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14 yr old DS walked in on my DP naked, how do I handle this.

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StrawberryShortcakeAndTea · 09/08/2021 20:38

I’ve been with DP 5 years he’s quite and shy.
DS has gotten into the habit of knocking and walking straight into my bedroom when DP is out or in his office and he thinks I’m alone.

DS thought DP was out (he was about to go out, he had been getting ready to leave hadn’t left yet as we got ‘distracted’.
DP was completely undressed when DS knocked and immediately opened the door, I shouted and DP dashed into the bathroom but it was too late as he was literally stood right in full view of the door.

DS apologised and ran to his room
DP was embarrassed and furious, he got dressed straight away and left the house.
I went and told DS you never walk into someone’s room without knocking and waiting for a response he looked embarrassed but didn’t say anything.

How do I handle this.
My first instinct is to give DS a lecture about privacy and to brush it off as one of those things, but DP is shy and I know him, he will be really upset and embarrassed.

What can I do to make this less of an awful situation?

OP posts:
TheVolturi · 09/08/2021 20:40

Unless you were doing it or something then why make such a big deal? He's 14! He won't do it again!

BlaiseAnais · 09/08/2021 20:41

Seems like a huge over reaction for all involved.

Just forget about it.

Polmuggle · 09/08/2021 20:41

You have dealt with it, you've told him what to change. Just move on now, DS is embarrassed so don't make him feel worse.

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SnipSnipMrBurgess · 09/08/2021 20:41

Well he knows now to knock, what else is there to say about it? It's not the end of the world.

MackieMayor · 09/08/2021 20:41

Furious?

Crikey, it was an accident.

eurochick · 09/08/2021 20:41

Why was your partner furious? That seems like an extreme reaction.

dementedpixie · 09/08/2021 20:42

I think you all need to calm down
Your ds won't be so quick to walk in the room now

AndAllOurYesterdays · 09/08/2021 20:43

These things happen. I once inadvertently walked in on my FiL changing. These things happens. And it teaches you to check pretty quickly. No further action needed I'd say.

Ingloriousbasterd · 09/08/2021 20:43

Mountain out of a molehill? DP storming off seems a bit extreme....I imagine he doesn't need 'telling off', I doubt he'll be walking into a room without knocking again. X

Iusedtobesoooomuchfun · 09/08/2021 20:43

Embarrassing yes. But he won't do it again!

Mamette · 09/08/2021 20:43

But your DS is 14. Surely he would see similar in a gym or swimming pool changing room? What’s the big deal?

SummerHouse · 09/08/2021 20:44

This really is not a big deal. At all.

Have these chaps not used communal changing rooms? Or would they die of shame, embarrassment or rage.

CiderJolly · 09/08/2021 20:44

Yeah it’s been dealt with, dp will just need to get over it.

Holly60 · 09/08/2021 20:44

Jeez you all need to calm down. In my family this would cause much hilarity….

Palavah · 09/08/2021 20:45

You're overreacting.

Put a lock on your bedroom door. Simple.

IceLace100 · 09/08/2021 20:45

This is a very very British response to nudity... 🤣

Fgs it's just a human body!

Howshouldibehave · 09/08/2021 20:45

Distracted? Were you shagging?!

Your DS will knock next time won’t he! Your partner behaved like a twat though-getting furious and stomping out of the house because of an accidental visit by a kid in their own house-wow.

PostMenWithACat · 09/08/2021 20:45

I just can't see it as a big issue although I can see the inappropriateness where a step/non parent is concerned. In my view you just have to be matter of fact. What's been seen can't be unseen and I imagine your dp isn't dissimilar to any other man.

It's rather sad if he is so inhibited about his nakedness and that your ds is made to feel It's wrong.

Perhaps a boundary is required "knock and wait for someone to say enter in future".

I am sure it's a storm in a teacup or at least hope it is.

Coronawireless · 09/08/2021 20:45

GrinWhat exactly was the DP doing at the time?

NinetyNineRedBalloonsGoBy · 09/08/2021 20:45

I feel sorry for your ds tbh, it's very embarrassing for him to have the "my mum is having sex" news so blatantly revealed.

I have 3 teenage ds, we sometimes accidentally see each other naked - it's no big deal!

Your dp is an adult who has massively over reacted.

Go and apologise to your ds and show him the appropriate reaction to such a non-event.

Chocolatebuttercream · 09/08/2021 20:45

This sounds like a non-issue to me, it was an accident and it's not like a 14 year old doesn't know what a body looks like?!

In my household this would just be dealt with by both sides saying a quick sorry and a bit of a laugh about how embarrassing it was. End of story.

Pjtime · 09/08/2021 20:45

Your DP needs to get over it - someone saw him naked, yes he may be embarrassed but there’s no reason to be furious.

NinetyNineRedBalloonsGoBy · 09/08/2021 20:46

@Chocolatebuttercream

This sounds like a non-issue to me, it was an accident and it's not like a 14 year old doesn't know what a body looks like?!

In my household this would just be dealt with by both sides saying a quick sorry and a bit of a laugh about how embarrassing it was. End of story.

Yep, this 100%
CustardGoodJamGoodMeatGood · 09/08/2021 20:46

We'd laugh about this in my family. No need to tell him off, easier just to laugh it off and less embarrassing for both parties rather than making a big deal of it

Hercisback · 09/08/2021 20:47

The over reaction from your dp is concerning. Is he normally this hot headed?

Most people would laugh it off, not mention it for a few weeks then laugh about it.