14 yr old DS walked in on my DP naked, how do I handle this.

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I’ve been with DP 5 years he’s quite and shy.
DS has gotten into the habit of knocking and walking straight into my bedroom when DP is out or in his office and he thinks I’m alone.

DS thought DP was out (he was about to go out, he had been getting ready to leave hadn’t left yet as we got ‘distracted’.
DP was completely undressed when DS knocked and immediately opened the door, I shouted and DP dashed into the bathroom but it was too late as he was literally stood right in full view of the door.

DS apologised and ran to his room
DP was embarrassed and furious, he got dressed straight away and left the house.
I went and told DS you never walk into someone’s room without knocking and waiting for a response he looked embarrassed but didn’t say anything.

How do I handle this.
My first instinct is to give DS a lecture about privacy and to brush it off as one of those things, but DP is shy and I know him, he will be really upset and embarrassed.

What can I do to make this less of an awful situation?

Is it really that big a deal?

Maybe say to your son that he should wait a few seconds between knocking on the door and opening the door, to avoid this kind of thing. But your DP needs to get over it. Furious? His girlfriend's teen son saw him in the nip. No biggie.

What a fuss. Fancy driving off in a huff for a mistake.

Your Dp needs to get over it.

@IceLace100

This is a very very British response to nudity... 🤣

Fgs it's just a human body!

Yip!

DP is very shy, he won’t even walk around the house without a T-shirt on, I think he’s just very embarrassed.

We had just been intimate and he was, er, still, somewhat ‘happy’.
I think that is a big part of why it’s such an embarrassing situation for him.

Your dp has massively overreacted. You all live in a house together presumably.. A total accident and these things happen! My two regularly walk in on me dressed/undressed. Bodies are bodies innit!

I have no clue why this is a dramatic event. Nor why it needs handling.

You all need to calm the fuck down for a start.

You’re son is 14 not 5. If he feels embarrassed- well good. He won’t march in without knocking again in a hurry will he. I don’t think you need to say anything else. He gets it now, I’m sure!

Why has your DP left the house? I can see why he’d be a bit annoyed but storming off it very OTT. He may be a private person but he’s also an adult who shares a house with a teen. And, let’s face it, terns aren’t generally known for their good sense and boundaries. I’d be concerned he’s making such a big deal out of it tbh.

What an over reaction 🙄🙄😒

Actually as well, it's really unfair on the DS if you take your DO's side and tell him off for an accident. You have allowed him to do this 'knock-and-enter' thing so don't suddenly blame him, it's important that he feels you are not ganging up against him with his step-dad, that won't be good for family relations.

I really don’t think you should have sex during the day when you’re kids can walk in, seems a bit inappropriate tbh.

You need to brave it out. And use the terminology to take the emotion out of it. Your DP had an erection, I'm sure most boys at the age of 14 at least knows what they are! 😂

How do I handle this

Handle what?

There is nothing to handle

There was a minor accidental incident.

It happens in most families at one stage or another

forget it

I would get a lock on your door.

If your DS is in the habit of walking in there is every chance he could have seen much more than your naked DP.

Although I imagine this was enough to teach him to knock and wait in future.

Your DP will just have to get over it.

OK just seen your update. So your 14 year old DS had reason to believe your DP had gone out, but instead you're having sex in the day in a room with no lock. Your poor poor DS is probably mortified and he is definitely not the one in the wrong here. You and DP need to apologise to him.

I agree with User1471, but I am hoping we are both wrong here.

How come you told your DS you never walk into someone’s room if you have been allowing it? Unless you have told him not too every single time. Then all you need to say is that’s why I’ve been telling you not to walk in.

Otherwise this is on you for allowing it to continue and it was a mistake on your DS part. I don’t understand why your DP was furious. Unless your DS has been repeatedly told not to.

Massive, massive overreaction from your DP. I would save my lecture for him, not your DS.

I don’t think you need to say anything else to your son. I’m sure having walked in on DP naked will be lesson enough and I imagine he’ll wait for an answer before entering your room again. Sometimes things like this are the best way to learn a lesson!

As for your DP you can tell him you’ve spoken to your so and suggest a lock on your door if that makes him more confortable. Other than that nothing else should need to be done. If he is really shy etc that’s on him to work through and not your sons problem.

Get a lock if he could have walked in on shagging fgs.

I agree your poor son. He needs a hug and bleach for his eyes!! (Joke)

Your husband not walking around with his t-shirt off and your son accidentally walking in are won’t related. One is his issues/choice the other was a mistake. Your son will not do it again.

You need to lock the door when you're having sex. I dont think your son will do this again and I can see why dp was embarrassed but you are the adults here and should have made sure you were private.

Tiny bit of a drip feed there op! Get a bloody lock on the door.

not related

If you aren’t willing to risk being seen naked by your partners children then perhaps don’t stay over at their house when the children are there or make sure you only get changed behind a locked door.

I’m sure you DS has learnt why it’s important to wait after knocking but it really shouldn’t be an issue