 months. Discounting the pandemic and hypothetical transport issues - what would be a "deal breaker"?

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BornIn78 · 12/08/2021 15:27

Are you that poster that had a thread a month or so ago, buying a dog, parents weren’t happy about it, probably because you can’t look after the kids you have without huge amounts of help from them, so they’d be understandably annoyed you’d being a dog into the mix.

Jerima · 12/08/2021 15:29

If they were smoking in there and refused not to in my presence, they could come to mine instead

mrssunshinexxx · 12/08/2021 15:33

Alexa?

ArchbishopOfBanterbury · 12/08/2021 15:34

Is it something you can shut off/put away while your parents are visiting?

DuckyMcDuck · 12/08/2021 15:35

Toilet Brush Grin

LimitIsUp · 12/08/2021 15:36

It's not outing to say what it is. Just say what it is! Hmm

HoppingPavlova · 12/08/2021 15:36

Well, who knows. Mahogany m also guessing dog and they are either allergic, don’t like them or feel you don’t discipline it. Nothing worse than going to someone’s house and having their huge dog stand with paws on your chest jumping up and down trying to lick your face with the owners going ‘awwww, they love you’. Even for a child’s house I’d think fuck that and not be back.

HoppingPavlova · 12/08/2021 15:38

*no wood involved in guesswork??? Just dodgy autocorrect. Also could be cat and dislike of cats rap dancing on kitchen benches, dining table etc?

HoppingPavlova · 12/08/2021 15:39

*ffs I give up. Another one, phone is on fire tonight - TAP dancing, although maybe Grincats also rap dance

RedBonnet · 12/08/2021 15:45

Nothing I can think of although I know two of my child-in-laws wouldn't want to visit if I got a (jumpy/barky/smelly/hairy) dog, although my kids themselves would

PhoboPhobia · 12/08/2021 15:50

My adult DD never has coffee at her place, I'm thinking of refusing to visit Grin

Lairymary · 12/08/2021 15:50

Microwave? Are they worried about radiation?

Redglitter · 12/08/2021 15:50

If its such a common item just say what it is for goodness sake Its hardly outing if so many people have it.

You can't expect people to be able to give a proper answer with half a story and the threads totally detailed with people guessing

allfurcoatnoknickers · 12/08/2021 15:51

@Wookydook Yeah, she told me last time she came (when DS was 3 weeks old Sad) that she wouldn't be visiting again ever.

I live somewhere nice and easy to get to too - East Coast of the US with many flights a day from Heathrow.

LimitIsUp · 12/08/2021 15:52

You sound as irritated as me Redglitter Grin

MajesticWhine · 12/08/2021 15:55

Dog makes sense so assume it's that. I guess if they really hate pets or are allergic it's not quite so unreasonable.

IsItWorthTheHassle · 12/08/2021 15:56

I can’t think of anything that my dcs would buy me that would make me stop visiting.
I’m sorry @Wookydook, but I think your parents are bonkers…

Vanishun · 12/08/2021 15:59

Theoretically? Anything that I had a massive phobia of I guess. Dogs mainly.

You'd hope that if something really bothered a loved one that you'd know about it and think twice before getting it.

chilliplant634 · 12/08/2021 16:00

It's probably a cat or a dog. Probably a dog. Yes it would put me off visiting and I would certainly not want to spend a lot of time there. Most dogs are not trained properly/poorly behaved because of their owners. I would prioritise my parents over a pet.

ancientgran · 12/08/2021 16:00

I am resisting visiting the home of one of my sons. He bought it 2 years ago. His 2nd wife won't have his children from first marriage in the house, she doesn't actually say that just lots of excuses and reasons why it can't happen. My position is I'm not going until the kids can go.

It is very hard, I love my son but am committed to supporting GC.

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Wookydook · 12/08/2021 16:00

Ok
I'm annoying, I get it.
The item in question is a pet. Think cat/dog not free-roaming tarantula/man-eating snake/troop of rats. So very mainstream.

Parent has never expressed like/dislike of this type of animal before. Has visited friends and family with these animals. No phobia/allergy. Has not asked for pet to be put in a different room when visiting. Just decided that was it.

Maybe said parent has been looking for an excuse not to visit and finally got one Grin

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Wookydook · 12/08/2021 16:03

Parent has a phobia of a different creature which I have known about all my life. Obviously if I got one of those I'd understand the refusal. Genuinely parent has never expressed a strong opinion about any other creature before.

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Candydreamer · 12/08/2021 16:03

I'm guessing a rabbit or a hamster. I'm not huge on either, but it wouldnt be enough for me to stop visiting.

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Wookydook · 12/08/2021 16:04

@allfurcoatnoknickers and @ancientgran
Two shocking stories there. So sad.

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stopringingme · 12/08/2021 16:05

A trampoline ?

But more likely a dog.

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