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DP in hospital. Reassure me he’ll be ok.

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icecreamgirl94 · 16/07/2021 23:42

DP had his appendix out on Sunday, home Monday and recovering well, posted a thread at the time which some people might have seen. This morning he woke me at 6 saying he didn’t feel good but he couldn’t explain how exactly. I thought he was just half asleep and painkillers were wearing off so I just cuddled him till he went back to sleep. Reading that back I’m aware of how stupid it sounds. When I woke up properly a bit later though he was sweaty and breathing funny. Now he’s in hospital and they’re saying it’s sepsis. I don’t understand how this has happened when he was recovering so well. He even went out and saw a mate yesterday. I’ve just been sat at home all day not knowing what to do with myself and waiting for news which hasn’t come. I don’t want to go to bed because he’s not there. Not sure I’ve even posted this in the right place I just wanted a bit of reassurance.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 16/07/2021 23:48

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Sending thoughts and strength. They’ll look after him.

AvaCallanach · 16/07/2021 23:51

He's in the best possible place and you got him in fast. Sending you good wishes Flowers

Redwinestillfine · 16/07/2021 23:54

Just wanted to say we're here for a hand hold. The human body is an amazing machine and he is where he can get the best help. If you can't sleep can you do something to take your mind off it? Maybe sort aome stuff out to take into hospital for him while they sort his antibiotic regime out.

DwangelaForever · 16/07/2021 23:54

Sending you love Flowers my mum had sepsis at Christmas a few years ago and it's so scary to be where you are with a loved on having it and not knowing, but he is in the right place and Dr's will take care of him now!

SweetPetrichor · 16/07/2021 23:55

He’s in the best place, they’ll look after him. Try to get some sleep and look after yourself. Hopefully he makes a speedy recovery.

cakeandchampagne · 16/07/2021 23:55

Flowers Best wishes for your husband’s health. Try to get some sleep.

Airplanes · 16/07/2021 23:59

My partner had his appendix out but it had burst and the intestine had torn. He hovered on borderline sepsis for a week. A CT scan showed an abscess on his liver positioned in such a way it would be very difficult to drain. After a lot of antibiotics and a long recovery he was (and is) fine.

Going from a routine operation to such a serious condition was terrifying so I really feel for you. He will be getting IV antibiotics now so I have everything crossed that he responds as dp did

TheDuchessofDukeStreet · 16/07/2021 23:59

Hello, ice cream girl. I’m a nurse. I hope this doesn’t sound obvious but he’s in absolutely the right place. He will have been given I v fluids and antibiotics, had blood cultures taken to make sure the latter are the right ones, and I v paracetamol to help with the temperature and pain. Also oxygen if he needs it. I have seen patients with infections respond rapidly and well to antibiotics and feel better. Do feel free to give the ward a ring and ask to speak to his nurse. Find out when handover and drug round is and avoid those times. Does he have his phone with him? Could you text? I really feel for you, my partner was in hospital with Covid earlier this year and I was sitting at home, terrified. Thankfully he got better and is home.
I’m sending you positive thoughts and good wishes. X

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TheDuchessofDukeStreet · 17/07/2021 00:03

Oh, and look after yourself so you will be strong enough to help him when he comes home. I stopped eating for a while and lived off smoothies, milk etc. Take care.

RJnomore1 · 17/07/2021 00:04

Hello, I had sepsis in 2007 and they didn’t realise for 5 days so I was very ill and very lucky but once they did the antibiotics were like magic. They’ve got to him much quicker and I’m sure he is already improving.

Can you rest? He won’t have much energy and he will need you to have some x

Xiaoxiong · 17/07/2021 00:07

I had sepsis when my appendix burst 3 weeks after an emergency c-section - they didn't realise for 2 days and thought I had gastroenteritis or some kind of pain relating to the section. Once they got me in and got me hooked up to antibiotics I remember feeling better so quickly.

He's in the right place, they will figure it out and give him everything he needs. Hope he gets well soon Thanks

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icecreamgirl94 · 17/07/2021 00:11

Thank you all so much for the messages, it’s much appreciated. I just needed some kind of reassurance. I did ring the ward earlier and was told they’re giving him antibiotics but that was all they could really tell me and was a while ago now but I don’t want to keep ringing and being a pain. He has his phone but hasn’t answered calls or replied to messages.
@Airplanes thank you for the reassurance. I’m glad your partner recovered well. DP’s didn’t burst but was very close by the time we got him to hospital.
@TheDuchessofDukeStreet thank you so much for sending a message with so much info, it’s so kind of you. I’m so sorry you’ve been in a similar position, glad your partner is better now.
Really wasn’t expecting this especially as he’s seemed to bounce back from the operation so quick.

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CurryLover55 · 17/07/2021 01:26

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lobsterkiller · 17/07/2021 06:17

Hope you all have some good news today.

olympicsrock · 17/07/2021 06:26

OP he will be fine honestly. Not uncommon to have infection after appendicitis. He will be absolutely fine and is in the best place possible.

SimonJT · 17/07/2021 06:44

He’ll be okay, it isn’t that uncommon after having your appendix removed.

I had sepsis after mine and infection in thr surgery site, so I had to have an open packed wound to slowly heal, rather than stitching again. Once the antibiotics kicked in I felt so much better. It did make me very tired for about 8 weeks, so even if he feels fit and well he’ll need to take it easy until his body has fully recovered.

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icecreamgirl94 · 17/07/2021 09:24

Thank you so much everyone, I had no idea this was so common, you just hear sepsis and think the worst! I’ve spoken with the ward who’ve told me he’s on oxygen and not to expect to hear from him personally st the moment so I’m trying not to panic about that. He’s literally never ill, he barely Even gets cold & flu. It’s so scary to see him like this, he’s 27, 6 foot 2, plays football every weekend, sorry for rambling he’s just the last person I’d expect to get ill like this.

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Shehasadiamondinthesky · 17/07/2021 09:28

I've had sepsis before OP, my appendix burst and filled my abdomen with gunk and I was very seriously ill - this was back in 1967 so there were not the sophisticated treatments there are today, I died on the operating table, I was 5. However here I am today at 60 still going strong.
I work in the NHS podiatry department and send around one or two people to hospital every week with sepsis usually people with diabetes. I haven't lost one yet.
It's serious but with the right treatment there is no reason he should not be fine. Let us know.

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icecreamgirl94 · 17/07/2021 09:37

@Shehasadiamondinthesky thanks so much for sharing that, any reassurance right now is so appreciated. I’m blaming myself for not getting him to hospital quicker both last week and yesterday. We both just thought he had a stomach bug but because he’s never had one before he couldn’t really convey to me just how bad the pain was for me to realise it was serious. Thank you so so much for saying you haven’t lost a patient, it’s making me cry but it’s so good to hear. Thank you.

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Shehasadiamondinthesky · 17/07/2021 09:43

Don't worry it's not your fault, even I have trouble spotting sepsis sometimes and I've worked in the NHS for 40 years.

Airplanes · 17/07/2021 10:03

You can't blame yourself for not noticing. When dp had appendicitis he had a bit of pain for a few days which ramped up when his appendix burst. I don't think it's clear cut to see at all and if your partner didn't know, how could you?

My partner also never gets ill so it really shook me to see him so bad but once he had the stronger antibiotics he came home and after a month or so was back to himself.

Hearing the word sepsis is horrible though, I didn't realise how common it was and just thought about all the worst case scenarios but that putrid man is in the living room now with our daughter playing Lego.

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icecreamgirl94 · 17/07/2021 10:20

@Airplanes thank you so so much for messaging again, your experience and the fact you’re out the other side is just what I need to hear right now. I’d give anything to say DP was here playing with our baby again. I’m blaming myself because he did tell me he was in pain I just didn’t realise how bad it was until he was literally crying, I feel terrible for making him suffer like that. I keep replaying yesterday morning in my head as well but I really don’t think there were any signs that something was wrong until he was breathing funny which I think is what woke me up. Thank you so much for replying, I always just expect to be told to get off mumsnet and stop being silly! My dad is looking after the baby so I need to try and find something to focus on and not sit around worrying.

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Hen2018 · 17/07/2021 10:29

There were no definite signs with my son either, until he suddenly lay down and started talking gibberish! He’d said he felt ill with a headache and backache during the day, then was sick. I ran him a bath and in the half hour between getting out of the bath and the ambulance arriving, I though his time was up.

He was very ill for 6 hours (in resus) then woke up. He was in hospital for 5 days but no problems since then. He had no appetite for ages, which seems a normal thing after sepsis.

Airplanes · 17/07/2021 11:28

I actually thought dp was faking at one point. I made the mistake of telling him about 6 months after which he's never let me live down. My mom has a similar story about when my dad had kidney stones. You aren't as bad as me Grin

There is no way to tell with another adult how much pain they're really in.